Hello, I apologize in advance if I have spelling mistakes, but I write from the phone and it's a little difficult for me. So starting with the topic, I made a huge mistake, which has been eating me from the inside for three days now, and as I guess you can guess from the title that I slept with a married man who has two children and that killed me. In principle, I have nothing to do with this man, we know each other recently, it was just one sex for me, one night of fun, I had nothing more and the idea that he is married, I'm 21, and he's 30, anyway, we both came out with a clear idea what are we going to do and he took me to a hotel, which surprised me a lot, but I decided that he wanted to be calmer, whatever happened, I went home and went out with friends, and I shared with one that I had a great evening. and bam she tells me the news. and the problem is that I was having fun for one night I don't have a family, I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends that instead to sit and look after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head and he keeps looking for me and keeps he comes where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish, that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I didn't such a person's conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... I don't have a friend, but I felt like complete rubbish, that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and he probably lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I didn't such a person's conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and most likely he lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting to look after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super many and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that this woman was waiting for him to come home for 2 hours and most likely he lied to her that he was going out with friends, that instead of sitting and looking after his children he went after other women and I'm not such a person my conscience bites me super many and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met.
On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that instead of sitting looking after his children, he went after other women and I'm not such a person, my conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and he keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt .... that instead of sitting looking after his children, he went after other women and I'm not such a person, my conscience bites me very much and 3 days after this incident I can't find a place and that's all in my head, and he keeps looking for me and he keeps coming to where I work because that's where we met. On the one hand I want to tell his wife because we are a small town I know her, but I know that this will ruin a family and two children will live with separated parents on the other hand if I keep quiet he will continue to do these things whether with me or another will go on and I don't really know how to escape this guilt ....
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For me, there is nothing fairer than telling his wife, of course she will not believe you, but your conscience will be clear. He lied to her, he lied to you, what did you think about his family and children, wasn't it right for him to think before he invited you to a hotel. It is this sense of guilt and shame that the rapists rely on - he raped you not in the literal sense, but he lied to you and the police (his wife) must know about it, otherwise his "rapes" will continue. How do you think your girlfriend knows about him, it is very likely that she also sipped his potpourri, but was silent on the same motives as you. You have not committed a crime and you have nothing to be ashamed of, but the pezeveng deserves neither his family, nor his wife, nor his children - what will you spare him, and maybe you are afraid ???