Hello, 4 years ago my friend left me, decided that I was not for him. More than a year and a half later, I wandered off until I started dating my current boyfriend. He's not a bad boy, but he's pretty frivolous and I can't count on him, he doesn't make any plans for the future and I don't know if he will ever propose marriage to me at all. We fight and argue a lot, but I still know that he loves me, and I have feelings for him. I saw my ex-boyfriend a few months ago. As soon as he saw me and met my gaze, I saw in his eyes that he still had feelings for me. Obviously, I can't mistake that look. We saw each other 3 times and I even introduced him to my current friend. Then he left because he lives abroad. As soon as we met, he told me how it didn't work out for him and he couldn't build a relationship. He started writing to me more often and even calling me. Once, as if jokingly, he offered me to try again, and from then on, he started doing all sorts of calculations on how to make sure we see each other and how to put things in order and change my life completely. He suggested that I go to him first on an excursion and then we would see. I love excursions, and my current boyfriend can hardly get him to go somewhere even for a day. And my ex offers me a great exotic trip, which I have been dreaming of since I was a child. Really irresistible proposal, but I'm not like that. I can't agree. The truth is that I have no feelings for him or they have disappeared or are hidden somewhere inside my heart and I can't determine. Rather, I have feelings of compassion and pity for him, I find it hard to look at him sad, but in the end he chose this, he left me. We've had a lot of quarrels with my current boyfriend in recent months, and sometimes I really feel like dropping everything here and running where I'm invited and where I'm wanted, but I don't know if they'll do the same to me and leave me. I don't know what to do. I don't want to go on a trip just to go on a trip, I don't want to deceive the former and hurt the current one. I could only go on a trip and see what will happen and decide, but it's not fair to the former, and he obviously expects something else, he expects us to get together. Some time ago, when we were together, we had an exciting trip to a distant country. I don't know how to do, on the one hand, the tempting trip that I would hardly ever make on my own, on the other hand, my current friend, who will hardly be able to persuade us to ever go somewhere. On the third hand, the former who claims to love me and that he made a mistake and offers me a settled life and maybe even a wedding and children, on the fourth hand the current friend, who will hardly ever decide on a wedding and children, although in the beginning very he wanted. I am very confused. The mind sends me to the former, because there are many more chances to have a family and children, there is also a desire for these things, and my heart holds me to the present, with whom I do not see a common future given all our conversations about it. I don't know if I love the current one enough or I'm just used to him and I'm attached, and I can't judge the former either, but I judge whether I love him or just sympathize with him. It's so hard to decide. On the one hand, with the former everything will be settled and I will not miss anything, we have common interests in excursions. On the other hand, with the current one, everything seems so difficult and slow to achieve, mostly because it is very indecisive and we have big discrepancies regarding my desire to diversify my daily life. It is difficult for a person to decide when he is offered such a wonderful offer, so tempting and desirable, but whether it is the right choice or a temptation that he will later regret for a lifetime. Or vice versa, he will regret the missed opportunity. I don't know the bad thing is that the years go by, I'm already over 30, I already want a family and children who are a mirage with my current friend, and my ex has been dreaming about this for a long time now, because he's older. Still, I've been with my current boyfriend for more than 2 years, I'm used to him and although he makes me very angry sometimes I love him and I wouldn't do bad things to him. I want to stay here in my homeland, I don't want to go to the other side of the world to live. Even if I have difficulties here and can't achieve all my dreams, I'd rather do that than go somewhere for a dream and then regret it and be abandoned again (not that the current one can't decide to leave me). And when you think about it now, the ex seems to set a goal and doesn't give up until he achieves it, and then he quickly gets tired and gives up, so I don't know what to expect from him, having a bitter experience with him. And the current friend doesn't set any goals, and doesn't make plans, which I don't like very much, but at least for now I don't think he would leave me. I needed to pour out what she had been doing for two months and it didn't give me peace. I will be happy if you give me some advice. than to go somewhere for a dream and regret it later and be abandoned again (not that the current one can't decide to leave me). And when you think about it now, the ex seems to set a goal and doesn't give up until he achieves it, and then he quickly gets tired and gives up, so I don't know what to expect from him, having a bitter experience with him. And the current friend doesn't set any goals, and doesn't make plans, which I don't like very much, but at least for now I don't think he would leave me. I needed to pour out what she had been doing for two months and it didn't give me peace. I will be happy if you give me some advice. than to go somewhere for a dream and regret it later and be abandoned again (not that the current one can't decide to leave me). And when you think about it now, the ex seems to set a goal and doesn't give up until he achieves it, and then he quickly gets tired and gives up, so I don't know what to expect from him, having a bitter experience with him. And the current friend doesn't set any goals, and doesn't make plans, which I don't like very much, but at least for now I don't think he would leave me. I needed to pour out what she had been doing for two months and it didn't give me peace. I will be happy if you give me some advice. and then he seems to get tired of it quickly and gives up, so I don't know what to expect from him, having a bitter experience with him. And the current friend doesn't set any goals, and doesn't make plans, which I don't like very much, but at least for now I don't think he would leave me. I needed to pour out what she had been doing for two months and it didn't give me peace. I will be happy if you give me some advice. and then he seems to get tired of it quickly and gives up, so I don't know what to expect from him, having a bitter experience with him. And the current friend doesn't set any goals, and doesn't make plans, which I don't like very much, but at least for now I don't think he would leave me. I needed to pour out what she had been doing for two months and it didn't give me peace. I will be happy if you give me some advice.
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Author - you decide, but I do not know a person who, choosing the material over Love, has remained happy. Otherwise - your ex uses the oldest hooks of men - the material and the promise of family. So a lot of men lie to women, and women are too stupid to get caught, but in the end they only get humiliated and a healthy h ... no. Why did he dump you in time, he thought? Ok, even if the things he promises you come true. What does the essence want you for - you are his backup option - he has tried women he really wanted and you are like the boyfriend in the drawer who knows how to manipulate so that he falls, so that he is not alone and has an incubator for your children. Do you think that he will ever respect you and trust you? So you become a pure traitor and a light woman who has sold herself for a trip and a promise. Yes, you will choose the light and the soft at first sight, but I advise you to be skeptical, because a large part of our emigrants abroad live miserably there as well. Not to mention that you will not have the right to work (at least in the beginning) - and he will quickly look to make you children and you will become his hostage and slave, because where will you go? You will have nothing in the foreign country / maybe without language /, you will not have anyone, and you will not be able to feed your children without it - even if you travel without it. You know him, you've been with him for 4 years - imagine being completely in the power of this man for the next 40 ??? Tip - dear girls, do not be fooled by sweet promises of an easy life abroad. Family and children should not be an end in themselves, because they can bind us to a cruel and even abnormal man for life. Think a thousand times before you turn your back on love for the sake of the material. Think a thousand times before you dump the man who respects you for the one who has humiliated you in the past. Children and family can also become hell for the one who is committed to a man who does not love and respect her and is 100% DEPENDENT on him. Each break lasts a certain period of time, then ends and real life begins. The golden cell is also a cell. People who promise the sea and the stars usually do not intend to give anything, so it is easy to make such a promise - a promise in which you know that you will take more than you actually have to give. Each break lasts a certain period of time, then ends and real life begins. The golden cell is also a cell. People who promise the sea and the stars usually do not intend to give anything, so it is easy to make such a promise - a promise in which you know that you will take more than you actually have to give. Each break lasts a certain period of time, then ends and real life begins. The golden cell is also a cell. People who promise the sea and the stars usually do not intend to give anything, so it is easy to make such a promise - a promise in which you know that you will take more than you actually have to give.