Please advice, the situation is very strange. I am a 26-year-old woman, supported and liked by men. Half a year ago, I ended a four-year relationship with a much older man, in which we even got engaged. I realized that he was cheating on me, I immediately packed my bags and moved out. I had nowhere to go, I stayed with a friend for a few days, but I had to solve the housing issue quickly. I didn't have much money. Well, I came across an ad in which a man was looking for a roommate. I went for an inspection, I liked the place, the price was reasonable. He looked like a good boy to me, 32, intelligent. I didn't have many options and applied immediately. At first it didn't make much of an impression on me. Everyone sat in the room, sometimes someone cooked, we dined together and drank beer, but most of the time everyone went about their business. He didn't come home much, he was somewhere every night after work. He was seeing a girl in the beginning, but he told me it didn't work out. It struck me that he was an intelligent man with a sense of humor. I told him about the problems with the ex, he listened to me and managed to cheer me up. I began to become attached to him as a good friend. A few times I saw him only in boxers and it turned out that he has a pretty good body - normal, active sports. He made me laugh as we talked.
Otherwise, it was obvious that he was looking at me, but he was not doing anything - obviously the situation was strange for him as well. I supposedly accepted him as a friend, but at one point I felt that I was fantasizing about him and something was going on inside me. I said to myself, "nonsense, you're just roommates with him." One evening, three months after I moved in with him, we were pouring wine and talking as usual - friendly. However, by the time I realized I had been drinking more. We started laughing, hanging out. He grabbed me by the waist and kissed me. I felt that I wanted it too. We ended up in his room, and the sex wasn't bad at all. The next day I was resting and he had gone out to work without realizing it. All day I wondered if it would be awkward and how we would continue from here on, what to tell him when he got home. However, he solved the problem for me. He didn't come home until after 10, came to me and hugged me. He reached out to kiss me. I wanted to talk, but he just said "then" and dragged me back to bed. And so we have been for three months now. We sleep together, we have sex almost every night. It seems to him that I am super happy. The problem is that it doesn't behave like a relationship. On the one hand, he is very kind to me, we talk, we laugh, he makes small gestures for me. Cook me, give me massages, hug me.
On the other hand, however, he goes out again as before where and when he wants. I have no idea when he'll be home after work. I don't want him to give me an account, but at least I have an idea. And he doesn't ask me where I am and what I do. And he still wants money for my bills, which is not a problem for me. And he never asked me where I was, what I was doing, if I would be late. I felt bad, one night I went out with a friend of mine, we went to a disco. There I uploaded photos on Facebook with this boy. And the next day the roommate acted as if he hadn't seen them. It may not really be. I've tried to talk to him about our relationship, but he just says, "Let's not complicate things, let's enjoy what we have." I asked him "well, can any of us lead other people if he sees someone ...". He laughed and said, " if you love threesomes, you can. "But the truth is, he hasn't led anyone since he broke up with his girlfriend. I once told him I wanted to end this. He only said," if you feel this is best for you, so be it. We remain friends. "It was like this for a few days, until I came home drunk one night and, as usual, went to bed with him ... Two weeks ago I had RD. He gave me a great surprise.
He came with a big bouquet of flowers, he told me," We're leaving tomorrow morning. Take me for a weekend in Greece, in a very beautiful place. We held hands on the beach, hugged, had sex. We were like a real couple. But when we came back, he started to he drives it on his own - he goes out, comes home drunk sometimes and cuts all attempts to ask him at all, even unobtrusively. And he doesn't ask me - even if I leave for three days, he won't think to inquire. He says he "respects my privacy." And when he took me to meetings, he introduced me as a roommate, not as a friend. But I'm very happy with it. Please tell me what to do.
1 mxtressrose answered
You're just comfortable, nothing more, take comfort in the thought that a hell of a lot of people give it away like you - they're just comfortable