Hello, I am 29 years old. I haven't been in love and relationships for a long time. I was recently sent on a business trip to London, where I met a Frenchman. He came to me on the street while looking at his map and wondered for an hour how to find a street. At first I looked super weird, but there it is generally so - they come directly and talk, not like in Bulgaria to be passive, to court them and to feel like a man. We went for a walk, drank a cocktail, then went to a second bar and I went home. We spent at least 4 hours together and it was very nice and casual. When I found out she had a high school education, I was super skeptical and didn't want to have a relationship. He invited me to see him. However, we went out a few times, and I was super frivolous. The first time I was 40 minutes late for the meeting, he was waiting for me calmly and when he saw me he said that I looked great and it was worth the wait. The second time it was like that again. Before we left London we had sex, I had refused him at least three times before and he no longer seemed to believe that it would ever happen. But that's how I felt. When I returned to Bulgaria, I suddenly totally missed him. In my opinion, it is because of the sex that brought us closer and the barriers totally fell. We started writing to each other regularly, I kept talking to him super kindly and he to me. We talked on the phone. I'm not very obsessive, he also doesn't keep anyone available to me every day, and we don't see each other all the time. I felt happy and did not think about what would happen. A month later he came to Bulgaria to see me and we spent 4 days at sea. We had a great time. After the sea he went with friends to Turkey again at sea and changed completely. He stopped paying so much attention to me and we wrote to each other often. At first I didn't notice. But once something happened that made me think. I complained to him on the phone and said I had to hang up, but I would call in a minute. I called a minute later and he hung up. I was spinning like that for half an hour and then I wrote, I'll call you in an hour ... Since then our relations have been getting worse. I am an open person. I told him directly that I miss him, he misses me by not keeping in touch, otherwise I am very happy that he is with friends and having fun. In our last serious conversation, he suddenly said that he wanted to hear from us once a week, not every day, and that I should come and visit him in London. Which is kind of like a sex friendship, not a relationship. What do you think is the reason for the total change in his behavior? What he explained to me is that so far he has not had a long distance connection, that he does not like communication only by phone and prefers live. But he only invited me to come for the weekend and said he wanted us to hand it out more slowly. It strikes me that when I treat men humiliatingly and play them (I don't do it on purpose, I just didn't like that he had a high school education and I didn't look at him seriously in the beginning), as they really do with him in our first meetings. on me, and when I'm serious, they don't want to look at me.
1 brassaticlitome answered
I don't think he loves you, otherwise I see no other reason for such behavior on his part. Although I am a man, I do not have a good opinion of the French - both for women and men. They seem cold and artificial.