Why shouldn't the internet be? On the contrary, don't be pessimistic... I met my saprug on the internet, and all my friends are like that. You have to be patient just... Because over the internet, you're going to run into all kinds of people... But there are a lot of decent and decent ones from them. G28
It's complicated, and the answer is nowhere. It's a matter of happy coincidence if it happens. The internet is very much not recommended, you will only be disgusted by the men. Over the years, the social circle narrows a lot and when you look around - old maids or all are in pairs. You can be patient and be prepared that you can and always be alone. Being with the right man is very lucky, and not everyone's going to get a lottery.
Divorced, 46. Alone. And I'm not complaining about it!
You know, the more you look for this man, the less likely you will meet him. And the more you pay attention to your own pleasures, comfort, soulful coziness and feminine whims, the greater the risk of not being able to get rid of candidates. The explanation is purely psychological. The woman who is self-sufficient and demonstrates this is a challenge. The man says, "Oh, I'm going to melt this ice queen who thinks she can do it without me!" " And the thirsty, eye-seeker who meets the lonely woman, scares him with his vulnerability. The thought that passes him is: "No, I don't want to engage in other people's problems. I don't need a helpless creature that will parasitize emotionally on my life.' I, the author, am not claiming that you are such a "helpless being", I am just trying to assemble before your eyes the construction of male thinking. I've been through a divorce, too. At the age of 43, I met my current husband. Rather, he met me, and it was not easy for him to get my attention, because after the divorce I led a fairly active professional and social life - a lot of work, but also a lot of fun, commitments, but also dozens of friends, trips, hobbies, sports - all my time was consumed by all sorts of activities. I was so comfortable with myself that I didn't even notice the courtship of men or rather not be there for them. I was just enjoying my freedom and autonomy. Some men gave up with the stupid idea that they just had nothing to offer me, others stayed to gravitate hopelessly around me, a third played va bank and offered me a marriage, but here is one - the smartest, with a lot of tact and strategy, managed to break through my guard and fall in love with myself. Then he told me that the very idea of winning such an independent woman was stronger than sexual attraction to me. So, dear author, stand right in front of the mirror, look at yourself nicely and realize that the person you need to meet is looking at you across the street. Meet yourself, make friends with yourself, fall in love with yourself. In a word: get up in the sun and everyone will see you!
Author, I don't think you should turn off the internet. Yes, it's full of jerks, and you're going to have to kiss a lot of frogs until you find the prince. But tell me, where isn't it? It's just that people are different.
Two years ago, I was blown away not finding a soul mate. And I decided at one point to set aside the criteria temporarily and hang out with various women - from the internet, from bars and discos, to former colleagues. I signed up in a foreign language and cooking, and that's where I met girls. And dancing. I've been on a date with at least 10 new women a month. I even dated people who aren't my type. I'd told myself at least two dates, even if I didn't like it. With a few of them, I got to sex, and we kept seeing each other after that. But there was a benefit. I got to know a lot of people. And I understood a lot of things about myself - what I like and what not in a woman. And my current girlfriend and I met on Tinder. Almost a joke. We went out a couple of times, it was nice to meet you, we kept seeing each other. And we matched up really well. So, my advice is- give the men a chance. From different places. You don't have to go to bed with everyone, just get to know them and decide.
Success!
Author, as other commenters tell you, don't turn off the internet, on the contrary it even gives you a lot more opportunities than in real life. You just have to learn to judge people there properly and sift in just like in real life. After a few chats and phone calls, reviewing the Facebook account relatively easily can be judged on what kind of person is opposite, you just need to gain a little experience. I also met my wife on the Internet as well as many other friends and acquaintances, so act. Success.
He's got a lot of happy relationships after a divorce. It just shouldn't be at all costs, because that suggests the drowning man clings to the first straw, even if he sees that he's going to drag him to the bottom.
Everywhere you can meet a partner - and on the Internet (just there is a needle in a haystance, but I have acquaintances with marriages after acquaintance in the virtual space), and at various courses, qualifications, conferences, trainings, sports activities, dancing, etc. n. Grab hold of something you like or interesting to you. That's where you'il meet new people like you. Even if he's not the man you're looking for, maybe these people can introduce you to him. The important thing is to have new acquaintances and everything will work out.
Keep your head up! :)
G30
And I should join the general choir - the internet is not at all to be ignored, I would even say that it is a much more convenient place to meet than going on courses, fitness classes, clubs, etc. I'm saying more conveniently because you're planning your own time, you're not tied to an hour, a team, a transport. I agree with the statements before me and on the basis of personal experience I will confirm that it simply should not be rushed and everything done at all costs. I don't see a problem dating people who have intrigued you in some way with talking on the net, that doesn't mean going to bed with everyone you've had coffee with twice. Personally, I'm not into quick encounters, I'd even say that I'm being pushed away by people who get pushed away - I'd rather find out that with my new acquaintance there's something to say, if the on-net conversation doesn't work out, it can't work out in a live date. You already have enough personal experience to be able to judge people, you don't have to make your choices, you don't need someone to guide and mentor you, just relax, forget that you're on your own right now - that's now, that's at this point, but soon it will change if you let more different people by your side.
For the child also do not worry, no one has said that today you meet someone, and tomorrow you live on a matrimonial basis - children are different, but in general they are very tolerant of the choices of their divorced parents, it is enough that the emerging person does not intrude on them, they do not feel left behind by appearing, but for the fact that they will love it for the not to be fooled.
After all, it seems, it all comes down to not turning into an idea to find a new partner in life, your task is to show that you have a worthwhile person, and the right person will find you and appreciate you yourself - you have to be ready, not have given up and hit it already through the beggar.
This is my experience of ten years of relationship after a failed marriage - we do not talk about marriage, we do not live together (for objective reasons), but we know our children, our children know each other, we do everything together, we have enough time for ourselves, and for this the credit is on the net.
Thanks for the answers and advice! I'm sorry if I gave the impression that I was looking for a relationship at all costs. Not so, even on the contrary. I had a pretty hard marriage and divorce after that. The recovery took me a while, too, but I got over it. I've definitely become more deceitful, and yet my child is not completely alone yet. I don't have an active social life that I'd like, but I'm not completely closed. I have girlfriends, I go out for coffee, a movie, mountains, I go to conferences.
Regarding the Internet - I did not exclude it completely, but there, as number 6 commented is a needle in a hayst cry. From my small experience, it has impressed me that men over 40 are looking for a partner for sex (80% of them) or a younger woman to become the mother of their children. There is a third group - they do not accept divorced women with children, even if they have them. All this is normal - everyone has a right to an opinion and people are different, so I mentioned in my first post that this is not the right place for me. I'm not saying there are no valuable people.
I totally agree with the opinion of number 7. I'm not into fast dating either, and I definitely wouldn't go to bed with everyone I've had coffee with twice. I'm very fond of intellect, communication and mutual attraction.
I'm divorced, but no children. Things happened on the internet. Online, I met a lovely man, we started writing, then we went out, had coffee, talked all night, then again... and we've been together for two years. Now we're working on the issue of a baby. So don't rush to say NO to online dating. Just be careful and don't make a decision until you see and get to know the man live.
Unfortunately, there's not always a happy ending, but it shouldn't despair you. I'm in a three-year relationship myself after a divorce.
My advice is to look at yourself, to live your life, and if it's meant to be, he'il ever show up, somewhere.
Author
Maybe it's wrong to bother you again, but the truth is, I still have feelings for this man I mentioned in my first post. I'm not going to go into details, but it's really tormenting me. I know I'm not 20 and I generally look balanced and settled, but I can't control it. It was all very nice at first, but since we had both been through a divorce, something didn't work out. He usually wanted me, but at one point I also took the initiating and he was - I was writing to him, I wish I could see him more often and he distanced himself. I asked to talk, but I did not get a specific answer, except that in my face he sees a very charming and beautiful woman, but he felt obsessed with our relationship, and he himself had such a marriage, and this definitely distanced him. I personally do not consider myself obsessive, I was looking for closeness, and I do not know why he came to this conclusion. It was very hard for me, but I accepted it. Three months later, he called me and said he was sorry and wanted to see me. I agreed, but it was a mistake. He wasn't the same person, he was very distant. Another meeting followed, and there. He deleted me from social media, and that's how it ended. It's like something's collapsed inside me ever since. I probably took it very personally, and that kind of distances me from men, in general, and shouldn't. What do you think I'm doing wrong? I forgot to mention that my ex-husband has alcohol problems, which I struggled with for years in order to preserve marriage, but I never managed to succeed.
Author, the way you speak, you look like a nice guy, and you need a nice guy. I'm not saying it doesn't have its qualities, but it just doesn't make sense to shed tears for a man who wiped you out of your life. You're bitter right now because you've been ignored, you're offended that they left you without an explanation, and that's why you think it. She said,"After three months, she called me and said he was sorry and wanted to see me. I agreed, but it was a mistake. He wasn't the same person, he was very distant. ". It took me three months to regret it, and then to behave remotely. You've judged your meetings as a mistake, and now you're making the next mistake by shutting yourself in and distanced yourself from men. You don't need to distance yourself, you need to get to know them, and the easiest way is to talk to more men without emotionally getting involved. There is no better place for such conversations than social media, there you do not have to see your interlocutor (at least at first), you do not have to make commitments, give hope, promise anything. On social media, getting to know each other is slower, but it's more complete. With conversations on social media, you have more time to think about what they've told you, you have time to think about what you mean. On the net, you can communicate with more men at the same time without making you a dishonest person, because it's dishonest to me to date a lot of men at the same time and give hollow signals for a possible continuation of getting to know each other. Last but not least on the net, you can very easily find out who is willing to wait for you and who is pushing for quick encounters - as a rule, the rushed are thrill seekers of sex overnight. You know yourself best, you know what you want from the person next to you, if you like the idea of the thrill, you'il find yourself very easily. However, I feel that you are not one of the search engines for strong sensations, you do not need a man overnight - you are looking for stability and durability in relationships, you need a gentle support, not a hard one who does not know his numbers. I end up with my favorite theme for the bachelors and the bachelors - beware of bachelors, bachelor of your age (over 35) is a person with problems, a person who is not fit for a relationship, if you had done so by now.
I wish you good luck and do not despair, the world is not finished with an alcoholic and one who does not know what he wants!
To be ready for something new, you have to shake off the past. You have to erase the trouble and realize that not all people are the same and that it didn't work out once will happen a second time. A lot of people meet on the Internet, others in a place, at work, everywhere can meet the person, but it is difficult because after a failed attempt you are already afraid. That's my opinion.
Number 12, thanks for the comment. I don't know how good a man I am, but I'm trying. I'm a responsible woman, I'm looking at my child, and I'm definitely not looking for fun for one night. I need a nice guy, but I don't come across one. It definitely doesn't work out like I've become quite closed, and the fact that when a man finds out I have a child, he pulls away. I feel like I'm going to need a thrill, my emotions, and I'm feeling some kind of emptiness lately.
I prefer to meet an intelligent man over 40 who also has a child or children. I have a bitter experience with an old bachelor over 45, and it's definitely not for me.
I read the themes here from time to time, and according to the comments, divorced women are parsors, and infidelity according to some other topics is a normal thing. The truth is, morality is now a relative concept.
14, I have no reason to polish you, I have reason to tell you to better judge your next potential partners - you already have enough earrings on your ear, and one learns not only from your own mistakes. Sites like this greatly help to build an idea (though more common) of the variety of two-legged people walking around the ground, with the main task of winding their dick - draw your conclusions, but don't curl up in your shell, don't build walls, but don't be a brood for those things that float on the surface anyway!
I'm truly sorry, that "good apples - pigs eat them", but don't forget that there are pigs among the intelligents, even they are the bigger pigs, they have learned that nice apples to bite always have, different apples have a different taste, and why not, when you have a wagon of apples not to eat as much as you want, and the rest to bite - you know which pigs I talk about "I have a bitter experience with an old bachelor over 45 and definitely not for me."
15, Thank you! You're right about almost everything, but I don't fully agree that men or women over a certain age who have never had families are poor, on the contrary. The reasons are different. It's all about man, principles, morality, upbringing. I suppose you'il agree with me and that no matter how good a man is, if there's no physical attraction, common goals and interests, there's no way to get things right. I totally agree that there are "pigs" among the intelligent people so called. I work with people like that, and I know very well what it's all about. Just because a man is smart and good in his profession by no means, he is not intelligent and good as a person.
The comparison "good apples - pigs eat them" I've heard it from an acquaintance of mine. It's probably time I've made a better case for it.
I sincerely wish you a lot of love and good times with the woman next to you!
To the Author:
You should not personally accept the distance of your last friend.
Believe in yourself and move on. Meet people, socialize, have fun - you can meet love anywhere.
It's not about you, it's because he has an insurmountable fear of commitment, probably because of his bad experience.
I feel for you and him.
I'm in his position right now, and despite my feelings for a man, as the relationship becomes more serious, I get scared and back off. He's not giving up on me, and we're starting to build trust and bond anew. I feel good about him. Until it gets serious again, we don't talk about kids, etc. when I panic and run. And I'm a normal woman, I'm not crazy. I'm just very hurt and scared. I have a divorce, too.
16, I agree that "along the dry, the woods and the raw" - certainly among men and women who have not found a partner until the age of 35-40 there are decent ones, but they are rather an exception to the rule that only confirms it. Of course, my humble experience is more with women in a similar position, but I guess all the distortions I see in women apply in full strength to men as well. Personally, it is my opinion that the longer a person lives alone, the more selfish he becomes, and from there it is increasingly difficult to accept that the opposite person has his weaknesses and strengths, that not everyone is perfect as he wishes the loner.
On this occasion, I think of a story of a man much older than me. His friend, a sworn bachelor, bonds with some woman, but they still don't live together, and the woman stays the night sometimes, and then she comes home. A big problem turns out to be a stain (as much as the head of a warm woman) on the PERFECTLY polished skirt in the bathroom. Note after remark, only scandal, because the stain appeared only when the woman stayed to sleep at the pedant. Eventually, it was found that in the morning, when the woman developed the toothpaste cap put it on the skirt, the minimum amount of toothpaste, which is on the inside of the cap, forms the drop in question (spot). I can't remember if, after this revelation, the man and woman in question have fixed their relationship, but for me the narrative is indicative of where the distortions can go. I wouldn't live two days with a miracle like that. So I came to the conclusion that it's just for me - the bachelors to take on the girls, the married ones to know their families, and we divorced or widowed not to interfere with the work of others. Whatever strong physical attraction I have to a woman, however intelligent, understanding and good she is, I don't think about anything more than a conversation - in short, I know you're a goola, and every self-like frog is welcome, with the others I'm just on hello-hello, and i'm going to go for a kukuruzo.
And I wish you a lot of love, but shared, and then the good times are not late.
Is there a bachelor blurring your water in the goola and so methodically crushing them and falling in love with almost every single topic here?
Your hatred flows from everywhere and it's, to put it mildly, annoying and tiring!
Misery human... from which there is no obvious salvation!
My sincerest condolences!
You live in a cruel delusion and you're just embarrassing yourself here!
Clearly you're not, but to hatred you add a funny and pathetic malice - instead of wasting your time explaining on forums how great you are and spitting on the bachelors, you rather use your energy to clean up in front of your own gate and stop embarrassing yourself and annoying yourself!
No wonder they prefer a bachelor over what you showed here!
The author: No unnecessary attacks, please! The site is "Share"" though, and it is good to observe the well-intentioned tone :).
By 17, I didn't take anything personal, I had just fallen in love unrequitedly, but I'd already "stepped on the ground." As I've already mentioned the abnormal thing about this case, it happened to me at those years and lasted a long time.
These two sentences made a strong impression on me - 'I feel good about him. Until it gets serious again, we don't talk about kids, etc. I mean, when I panic and run. And I'm a normal woman, I'm not crazy. I'm just very hurt and scared. 'Of course you're not crazy. This is normal for people in our situation. I'm pretty fake, too. Why don't you talk to your friend frankly? Explain to him that you are simply not ready for a child at this stage. This is a very serious decision and needs to be carefully considered. If he does not have children it is normal to want, but this should also be tailored to your desires and needs.
18. Thanks! If it's meant to be, it'il work. I'm on the principle of "Better alone than badly accompanied." I'm over 35 and closer to 40, but these are details. ''So I came to the conclusion that's just for me - the bachelors get with the girls, the married ones know their families, and we divorcees or widows don't interfere with the work of others. '' I'm generally on that side too, but there are always exceptions. :). Just because to have another child I have to be absolutely sure of the person, although that's not a guarantee either. And age is a limiting factor :).
You can safely not post this comment, but it is laughable to leave 19 and 21, and delete 20 - I speak to you site administrators!
The site is yours, you set your rules, but something limps you in the policy of sifting - I will tell you what else to delete, still my comments on this topic, but I definitely divorce you. So, rub in a row comments with numbers 7, 12, 15, 18.
Be alive and healthy and not come to your head looking for a new person in your life!
24, don't do that. Take things more easy, people are different and with different views of life. I liked it, in general your way of thinking, and your advice was very helpful to me. Thanks to them, and
with a little will on my part, I was able to overcome my fixation on that man I had mentioned in my posts. In fact, in his face, I had created an idealized image of a man, and the man turned out to be a womaniser. :)
Author,
I'm a man in my 40s, divorced with two children.
I've been through something similar to your story this spring.
I met a woman with a baby. The woman, just over 35, the toddler in a garden.
And all OK, by the time he started hiding, screwing around...
Obsessive and t...
Same story as yours, only the roles changed.
I've had a very hard time. I was absolutely devastated.
Your post 25, one-to-one :)
The woman turned out to be a blackmailer. :)
Don't wait for someone to like you the way they liked you at 25 without a child, or you'd fall for it like a teen-a. For a month, two - you can, but for more.. hardly ;)
Look, he's a good guy, he's got a home, he doesn't drink, he doesn't get jealous of you, he's working on something, you're going to have to do that, and you don't need it anymore.
These love, thrills, butterflies, unique men waited only for you until 45... are fantasies. Life is very different. I know, you don't want it to be like that, but you do.
Success!
I'm in a similar situation. A year after my divorce, I met a man who eventually didn't accept my child. I've been alone for nearly two years.
Number 27, excuse me, but this is the most nightmare piece I've ever heard in my life. Quote:
"Look there to be a decent man, to have a home, not to drink, not to be jealous of you, to work something, to do so from time to time, and you don't need it anymore.
These love, thrills, butterflies, unique men waited only for you until 45... are fantasies. "
It's so scary, 27, what you're advising this meaningful, balanced and pleasant woman - the author, that borders on sadism. Of course, dear author, that what 27 said had nothing to do with reality. Of course it's not enough just for someone not to beat us. And very clearly that the love, respect and adoration of the loved one are the most important thing, what makes us wake up in the morning, smile in the street and can't wait to get back in his arms. And yes! A thousand yes!!! That's what's happening! It happened to me after the divorce. My friend Valya happened after the divorce. My friend Teddy happened after the divorce. My friend Mila happened after the divorce. My friends Vesco, Vladko and Alec happened after the divorce. My cousin Vanyo, too! My Aunt Christina married at 65 to a surgeon, and they can't put their hands up like kids! Around me I have dozens of examples of people who have ended an unhappy relationship and found a reliable, adequate, loving and beloved partner.
And at 27, I will say that a person who would be sufficient to have the listed "qualities" of the married soulmate does not deserve the life given to him. Or, in fact, he deserves it!
By The Author
Number 27, I'm not into anyone, like teen-ka, and I'm not looking for "unique men"(there are none), but just warmth, understanding and communication with the right person. However, that doesn't mean I'm a weak character. I don't need the "qualities" you listed as a mate. Most of them I've achieved on my own. In that case, it's better to have a friend with benefits - there's always, but I DON'T Want - a matter of personal choice. You're wrong about the thrill, if there's no way a friendship can grow into something more. In men( decent ones) is also.
Number 31, thanks for your support and kind words! :)
Number 30, with children really is not easy, especially if they are under 12 years old and the other parent does not care, but this can only be understood by people in our situation.
Number 26, it's just that the woman didn't have an attraction or was looking for anything serious from the beginning (what in my case) otherwise she wouldn't tell you you were "obsessive." Have patience :).
Looking around me (about relationships) everyone is fully worth the situation they were in alone or with a partner.
Reading the comments, I come to the same conclusion - everyone does it themselves.
Mdaaa :)
33, I don't agree. You probably didn't have a family to judge from the relationships of others.
To find something at the age of 30, 40 is a difficult job and pure coincidence, in my opinion. It also applies to the 2th skirt.
The activity recommendations sound good - language courses, hobbies, sports, clubs, travel, etc. The internet is also not for disposal, but in it over 70-80% "we're" scum, just this needs to be known.
Personal self-esteem, respectively radiation, is especially important. In one way, they look at a man with a look like a beaten dog and a aligned stand, and another to a man with his head up, smiling, etc. But often the second is a guess to artificially confident people who are simply hollow under the packaging. Good acquaintance and talk about everything are a good basis for making progress with someone.
All the best and good luck!
34, a long-term look is exactly as 33. In general, I have convinced myself that everyone is worth the situation (good or bad), excluding health problems.
After all, when it comes to personal relationships, people make free choices and suffer the consequences of it.
By 31. How pink it all sounds. I wish it was that easy. I guess you and others were lucky when the halves and kids accepted you. I'm single with two teenage kids, and I don't have any hope that a man will fall in love with me and accept my children.
G 42
And I didn't understand why you've been sticking out the internet like there's a better chance of meeting someone looking for the same thing. Otherwise, you rely on chance.
What will the author offer in her relationship? And at 35 with a child, what expectations does a man have?? Friendship with the man often ends in the friendly zone.
Author,
I'm divorced, 32 with a 3-year-old. It was my choice, it wasn't easy and it wasn't for banal reasons like alcoholism or infidelity, but it's not important. But so the anger didn't fall on me, - he screwed me, no matter how much we loved each other - himself, and me and the child around us... I've just had to go away with my happiness!
So, essentially:
YOU'RE NOT THE JACKET!!! Not! YOU'RE NOT!!!! You know that, don't you?
Experience the thrills one by one, and look to get bored before you get bored (as the two children divorced). It's lucky.
You don't need a permanent partner, it's a commitment As long as you raise your child, you don't need a man to raise... (On a rare occasion, they snout on the couch, your thrill will fade, and his eternal presence will remain) How many are those who are both savvy and smart, beautiful, will get involved in the household equally, in sex will be good and will be perfectly treated with a child who is not theirs? And there's going to be butterflies in the stomach? Well, I'm sorry, but being over 30 and having kids doesn't mean we have to lower the criteria to accept someone in our lives... for what? In old age, looking at each other... come on, please... It's like the old days of having a lot of kids, having a workforce and having someone to watch them... You're beautiful!!! Use these men! Waste those butterflies in their stomachs and kick their ass out later. Everybody know their house! You're not washing men's socks and washing the sink of shaved hairs... Cuz... you're very smart, and a very clever compromise that you "took you with a child" Are to get away with it. That's all they know- to give minds about how to end and not move their finger.... (Male exceptions should not be angry. There you have to confirm the rule xaxx) And you are either in a happy marriage or in an unhappy marriage) Learn to live like it! And no, I'm not cynical and prosaic... The circumstances made me that way. Don't judge me. I'm trying to help the author. Live your life, you're great! And don't notice that the best things happen unexpectedly!
39, when he's with a kid, is he with a TEL? Stop attacking the woman, she's suffered enough, and now she's having a hard time alone with a child. What to offer in your relationship? Like any other normal woman! You don't have to live together, it can be a normal relationship. It's like all of you judges have a happy marriage with mish women (plus miles, good, faithful, working) and two children girl and boy with two years difference, a big house with two cars in front and nonexistent ideal combinations of pink novels? ! Come on, come on!
41 - many men are already waking up to their delusions about female nature, and fewer and fewer are those who want to watch someone else's child. Because the same ones you want to sacrifice now for her without thinking, they wanted to be in the father's place years ago, but she ignored them because of the "butterflies in her stomach and sensations" that is. she was thinking about herself, not whether she'd have a good guardian. Even now, the author says there were young people at her job but 'weren't suitable'. I guess he wants to repeat his mistake from the first time like so many others. Then one of her husbands had alcoch problems, the other was a gambler, the third was looking at other people's wives. And when they met, didn't they know he was? From the likes of her, the nation is turning the nation into a repository of single mothers, their children who have a better chance of a distorted future. And I'm not making this up, it's facts!
By 40, I wouldn't have written any more on the subject, but you provoked me. It's a discussion, not a judging, we're aware? As cynical as possible, and allowed by the moderators as much as another.
I'm sorry to tell you, but with your mindset, you're going to live like this for another 10 years, and then you're going to start... you're asking someone to shave on your sink.
If you just want one hard... tool, there are many in some specialized stores, right? They go only with batteries, without hair, without splashing on the sofa, etc.
If you are unable to provide coziness and normal communication of loved ones for both topics, then you will get the most of a gigolo, a used or just a vibrator from life.
And what's wrong with ''This is like the one with a lot of kids that there's a workforce and someone to watch.. ''? You popped up precisely because of a time ago, only that the communism and the even more post-communism- the mutrenization, probably brainwashed you beyond recognition.
Nothing workable and productive is in the selfishness and use of others. Beauty is up to a time... Billions of people around the world are complying with a number of circumstances and life rules, and there is no way the Kiflene councils can go.
I wish everyone a lot of health and success in the endeavors!
Come on, stop attacking the woman! Having a child is happiness, and the egos who don't want to pass by and catch a cold by looking at someone else's child, no one makes them force to do it! Not to give God to turn out to be a single parent, a woman or a man - it is very difficult! Only judges are missing! We are human too, and we also want happiness. Whoever loves us will be with us, with or without children. Others should look for the perfect/ideal and not give unsolicited advice and verdicts.
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39, I would suggest in a relationship everything a normal woman has to offer, as long as the person is appropriate and we have common themes of conversation and similar interests. It turned out, however, that it was already quite difficult to let a man by my side. I wouldn't say I miss them. I wouldn't even have a relationship with a man who has no experience with family life. I don't mind bachelors over 38, but I'm not suitable for them.
40, I don't want anyone sacrificing myself and looking after my child. It's his father's, despite his flaws and the fact that we're separated. Divorces nowadays happen unfortunately quite often, and no one is insured by them. For me personally, it is much better for a child to live peacefully and happily with an adequate parent than in scandals or with two roommates. Not to mention alcohol anymore. I don't tolerate infidelity, and I wouldn't tolerate it.
Forty, I'm neither the jacket nor ugly. You're right we shouldn't lower our criteria. I'd rather be alone than with the wrong guy, but I don't agree that there are no decent men and that I have to change and use them or "kick their ass. " So I just don't let them if I think they're not for me.
About the man I wrote my story for last year, well, I just idealized it because I was in love with him. The man wrote to me soon in a viber. Looks like he hasn't found a "reader" yet. When we met, he told me he didn't come across one or ended a relationship. It's clear what he wants from me because he knows I like him. He said, "We could see you someday. " I replied "We could have a cup of coffee. Apparently, seemingly intelligent men over 45 are childish. Personally, I wouldn't communicate with someone I once deleted from my life.
Thank you to everyone for both positive opinions and criticism. They were helpful. For myself, I think I've changed a lot in a positive direction in a year and I wouldn't take a man into my life just so I wasn't alone.
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