Hello! My question can probably be answered by the male part of the site. And it's the following, has it ever happened to you at the beginning of any relationship, when you just want to see what will happen to catch yourself, that you think how nice it would be if you have a relationship with the person, to do this and that and to have the feeling that, figuratively speaking, you are forcing things, even unintentionally. It happens to me quite often, without wanting such thoughts to pass, I just somehow can't relax without thinking, just to see what will happen and I wonder if I'm the only one. I guess it's up to the person, but I'm interested to hear your opinions, events on the subject. I'm a girl of 20, if that matters. Thanks in advance for the comments.
It didn't happen to me. I've always started a relationship and I've been committed to the moment, I just wanted to see the boy and that's it. Have a good time together. There is nothing wrong with imagining, thinking about how your relationship will develop and wanting it to develop into a more serious relationship. It's normal. Have you had disappointments in love? If so, probably because of this you imagine, the initial phase of getting to know you may be tired and painfully familiar and want to go to the next level.
Yes, of course! This is part of the "test-selection" process! We imagine different situations and how the man would behave / react when we already know him at least a little and we have observed some situations. For example, I refused a second date because I misbehaved with a waitress. Conclusion: there is no respect for other, personal complexes and vulgar way of "uploading". Out! Another case: on the second meeting take 15 minutes to spit ex-OUT, it is clear that I would only be the next "whore, etc." for impossible. Who I am with: natural behavior of a gentleman, leave a tip to the waitress and keep it with respect, have a cat-responsibility and love for animals, etc. small / BIG details that I immediately wrote down in my memory and had something to think about positively. Besides, after the 4th date, he kissed me, he talked about himself (not to pretend to be a listener because he had nothing to say) he wanted to be known. And from there, respectively, I already imagined a relationship, a common future, even moments .. :)
Some time ago, a man I was dating told me something about it. We were both 25 years old. So he told me: if you do not see at least a part of your future with this man, why waste your time with empty talk ??? I listened to him.
In my opinion, you just get attached easily, I also have thoughts about whether I am the only one at the beginning of a relationship or a stocking, but if things get serious I think that in time you will answer if you are the only one ... there is no way without knowing someone well. you understand such a thing, but if you are with a person for a long time and you get to know him, it will immediately impress you if he behaves differently and strangely.
Don't worry, there's hardly a woman who hasn't had this happen to her. I even wrote my little name and surname of my potential boyfriend on various sheets to see what it would look and sound like if I eventually became a husband :))))) Not bad, as long as you don't show it to the man. They are a little cowardly about a more serious commitment, all with their time.
It is normal to imagine future situations with the person you are dating. You don't even have to feel close to him or your person. In the absence of feelings, one imagines oneself again, because one gets to know the other side and situations it in one's daily life. For example, my current friend doesn't think our first meeting told me that he screams in anger. I immediately replied that I hated the shouts even more directed at me, and this would be re-educated in him if we were together and got into arguments. I told him I was crying when someone shouted at me. And so far, as many times as we have argued, he wants his time for his aggression to subside, and then he returns to our conversation, because, as he explained to me, he will shout, and I was clear that this is unacceptable. And I really like his attitude. Some time ago I was dating a guy who told me a few months later, that when I told him at the beginning that I had two dogs and a cat, he had imagined some mind-boggling state of my house with leagues and hair, and he thought that things could not get serious. But then I invited him home, and seeing that the situation was not like that and that it was clean, and that the animals were brought up, he was fascinated by how pleasant a home with animals in it could still be. Which is an indication that what you imagine will not always be real. My first meetings with another young man were wonderful. He was a gentleman and an ideological type. He took me to different places, behaved like a gentleman, and conquered me quickly. Until the second or third week, when we decided to be at home and enjoy each other. He turned out to be a complete jerk at home. He can't take the salt shaker himself. He doesn't allow you to change his TV channels, which we didn't watch anyway. He does not allow me to leave things where I decide, because there is some order of his own and every violation causes him discomfort. He doesn't steam to his own kitchen when I'm there, and then I eat a horse because the pepper is in another basket, not where he put it. We broke up. I found that only outside he knew how to behave with the lady, but at home ... disgusting. I imagined it differently. :) Living at the moment is ok and cool. But it is inevitable to still imagine what you have learned about someone, how it would affect your future. You may be wrong in your judgment, but it is normal to think things through. because there is some order of his own and every violation causes him discomfort. He doesn't steam to his own kitchen when I'm there, and then I eat a horse because the pepper is in another basket, not where he put it. We broke up. I found that only outside he knew how to behave with the lady, but at home ... disgusting. I imagined it differently. :) Living at the moment is ok and cool. But it is inevitable to still imagine what you have learned about someone, how it would affect your future. You may be wrong in your judgment, but it is normal to think things through. because there is some order of his own and every violation causes him discomfort. He doesn't steam to his own kitchen when I'm there, and then I eat a horse because the pepper is in another basket, not where he put it. We broke up. I found that only outside he knew how to behave with the lady, but at home ... disgusting. I imagined it differently. :) Living at the moment is ok and cool. But it is inevitable to still imagine what you have learned about someone, how it would affect your future. You may be wrong in your judgment, but it is normal to think things through. ) Living at the moment is ok and cool. But it is inevitable to still imagine what you have learned about someone, how it would affect your future. You may be wrong in your judgment, but it is normal to think things through. ) Living at the moment is ok and cool. But it is inevitable to still imagine what you have learned about someone, how it would affect your future. You may be wrong in your judgment, but it is normal to think things through.
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