Psychological Tricks That Could Help People Like You

Scientists told us how to attracts others and how to use this knowledge in life.Psychological Tricks That Could Help People Like You. Convert your personal skills to a weapon.
Last Updated
February 21, 2020



Copy the interlocutor's behavior

During a conversation, use similar gestures and facial expressions, repeat the pose of the interlocutor. According to the study, this behavior accelerates the emergence of the chameleon Effect of sympathy.



Spend more time with someone you want to have a relationship with

We are more likely to be attracted by people we know. Psychologists conducted an experiment Exposure effect in the classroom: The development of affinity among students: four girls, unknown to the students, attended classes at the University. Some came often, others rarely. Then the students were shown their photos and asked to say who they liked most. It turned out, those who were seen more often in the classroom.



Praise your interlocutor

People associate the adjectives you say in praise of them with your own character. This phenomenon is called spontaneous transfer of the qualities of Spontaneous trait transference to familiar communications. It works the other way around: if you constantly speak negatively about a person, what you say about them begins to be attributed to you.



Demonstrate positive emotions

We are strongly influenced by the mood of others. Often we unconsciously experience the same emotions as the interlocutor of Emotional Contagion. To make a good impression, show a positive attitude.



Don't be afraid to seem imperfect

If you show a flaw or make a mistake, you, keep in mind, that nothing human is alien to you. Scientists discovered this by investigating how errors affect liking The effect of a pratfall on increasing interpersonal attraction. Participants in the experiment listened to a recording of the quiz. If someone answered all the questions correctly but accidentally spilled coffee in the end, they liked him better than the one who was perfect.



Focus on common views of point

We are drawn to the prediction of interpersonal attraction to people who are somewhat like us. This is called the similarity attraction effect. And we especially like people with whom we share negative traits being like is more than having a good Personality.



Perceive the interlocutor as they would like to

People want to be seen as they see themselves. When a person's view of us matches Self-Verification Theory. With our own self-image, relationships develop successfully. We feel that we are understood, and this is necessary to establish trust.



Share something personal

This will help you start a relationship and get to know the person better. Start with General topics (for example, which movie you both recently watched) and gradually move on to more personal ones. Then tell us something intimate about yourself. This will create a sense of intimacy, and it will be easier for the other person to trust you in the future.



Let the other person talk about themselves

Researchers at Harvard University found revealing information about the self is intrinsically rewarding. That when we talk about ourselves, we experience pleasure comparable to the pleasure of food, money, and sex. So let the other person tell you something about themselves. This way he will have more pleasant memories of your conversation.



Behave as if you like the other person return to you

When we believe that a person is well disposed to us, we ourselves begin to feel sympathy for him. This phenomenon is called reciprocity of Liking.

In addition, when we assume that people will treat us well, we behave more warmly towards them. This way we increase the chances of making a favorable impression interpersonal Warmth Explains the Self Fulfilling Prophecy of Antipated Acceptance.

If you are not sure how the other person treats you, behave as if you like them. So he is likely to be sympathetic to you.

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