Hi! For several years now, I read this site regularly and I see different people, different stories, tips, situations, biotics.. I've decided to write here because of the situation I've been thinking about for two years now. I'm a student at a specialized high school of Arts. As you know, or maybe you do not know the situation and people in the schools dealing with art are different than any ' ' ordinary ' ' High School of Humanities or languages. I say that in order not to emphasize or something like that, but to give a more realistic view of the situation. I'm graduating from high school next year. I'm a sensitive person by nature. I experience situations, I sometimes take things too much of a heart, I worry about ' ' nonsense ' ' or rather not so much Scary and important things. I can panic, cry, or burst under certain circumstances... I've grown a part of these emotional tides, I've realized some things, I'm grown up. But there's one thing that makes me very, very much, suffering from it for the moment. I'm influenced by people's opinion, their fairy tales, the little nasty comments they throw. In my school, after a choice of specialty, which you continue from the second year of high school until you graduate there is a change in classes. Two years ago when I was starting 10th grade, I started anew with the kids from the other class. A little school we are, everyone knows everyone, but they were in class 2 years before I came so that they knew each other better. It's just that in every class, there's ' ' Slick ' ', ' ' All-knowing ' ', ' ' The Kibbutz ' ' or there's some other page... :D In my class, there are simply certain people who have their word ' weighs more ' ' than the others. A few people who do what they want, say what they want, and that's the rest of the class silent. I don't even know how to describe it to understand my point They're just something like "the main" characters, but in a not very good sense They're forgiven, they can screw with someone, and they can talk to him the next day. To evade any responsibilities.. Be forgiven and etc There is 1 specific person This guy does not like me and naturally is not obligated to me or I him, but the problem is that since I have entered this class always, there will always be something to say about me even if it is not his job. To give someone a comment, to hint at something natural, to make me feel bad, casually embarrass me or get me ' 'deafer' ', crazy, or mad as the most often likes to hints Just see your mouth big, speak left to right and all silent. I get shy, sweat I feel worried and tense when this person talks this way about me or someone else He just puts pressure in the room as he enters the door, I inquire about the other people in the class and they feel it I don't know why it's silent, every day I see the infernal irregular things that these people are doing, but just nobody ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' ' I doesn't know if he's scared, or he's just no one to deal with. Whatever. I suffer greatly from the actions of this person I have not done anything to this man, nor have we been close nor anything I just sometimes feel like he knows I'm emotional, and that's the only thing he's going to step on, crush him, make me cry in the toilets. I don't know what's wrong with me and why I'm panicking so much from some high school tartar I don't know I want to fight this worry because I know I have something to show and say and that I can't cheat me for personal enjoyment. But I'm a nuisance! I'm suffering, crying, and I'm tearing up all the situations after school and thinking them all night. I'm not a perfect person, I'm still a teenager they first go into the world of ' the big ' ' I just don't have a girlfriend in this class who's all in groups, companies, herds.. I don't have a lot of common interests nor do I smoke, drink nor am I entirely interested in what they I have classmates and acquaintances but no girlfriend It also weighs Do not relax in school, behave strangely, from tension happens to me to say something embarrassing or out of place Very slowly I pass the day, the creative activity is blocking (and should not) the harassment continues, and I continue to pay the choir opinion. I want to know if a hasn't wept is in a similar situation, like mine, did he feel frightened to defend himself and not let him crush him, scared to talk and put these people in their place I accept advice and opinions many will be happy to hear how you would do. Thanks!
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coco_baby5 answered · May 25, 2020
And in my class, they were the ones who were allowed to humiliate and make fun of whoever they wanted. Just like in your Crassus, they were at the heart of the events, were the cool ones everyone listened to. And to this day I wonder why no one annoyed on this attitude, somehow everyone assumed it was normal. Now that you think about it, the others were some degree, judging by the way they're thinking and their attitude. At least they didn't make it so obvious.
I am homosexual and at this time I felt some horror from being discovered and in this environment it was even harder because as we know such a type of people are very poorly tuned to any kind of difference. I was so obsessed not to suspect that I was starting to act and talk so that I didn't beat them in the eye and not be the object of ridicule. As a result, I had a lot of problems with myself when I was just lost. I became anxious, I had many sleepless nights, naturally this affected of learning, and of communicating with people.
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I started reading more popular psychology and spiritual literature. I have found that my inacceptance to myself has made me so vulnerable to the opinions of others. The class changed with the university and the work in parallel. I was, however, with the new attitude that whatever people I meet I will not try at all costs to like them, so as not to lose myself, but also because it is impossible to be accepted by all. With this new attitude, my self-esteem improved and somehow magically came across collectives that reflected my inner attitude to myself i.e. there were no Hales, or at least I was not so vulnerable.
Maybe my story kind of bored you, but I thought it was important to share it because of the partial similarity of our problem. And at the very least, reading it, you'il know you're not the only one in this situation. My advice, as implied, is not to lose yourself because of the hatred you meet. Accept all your positive and negative traits. Develop, do what pleases you, preserve yourself. And you will see how soon you will meet the right people. As far as possible, pay no attention to all this heert, because you are so damaging yourself. Your life knows the job and everyone at one point gets what it deserves.
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alexis_wayne answered · May 25, 2020
I was bullied by two in high school. They used my sensitivity to make fun of me. Physically they didn't hurt me, but mental harassment is even worse. Now, after all these years, I'm just sorry I didn't break their three.
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willyx987 answered · May 25, 2020
Hello, dear girl!
It's like I'm reading about myself. Exactly the same situation. My friend and I are harassed daily by our classmates, many of whom think they are superior and the Lord. These creatures (I don't call them people, because to me it's not a human attitude) are so obnoxious that several times when I saw them out in the recess, they puke at their feet.
Then it became a class war, because I got their precious branded shoes and the smart ones. I was in front of the shutdown, but my principal is a grandmother, and the math teacher and wife in my brother-in-law. The Bulgarian teacher is my uncle, but he is very strict and then such a fight threw me in front of the class, so I became a laughingstock.
The humiliation was full, so full, that I had a lot of stress in class, and physically I fainted, and then I scratched my gut, and then I spit out blood. I started drinking, wearing vodka at school, just to get to like them. My uncle was beating me up again, puke on the floor in the toilets, and I was in a loop then, and because the toilet was flooded, I swam in a river of blood and feces.
YOU CAN'T GET RID OF BULLYING. JUST BE A DREFMAN LIKE ME!
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sechdragon answered · May 25, 2020
Which books on popular psychology are suitable for children and teenagers?
N 1 Please share which books you have read and from which book you feel good.
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_ranunculus_ answered · May 25, 2020
From 1
4, are you the author or one of the readers who wishes to gloat that it was not clear to me?!
As to the question you related to which of the books in popular psychology are suitable for children-I do not think that any such book has such an addressee. This type of reading is aimed at people who are at such a stage in their lives, in which they have to receive answers that they have not otherwise received in their daily lives or the same has placed them in a state of deadlock. As I understand from the writing, if you are the author, you are currently in 12th grade so you should not be bothered whether your reading is addressed specifically for children and teenagers, you can easily read every reading you think you are capable of thinking and that will do you good.
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hungandstraight answered · May 26, 2020
From N 4. I'm not the author. I have a child 10 years old, very, very disturbing and cowardly. I wonder how to help her be more relaxed. How not to get angry with your heart? My classmates are singing a heart, and mine is worried about other people's worries. I don't know what to do.
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tinky4winky69 answered · May 26, 2020
Haha, author, "Your Specialized school" is a simple one, in which there are all kinds of individuals.
Everywhere is the case, even in private schools, but as they lack the first years of upbringing will be gadnâri.
I stopped reading you at the beginning, because I know what it's about.
I was also a victim of school bullying if I went to tell...
You still have one year left, but I don't see any other teeth.
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byngdtx answered · May 26, 2020
It was like that in my class. Because I was from a poor family, I had no phone and no new clothes, my old car drove me. My parents didn't have a chance to differentiate theirs. Well, now I can say that most of them have not achieved anything in life and many of them are still waiting on their own and living with them. I totally understand how you feel, but it's going to pass.
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shy_dck answered · May 27, 2020
7, in your case you can go to the parents ' books, you just see something. To be disturbing, the child of this age is probably survivor or experiencing some more serious stress, so do not exclude the possibility and consult a psychologist who has experience with children. In spite of all prejudice, it is not shameful at all and it does not mean that anyone has deviations. It just sometimes requires help from the side. I have acquaintances who visit even a psychiatrist because they are best influenced by drugs and in no case can you say that "something is wrong". However in your case only my psychologist is worth absolutely enough.
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