Problems With My Boyfriend

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Hello! I would like to share my problems with my friend! I'm 20 and he's 24, we've been together for three years. In the beginning everything was more than wonderful, I introduced him to our first days. He came to visit us every day and I was extremely happy, but over time he always wanted something - or he wanted to lend me money, under the pretext that he would return it to me, or he smoked my mother's cigarettes ... Don't get me wrong I'm not selfish, and especially for him I'm ready to give my all, but we are poor people, we don't have a lot of finances. After a few months, my mother couldn't stand it and forbade him to come home, after he allowed himself to take whatever he wanted, even without asking. My mother only works night shifts, so we went home without her knowing, because we had nowhere to go, because he still couldn't find a job and no money. My mother, of course, found out after her cigarettes kept dropping and I didn't smoke. We quarreled very fiercely after she found out that I was saving my money during the day to give to him. Anyway, I didn't care then if he was okay. He is terribly jealous and we were constantly arguing. I apologized to him for things I wasn't even guilty of. Many times I even humiliated myself by begging him to get along because I knew he was a good person inwardly, but I thought he was nervous because he didn't have a job. And of course I made mistakes with him, but with his actions he just pushed me to others. I want to emphasize that I did not cheat on him. And of course, when we argue, he uses these mistakes of mine and accuses me of doing that because, you know, 2 years ago, I stepped on the wrong foot and now he is giving it back to me. He's been getting very secretive lately, and whatever I ask him says he doesn't get in my job. Yesterday evening came out, and when we saw each other today and I asked him when he came home, he didn't answer me, he didn't even want to tell me who he was with, he just said that I had interfered too much in his personal space.

He told me with a lot of pain that he came home at 7 in the morning. I don't think there is another woman, he swore to me that if there was another, he would tell me to separate. He didn't bother to log in front of me on Facebook before, but now he doesn't want to. I asked him what the reason was, and he said he didn't want to see any of his correspondence with his friend on Facebook, and he knew very well that I had never searched his Facebook! It's like he's hiding something from me! At times he is very kind, he has always supported me, he surprises me, when he can ... But the fact that he constantly asks me for money, even if it's my last penny, and the fact that he constantly hides something from me worries me! He is a terribly controversial person, one time he is so kind, and another time he doesn't give a word to tell him. I tried to leave him, but when he remembers our good memories and I call him immediately, and he refuses me at the slightest tug, he is tired of scandals! I don't know what to do, it's hard for me, I always look for guilt in myself and when I find my mistake I correct it. We've talked many times about living together, but he keeps saying we can't do it. I have been working and studying for 2 years, and he is constantly changing jobs! Please help! Give your opinion, because I do not find a solution! Thank you! I sincerely ask the moderators to approve my story,

Last Updated
September 07, 2020
Author:
fuerzamonarca

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