Problem In Love ... Need A Little Someone Else's Opinion

   I don't see a problem. A young, intelligent girl. Keep self-respecting, everything with your time.

   Where are you from?

   Your problem is the excessive independence you demonstrate. I had such a friend, she could do it alone, she still didn't need help, she was always over things and showed how she could do without others, while at the same time secretly hoping that someone would pay attention to her and court her as a woman. Except that the men were afraid of her overly independent behavior and ran away. Eventually, she went so far as to chase and court them, and she almost became the man in the relationship to finally have a boyfriend. But it didn't work out anyway. I will advise you not to send double signals - on the one hand you want to have a friend, the boys talk to you and get attention, and on the other hand you demonstrate with your independence how you can do it yourself, how you don't need anyone, etc. There is no way to get things this way. People see you and say to themselves - well, she can, and who knows how much effort I have to put in to have something to do with her and they turn to girls who SHOW that they are looking for love and attention and need a man next to them. Nobody says not to be independent, everyone should be, but not to constantly point it out and think that someone will be impressed. People say to themselves - this man is not needed by us and they stop paying attention to him when you show that you appreciate them and you like being in their company is completely different. I don't know, I think that from what I have written (I may be wrong) you are a bit like a man and this is the main problem. Since you have so many boy friends and no one has taken a step closer, they seem to perceive themselves as "part of them", that is, like another boy from the company. I don't know, I think that's the problem. I'm not saying to become a muffin, but to develop your feminine qualities more, because you are still a woman, not a man. I may be wrong about everything, I don't know you after all, but from everything written this is how things look to me.

   You are still very young. Where are you in such a hurry. In time, you'll wonder where you're cooking for your husband, throwing pots and washing baby's buttocks.

   Номер 4 има право. Обаче, според мен, някои жени правят голяма грешка като са постоянно пасивни и просто чакат някакво чудо да се случи. Мога да ти кажа мъжката перспектива. Много често заглеждам жени, може и да подмятам комплимент или нещо подобно, но рядко се занимавам наистина сериозно с някое момиче. Много момичета ги подминавам, защото мисля и виждам, че нямат интерес към мен или няма да се получи по някоя причина, като това, че нямаме много общи контакти, не сме от една компания и така нататък. Много момчета са така. Ако си харесала някое момче и просто го чакаш да направи нещо, без да показваш нищо, той едва ли ще прояви сериозен интерес. Така по-скоро ще се натъкнеш на някой нагляр, който пише на 5-6 момичета във фейсбук, с надеждата някоя да му пусне и ти ще бъдеш една от кандидатките му. Съветът ми е да не чакаш просто някой да дойде при теб ей така от само себе си, без нищо да проявяваш. Заговори го, покажи някакъв интерес, не е нужно да правиш първата крачка, ако ти е неудобно, но му прати някакви сигнали. М20

   From the author: First, thank you for the comments. :) You definitely gave me food for thought. I don't flaunt my independence, it's just a part of me. I have never looked like a "tough girl", on the contrary, even on the outside I look very tender. : D It's just that my way of thinking is different. I can't stretch or whine, or drool and fall silent. It doesn't come from inside me, and I don't think it compliments women in general. It seems rather funny to me. And what does it mean to show that I am looking for love? It's not like I can't flirt. I don't think you got me right when I said I was independent. That doesn't mean I'm pretending to be the Ice Queen. : D: D And about the fact that I'm passive. Hmmm, I'm of the opinion (although the time we live in) that it's the man who has to take the first step (I forgot to mention that I'm a little romantic). I give you an example, our eyes catch each other, we start exchanging smiles and the like ... so what is sitting and waiting for me to go and take it off? It's not like I've looked away or shown in any way that "there's no chance with me." I find no point in a woman taking on the role of a man. All she has to do is signal to the man that she wants to be courted, etc ... or I have a totally wrong idea. :) To Number 3: I am currently a student in Sofia. :) Anyway. Life is ahead of me, I was just wondering if the boys don't see something wrong in me and that's why things don't work out. :) is what is sitting and waiting for me to go and take it off? It's not like I've looked away or shown in any way that "there's no chance with me." I find no point in a woman taking on the role of a man. All she has to do is signal to the man that she wants to be courted, etc ... or I have a totally wrong idea. :) To Number 3: I am currently a student in Sofia. :) Anyway. Life is ahead of me, I was just wondering if the boys don't see something wrong in me and that's why things don't work out. :) is what is sitting and waiting for me to go and take it off? It's not like I've looked away or shown in any way that "there's no chance with me." I find no point in a woman taking on the role of a man. All she has to do is signal to the man that she wants to be courted, etc ... or I have a totally wrong idea. :) To Number 3: I am currently a student in Sofia. :) Anyway. Life is ahead of me, I was just wondering if the boys don't see something wrong in me and that's why things don't work out. :) I am currently a student in Sofia. :) Anyway. Life is ahead of me, I was just wondering if the boys don't see something wrong in me and that's why things don't work out. :) I am currently a student in Sofia. :) Anyway. Life is ahead of me, I was just wondering if the boys don't see something wrong in me and that's why things don't work out. :)

   From number 6. In my opinion, you do not have any problem and you do not have a totally wrong idea. Just keep in mind that there is a subtle difference. Some women get along well with one man and all in general, just out of upbringing, not because they flirt. Others, with a similar attitude, flirt. Personally, I often take risks and fall into this trap, but some other guys are much more cautious.