Hello, readers! First I want to apologize if I repeat a topic, but at least I couldn't find one. I am writing in the hope that someone will help me with information and advice. The situation is as follows. My father has had a problem with alcohol for a long time. He likes to drink for as long as I can remember. From an early age, I noticed that my father drank a little more than other fathers. Although sitting at a table, he didn't get up until he got drunk like a plank, at least he didn't do it every day. Until recently, my mother didn't think there was a problem, but thought she was just drinking a little more. But now (at least 20 years later) the inevitable has happened and things have started to get worse. For 10 years he has been drinking every day and every night, and healthy, even if only beer. Yes, he drinks only beer, but he drinks 4-5 liters a day at least. And he hasn't drunk water in years. He started harassing my mother, the police were also reached recently. He began to interfere with his work because he even drank at work. According to his mother (working together), he recently fell off the ladder because he was drunk at work. During the week, machines burned down because he connected them incorrectly on a drunken head. Money began to disappear, and when the money ran out and there was only 1 loaf and a half of cheese left (others simply did not stay, because the salary was drunk very quickly), he still preferred to give them for alcohol and so doomed my mother. When there was no beer or money, his grandfather began to lose cognac, which collects alcohol and drinks only occasionally. When he came for my wedding as a guest 4 years ago, I stayed for about 10 days and during that time I did not see him even once without a glass in my hand. Even on the street while we were walking, if he stood for half an hour, without drinking, he immediately stopped at the nearest store to buy beer and drink it on the go. As you might guess, he denied having a problem. But soon something happened that I did not believe. He admitted that he had a problem and that he had realized it until now, but he denied it. So far, I had no hope that things would get better, and I had resigned myself. But now I was hopeful, because I think that after he confessed, in time we will be able to convince him and heal. I searched the internet for information about treatment, but I couldn't find everything I was interested in, and for another I found it so abundant and chaotic that I couldn't find my way around. For example, some say that they were treated in a mental hospital, others - in communes, others - in toxicology, etc. Some were treated for 2 days in a clinic, then at home, others - only in a clinic. Something didn't work out for me, maybe it depends on the stage, I don't know. In the end, it was not clear to me what the procedure was and where to start. I have a few questions and will be happy to receive answers. What is the procedure anyway? How does the treatment work? Does the treatment depend on the stage? Will he have to lie in a clinic all the time? Is it covered by the cash register? If not - is it expensive? In what exact institution should be treated? Which specialists and restaurants would you recommend? Any contacts possibly? And in general any information or advice that would be useful to me. Most importantly - is there any chance to get better, to try or just to reconcile? Because there is an Al-Anon organization (for relatives of alcoholics) and it says that there is no way to help the patient and we just have to reconcile. We do not criticize it and understand that it is a disease. We support him and maybe we will be able to convince him to be treated, but is it worth treating at all. Some say it is next to a grave and there are no repairs. I ask the moderators to publish the story, because I really need help! I ask the commenters to explain to me if something needs to be done cleanly and simply what exactly, what steps to go through! Please write only people who are familiar! Thanks in advance!
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And is there no acquaintance?