Please Advice - I'm Very Confused ...

   Amy did something to her old acquaintance. You have not exhausted and experienced the relationship, so you return to it. But time more or less changes feelings and people. You can't be sure that she will be the same person you really liked and appreciated, but there's nothing stopping you from knowing if she is. Then you will be able to move forward without looking back and thinking about it. And you are a little unfair to the new girl, because in the first weeks / months the feelings and emotions are the strongest, then it is assumed that you should be completely and only devoted to the object of your feelings. You better talk to her so you don't hurt her without wanting to. Bad

   As long as you hesitate, things cannot be real. No matter how difficult it is for you, you will have to make a final decision at the beginning and concentrate only on one of your feelings. Imagine driving a car and seeing the road fork, your speed is high enough and you don't have much time to think - you don't know in which direction what awaits you, but you make a decision because you can't get stuck between the two roads. Think about which of the two girls without thinking you can call "my favorite girl" and turn to him, and write off the other. Because dual behavior is really cynical. And you will not understand what the obsessive feeling is, in which you give everything for your closest being.

   As long as you haven't had anything serious with one (and it was too long ago), and you are unofficially together with the other, now is the time to decide which lady is yours. Winnie the Pooh

   It's a little strange to me that you are 25 years old and you don't know what you want ... You like one, you have feelings for the other. I don't know what to tell you - throw beans: D. Joke. You have to decide for yourself which one you like more and give up the other one. Ask your companion, he knows best. Success!

   Familiar story ... In my opinion, it depends on your relationship with your first love. A lot depends on how you broke up, for what ... did it affect you, at least for me. If you have at least a drop of hatred for her, you better leave her, don't bother her, avoid her ... that's what I do, I don't know if it's for good or bad !!! The broken thing doesn't stick ... but if you have very strong feelings for it without a drop of "bitterness", why not? !? !! Life is short, but don't lie to the other girl !!! Up to you.... :)

   Dude, you're not with her. So while it's not official, you have time to clear your head.

   I am a girl. I want to tell you that since 7th grade I fell in love with a boy, and I have not forgotten him yet, such a strong love, who wants to think anything, but it is the same love as on the first day, nothing has changed. Even if I have a friend now, I love him too, but nothing can erase my first love, and that is exactly the one from 7th grade ... Sometimes I even dream of him, I don't know why. I told him soon that I loved him, but he didn't say anything ... I know he has a girlfriend, let him be happy with her. I will also be with my boyfriend ... and so .. BUT this love is something very different, I don't know how to explain it ... You better get together with this girl in my opinion, since you have experienced feelings before and still have them you feel that if you then start a family with the other, it will be much worse in my opinion, because you can have children ... and then there is no going back ... Good luck!

   You know, I'm in the same story, but on the other side, of your girl! One of his words ... with love ... if he tells me that he still loves me and even after so many years, almost 10 years, and my whole world will turn upside down, he will become better ... And I have no friend. ., and I have a few people who wanted to be me, and I didn't give them a chance. I can give a chance to someone else soon, in the future, because I can't stay alone, and he has a girlfriend and of course I can't wait for him all my life ... but I will still love him, even though I have a family with another ... Love is a feeling that is not experienced by everyone, and always even if you love two, you always love one more .. And in my opinion, when it appeared, and hop, immediately the feelings appeared again, they just aren't they went, but they were hidden, in my opinion, they were oppressed ... And the new girl, yes it has appeared and your feelings for him should be stronger now ... Yes, but from the 7th grade the girl appeared and hop shook the feelings ... so ... those feelings are much stronger ... Maybe would you love her more ... Good luck with the choice in this situation. The situation is the same for me ... Good luck!

   Do you know what I was thinking, how can you know which one you love more: for example, here is a situation, even two, three: 1. Imagine that in a week they will both get married at 8 o'clock in the morning, on the same day, for another man , one in Italy, the other in Germany, but they both love you. Which one will you go to and which of the two will you stop getting married to be with you? 2. Or if you both need help on the same day, at the same time, in different places, for example, will you start the car and go to the one you will help? 3. Who would you like to have a family with one day? Family means waking up every day and being in your bed, being with you every day ... but only one! 4. From whom would you like to have a child, to give birth to a child? A child means caring, growing up in a family with a father and mother, that is, parents who love each other and a family environment you know? Divorce is a bad thing ... and it only affects children the most! I wouldn't cause this to my children in the future, because I know what it is, I've experienced it, but I wasn't guilty ... and I understand that I don't want another person to experience it! You are a cool person and you will make the right decision .. That is, I hope you clarify things .. (Follow your heart, it will not let you down!

   In my opinion, the girl you know since 7th grade deserves to be with her much more than the other girl, because: 1. Your love has been hidden in you two for so many years, and yes, it still is! 2. These feelings are still alive, yes, they are still alive, even though there is another person. 3. The new girl has not gone through the torture of waiting for you for 10 years to decide whether to be with her .. It is very clear that she is in a better position ... 4. Because the girl who has been waiting for you for 10 years, they she waited and did not find a friend because she loved you, and she did not lightly ignore the true feelings of true love. 5. Yes, and in any relationship the feelings are stronger in the beginning, that is, you have to like the new girl more, and in 10 years will you like her more? 6. Here you see that the feelings for the girl from 7th grade, definitely .. they still can't displace even this connection. 7. And will they be able to completely displace all your connections and will you forget it in another 10 years? If I were you, and I had feelings for both, I would go back to the 7th grade man. Yes, because he has been waiting for me all these years, and yes, because I still love him, and even in time my love has survived and was still strong, both today and 10 years ago. I really hope you make the right decision.

   In my opinion, you are dishonest about the 7th grade girl, because you haven't looked for her all these years, she has been waiting for you all these years, maybe if she doesn't have a boyfriend, nor have you told her that you like her, and you have the new girl. said you liked her. In my opinion, the first girl from 7th grade deserves to find a good friend who will love her and stop waiting for you, because during all these years you have done nothing to keep her, nor has she received from you the love that is deserved. She definitely doesn't know that you like her if you don't even tell her, it seems pretty unfair to me because you told the other one that you like her, the other one hasn't been waiting for you that long, and you better be with her if you don't you appreciate the first girl. Yes, don't disappoint your current girlfriend, and since she's been waiting for you "all these years" since 7th grade, has she been waiting for you, and is that why she will be so disappointed ..? However, the disappointed one must be the girl who has been waiting for you for 10 years, because it seems to me that you have constantly disappointed her until now, because you neither told her that you liked her, nor did you look for her for so long, let alone more. .. For one you can, for the other you can't be a man ..., as if one doesn't deserve ... and it's exactly the one that has been waiting for you .... so long ... And what are you afraid of, men don't they're afraid if the 7cl girl you know hasn't found a friend, it's because she didn't want to, and I guess she had candidates, but maybe she was waiting for you or true love. She didn't want to lie to someone like she doesn't love him. Are you afraid she hasn't found a friend? One day she will find and then you will not be able to get close to her .. For the new girl, with her you can start everything,

   From the Author: Answer to number 11. I don't know if you read what was written carefully, but the reason why I didn't say that I still like it very much is that as I already mentioned, after so many years I barely saw it again. a few months ago, and I didn't know if she had a boyfriend or anything else, and what had happened to her during those years, but now that I've started communicating with her more often, I'd be happy to say I like her, and if she wants us to together, I will leave the other girl.

   Author, you know, because your story was kind of like mine, only on the other side, and that's why I wrote you a comment, because I suffered a lot when I was waiting for this boy, I loved him so much ... and even more ... But for me he he has a girlfriend and is unlikely to come back to me. I'm even crying now ... because only if he was like you ... And I'm not guilty, I can't stop loving him ... from 7th grade until now. I've tried, but I can't ... I want to congratulate you on your decision, I think it's the right one, and I hope you will be happy together after so many years and you still love each other! I am very glad to see that there is a story similar to mine, and I hope it has a happy ending, good luck and love!

   And I had such an experience, in the end it turned out that the man from my past, who somehow appeared in my life, was nothing but a memory of something unexperienced to the end. At the moment you see the girl from 7th grade, but do you see all the changes in this girl. Men have the unique ability to sometimes see only what they want .... The girl you are with now is what you liked as it is without any subjective attitude influenced by past relationships.

   To 14-Man, even if the external changes over time, we all change, but in this case the love has remained, that is, the internal has not changed. The important thing is that they have been experiencing feelings for so many years and these feelings still affect them. there is. They have not changed ... time has not erased them! Whatever has changed externally, the feelings have remained inside. This is not about seeing from the outside, but about love and feelings.

   One piece of advice about the 7th grade girl: YOU are the man and I think you take the initiative because she doesn't even know you like her. Hint it to her or surprise her with something nice that she likes. Talk to her on various topics .. Women generally like romantic things, or you know her better what she likes, but make her happy .. Let her know that you have feelings too. I don't know what you did for her until now, but you can think of something, invent ... something good ... After so many years, you can finally experience your relationship ... Don't be afraid, go bold. Men are not afraid, and as she loves you, she can only rejoice. Get together! And be happy together.

   From the Author of the Topic: Hello, I am very grateful to everyone so far who commented on my story, I was expecting much more rude comments, but I am glad that I found understanding. At our next meeting with the 7th grade girl, who had a great time, and we had a great time when we came home, I decided anyway and told her that I still like her very much, and during all these years nothing has changed. I was expecting a negative answer, but she told me that she also liked me a lot, and one more thing I will not say, and she also told me that at our next meeting, we will talk, a little more because, I hope she was sincere, Because I don't know what her opinion of us is, I feel very depressed, and it hurts, even though there is no such thing, but I really love her still. And finally, to say that my feelings for her completely replaced those I had for the girl I met now. But I will be happy to hear more opinions on my topic, no matter what they are, good or bad.

   Hello! I want to tell you that I have experienced the same thing, I have been waiting for it for so many years and that is why I really wanted to help you at least be happy, now is the time to get together, your chance, because I will not be happy because he is already with another ... but at least you are! And I am very glad that there is a happy way out of the situation, well done! I am very happy for you, very much! And I'm glad that you will be together at last! Good luck, try not to mess up somewhere, but even if you make a mistake, you love each other, it's not scary! Things will work out, well done to you! Just happiness from now on and don't wait any longer, be together!

   From the Author: Another small development, you are not interested, but I still decided to share. I took another step by explaining to the girls what I like now, about the seventh grade girl I'm really in love with because I just didn't want to lie to her, and she took it for granted, and we're just friends with her now, and your attention is aimed at my old love so to speak, and from now on there is only one way, only forward and I strongly hope it will continue and not turn out to be a dead end.

   I think you did the right thing and follow your heart, because it will not let you down. The important thing is to live in harmony with ourselves. I hope everything gets better soon. You are a very cool person, well done! You are a super man! I wish I had the same incident with such a result, but it's not like that ... and I still can't forget it .. from 7th grade .. And we talked to him recently, and something ... I'm wrong, or he doesn't he loves me ... Don't think about dead ends .. The important thing is that you are honest, no matter what happens, you have a clear conscience that you do not lie to anyone .. this is the most important thing ... And when you do not lie and you are honest, then whatever happens, you can be forgiven ... if something happens, but I think everything will be fine .. Do not worry, boldly and forward, live life and do not regret anything! And love each other!

   Well, boy, I can hardly remember the seventh grader where I liked it because there would be many more. I wonder very much why lapites who are ... well, talk about love. All in good time.

   TO number 21: You have not yet met the love to get engaged and start a family. If you want, walk as much as you want, who stopped you? This is not about lapetii, 25 years is not 18 .. Some people at this age already have a family and children .. And the topic is not for mockery and comments about who can be with how many women, but for advice and something more seriously.

   From the Author to number 21 Look now I'm not one of those guys who go to bed with everyone you meet, And if you're like that, that's another matter, and just to clarify that this is not one of those forums where you write who, when, with whom, and how many times he slept, I apologize for being a little rude, but if for you the fact that after so many years I still like her is a chore, this is your personal opinion.

   Author, I am convinced that you are a very cool person and I really wish you luck and happiness after so many years. If only things could work out like that for me ... but I think in my case the man I liked from 7th grade is not as cool as you, and he forgot me ... and I still have feelings for him. And I no longer have a happy way out, except to forget it ... when I can ... because I have tried and I can't yet ... Nowadays many people don't appreciate true love, they start families, children, then abandon them, because of others, they go with several at the same time, but I'm not like that .. and when I don't love someone, I can't be with them .. Love each other, and be honest in my opinion, from now on! Time will tell what will happen. I hope everything is ok.