Physical Violence In A Relationship

   Not only will it not change, but it will get worse. And when he is convinced that you will not reunite and this is not temporary, it is very likely that he will start stalking and harassing you. I understand that it's hard for you, it's awful in the beginning - you look for guilt in yourself, you wonder what it would be like if ... where you went wrong, you remind yourself of his promises, etc. However, he gritted his teeth and went through this absolutely oligophrenic phase. Then, believe me, you will be much happier and in time you will wonder how smart you dragged him. Be completely confident, I tell you from experience, the same as yours. The only thing you will regret is that you allowed all this, and the memory remains forever. But let it be just a memory, not your present ..

   Maleeee ... Well, what would I do, of course, I'll go back to him to beat him a little more, so that I might come to my senses someday. What a psychologist what a miracle, this man is for prison. In your place, even in the 3rd humiliation, I leave. It doesn't matter how much you love a person, if he doesn't love and respect you, you have to love yourself first ... Wow, let alone beat me .... I immediately get a medical and after him a restraining order .... To a psychologist he was going to go ... where do you find them I can't understand that you like them and come back after a nice punch ... I broke up with my ex because I warned him twice that if he keeps making scandals of me when I go out with friends, I'll dump it. And so it happened the third time ... How can you tolerate such geeks. You forget that it exists at all. Have a little self-esteem and common sense.

   Classic of the genre. Your ex-boyfriend is like being written off from a psychopathy textbook. Your story follows a textbook. IT WILL NOT BE GOOD !!! Going to a psychologist is a trick to keep you going, he won't believe what the psychologist is telling him. If you want him to inflict even more serious mental and physical trauma before he kills you, go back to him. By the way, BAR is activated in emotional and stressful situations. So you are just perfect - he manipulates you, lies, beats, challenges you BAR, belittles your actions, makes you walk on tiptoe around him and watch what you do and do, destroys your self-esteem by driving you crazy (and in fact he provokes these fluctuations in your condition), destroys you mentally, and if you are separated from your parents, it will ruin you, lead you to insanity, severe depression, suicide or just kill you. You have already started to develop Stockholm Syndrome and this is not good at all. Get away from him, listen to your parents, your girlfriend. It's best to pack your bags quickly and secretly while you're with a psychologist or somewhere else - and run to your parents, because the chances of them letting you go so easily are minimal.

   It is not normal for me to live with such an individual. It is your fault that you allowed such an attitude for a long time. You write "I always wonder what it would be like if we were together again", very simply - you would take another fight.

   You really are very simple to tolerate this, your simplicity will not end well to know, but then at least if you are alive you will learn how much the manipulations of a gut cost you.

   Ohhh ... my heart is shrinking, I see more and more such topics. Okay, listen. As someone who has experienced it, I must tell you that HE WILL NOT CHANGE. And he punched him in the head. He doesn't love you. When you love someone, do you beat them? Are you crushing it? Love is one happiness, one striving to make the other feel good. If you come back, do you know how ready he will be? You will be left without support from family and friends and will keep you even stronger. Think for yourself, really think about things. Went to a psychologist ... big leek, it's a manipulation. All he does and tells you is manipulation to get you back. Okay, of course, you love him, you're used to him, but take off your pink glasses and look beyond. Love is not just living together. She is a compromise on both sides, she is respect, she is ... Everything but that. When I went to a psychologist, he told me, "In a relationship, when the initial euphoria disappears, love, respect and trust remain. If one is missing, there is no relationship." My mother kept telling me not to go back because she had gone that way too. We've been through a lot of women, and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him. 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy it. You've already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Don't be stupid, think with your head, not your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in this case you will be very wrong. In a relationship, when the initial euphoria disappears, love, respect and trust remain. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. In a relationship, when the initial euphoria disappears, love, respect and trust remain. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of a rapist. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. when the initial euphoria disappears, love, respect and trust remain. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to go back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of a rapist. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. when the initial euphoria disappears, love, respect and trust remain. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of a rapist. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to go back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of a rapist. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. If one is missing, there is no connection. "My mother kept telling me not to go back because she went that way too. A lot of women have been there and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it's he is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy him You have already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of a rapist. Do not be stupid, think with your head, not with your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in in this case you will be very wrong. We've been through a lot of women, and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him. 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy it. You've already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Don't be stupid, think with your head, not your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in this case you will be very wrong. We've been through a lot of women, and I don't know one who wants to come back after a while. Love is not just one, it is not your prince on a white horse ... I also suffered a lot when I left him. 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy it. You've already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Don't be stupid, think with your head, not your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in this case you will be very wrong. 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy it. You've already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Don't be stupid, think with your head, not your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in this case you will be very wrong. 2 months later my life became radically different and then I started to enjoy it. You've already closed the door behind you ... why open it again, knowing what will happen? Do not tread in one place. It is extremely difficult to get out of the clutches of an abuser. Don't be stupid, think with your head, not your heart. Do not rely on "follow your heart", because in this case you will be very wrong.

   You don't write how many times he beat you, or what reason he points out, any example, or what you mean by beating. Once you've managed to cover up, it's probably a matter of repulsion and slapping. In reality, if a man beats a woman with the malice and aggression you describe, her parents will not need to understand from the neighbors who heard screams, but it will be visible from afar. In reality, a woman may scream for help simply because something small has not happened to her, or she has been reprimanded. I am a witness personally, I have such a neighbor, she shouts, calls for help, calls the police, because her 32-year-old son came to visit her with his daughter-in-law for a while and told her that it was dirty to clean his house. It begins with the words "what if I don't clean up, will you beat me" and continues with a long 10-minute plea with an increasingly high-pitched tone leading to screams and shouts of "police". he curls up while screaming, he hardly hit his mother, in front of his wife, that she didn't leave her home, it's just that the woman is like that, she has some kind of psi disorder. And that's 10 minutes until the son and daughter-in-law put on their shoes and leave. Don't tell me if a neighbor says something wrong to that neighbor. For yours, he may be an aggressor, but it is also possible that he is right. "Yes, but they only heard your side of things, it's easy to talk from the side, they don't know everything," provoked me to write this quote that he flatly refuses to apologize, it is inherent in bullies who fight for no reason to apologize. Know that anyone who reaches out knows whether it is justified or not, as soon as he remembers and knows why he did it and refuses to apologize, maybe there is a justified reason. You ask How can someone deserve extremely great atrocities against his personality? Sure, especially if he has ADHD and is in a manic phase he can. If he can carry out verbal aggression, he may deserve a fight. The decision about who you will be with in your life is yours, but it is good for you to go to a psychologist and treat BAR separately, because you cannot ask for a normal relationship from a partner, and you can apply your verbal aggression to him and tolerate the excesses of your disease. I also would not tolerate being pushed into a club in front of people, who knows what you shouted in his face in front of people, but in private what scandals you raised, if she sees no reason to apologize, I draw such a conclusion. One woman. and you to apply your verbal aggression to him and to endure the excesses of your illness. I also would not tolerate being pushed into a club in front of people, who knows what you were shouting in his face in front of people, but in private what scandals you raised, if she sees no reason to apologize, I draw such a conclusion. One woman. and you to apply your verbal aggression to him and to endure the excesses of your illness. I also would not tolerate being pushed into a club in front of people, who knows what you shouted in his face in front of people, but in private what scandals you raised, if she sees no reason to apologize, I draw such a conclusion. One woman.

   Everyone has the right to a second chance, I gave a second chance but unfortunately I was not given.

   Read these topics: http://spodeli.net/story.php?ID=142708&err=102&err1=0#errPos I'm Number 12 in the comments. http://spodeli.net/6/story-101632.html Unfortunately they do not change. These are people with antisocial personality disorders. The therapy temporarily improves their behavior, but they are not permanent enough, they cannot take responsibility for their actions and generally do not believe that they have a problem, and the treatment is therapy for 5-10 years, sometimes a lifetime. If the behavior is due to addiction, there may be a lasting improvement after it is cured.

   Love is love, but violence is violence! Don't confuse the two! I am firmly against any violence against women, children or anyone else !!! Your friend is right, if you want to try therapy, but I don't think things will change! Drop it and find someone who truly loves you! Once there is a beating, LOVE IS NO LONGER !!!

   Don't go back to him! Everything is theater. Be careful that if you dig deeper, a wonderful day may kill you! There are already many such cases. Isn't your life sweeter than being with this abuser? ;

   In my opinion, if this person beats you, he certainly has either a mental problem or some kind of sociopathy. The latter can be affected to some extent by psychotherapy, but is not treated. If it is a mental problem, you should take pills and it will pass for a while, but when you stop them it will happen again. If you have a bar, you need to be a meek person to take care of you, not a freak who makes your condition worse. I would advise you to drop it and start therapy with a stabilizer or neuroleptic, depending on what you are prescribed. These pills reduce oxytocin and you stop loving the person in most cases. You will not think it and you will not suffer. And take your pills regularly and enroll in psychotherapy to take care of your health. Ask for a second and third opinion if you are not sure about your psychiatrist. And keep in mind that when no drugs are taken at the bar, people misunderstand reality and think that others are picking on them. So, in order to have fruitful connections with others, follow the therapy. And this one is a jester. Even if he is not sick, it will happen again.

   There is no such thing as a former drug addict, a former alcoholic and a former abuser. Run, run as fast and as far as possible!

   Therapy will not help him. It will be calm before the storm. You also have a problem. No matter how much you don't believe and deny, you shouldn't joke with your brain. You understand it in a certain way that you think is right and proper. But a bystander will look at you as a mineral. It is very possible that this is the case with him as well. You go to specialists. I'm not talking about newly hatched doctors, but about experienced ones. There are also new doctors who understand their work, but you can't go around all of them. I saw how many comments are waiting for approval and I did not think to write to you. But you are very close to my case. I lived with a woman at 34 and I was 33. Everything was going pretty well. I thought that over time we would get to know and love each other. We held hands for 6-7 months and tried to cope with life. We lived together after the second month when we met. He cooked, cleaned, he went to work and we helped each other in everything. I said to myself; "- This is the woman for me and the mother of my dream child"! I sat across from her and dropped my cards. I also said: - "I have this and that", "I can do this and that", "I dream of a child and a family", "Will you stay with me or will we stop wasting our time"? He asked for 2 days to think and stayed with me. After numerous attempts, the gynecologist confirmed that she was pregnant in the second month. Before we met, she had gone to a goiter specialist. From time to time her throat tightened and she suffocated. From there they prescribe zinc and selenium / minerals /. For 7-8 months, you will not drink them and gradually the tightness in the throat subsides. But the gynecologist stopped them and prescribed folic acid. Over the next month, this woman scrolled! Daily scandals began. Everyone annoyed her. Everyone was against her. I have heard such words and expressions for which I had to brush my teeth many times. She closes her eyes and ears and arranges her nonsense. Our mother and father can't hear anyone. She left work shortly before we found out she was pregnant. With 1000 torments I managed to hang her with an acquaintance to work until she came out on maternity leave. I was obliged to provide and feed her and not for the state to pay for her maternity leave. With great difficulty and closing my mouth on my part, I took her to the delivery room at term. The water also leaked at 3 at night and at 4 he was in the maternity ward with two telephones and my many requests to call me at least twice a day. She was kept for two days for a normal birth. On the third day, it was urgently cut at 6 in the morning. The child is stillborn. only in the 5th minute did he cry in the cuviose. And I understood this thing on the fourth day after my numerous calls that were not answered and I sent my GP to find her. They were kept for a whole week and the discharge was like a funeral! Throughout her pregnancy, I invited her to read literature, advice and information on raising a child. DO NOT READ ONE BOOK! He put the little creature to suck. But in the 5th minute it fell asleep. I deliberately pushed him not to fall asleep but to eat, but I couldn't always be by their side. "He was asleep, so he was full and fed." In the third month, I saw that this child was not doing well and started buying formula. Her breast milk stopped in the third month. I was afraid to touch him, so as not to hurt him. I called my mother to bathe him. Then "Desdemona" jumped up and started pushing and ordering in the same way who we were, that we do anything! Jump to beat my mother in front of the basket of a three-month-old baby! I tore them apart and put out the fire as best I could. From that day on, the two lurked and insulted each other. The scandals became more severe and constant. I got to a point where I didn't want to go home! I distanced myself from her. I turned all my love and essence to my child. I live to this day just because of him. Over the years, it has happened once or twice to hold on to the hair. I was patient, I was patient, but a man's glass is filling up. I talked to her from time to time. It so happened that he found no cause for scandal. I bowed my head. I agreed with many things that I knew she was wrong. I hoped that this attitude would fade away. For 7 years now I have been silent and clenching my teeth. We also came to the development of the child. He started saying words when he was about two and a half years old. Grandma, mom, dad, bye. It showed how big he wanted to be. A little late, but the child was developing. At the age of three, he was given the pentavalent vaccine and that was the end of his development! He stopped talking. He still talks to this day in his baby language. He goes to his pants in great need, and he is 6 years old! We toured a sum of you and specialists and psychologists. He behaves as if with the signs of autism, but he is diagnosed with a general disease of mental development. This year he was even taken with a telco. We went to psychologists, family psychologists. Many of them explained to us that this child needed peace and attention. The family psychologist did two sessions with us, and in the second session he crossed out the sheet with his notes and said to me: - "I can't do anything with such a woman"! In turn, "Desdemona" he turned and told him a chamber of nonsense in which was the insulting address "unfortunate"! Psychologist. With iron nerves and high professionalism, he shouted in the office and asked me to take her out. And everything was happening around the child. Nobody was the master of her mouth and brain. I put up with that. From time to time, as my glass filled, I raised my voice, but quickly lowered it. Not only that, but someone let go of the fly that black magic had been done. A burdensome payment of telephone bills of BGN 100-150 each has started. For years I have been paying for two cards of 15 at most BGN 20. I realized that she started calling the magicians. You secretly found another phone card and an additional credit card from me. When we met, he had a BGN 1,000 credit card and gold pledged. I also paid them and warned her that I did not want to enter the banking schemes. It started with her aunt first. He told her that he had done black magic on her and her brother and that they would never be happy. Her brother works in another country and there is no mention of a family, but he is 42. So her aunt became a witch! He turned his mother, father and brother against her. They sent with your brother and a sum and money to the magicians for spoiling and talismans. Then it started with my mother. And she was a witch and did magic with the hodja! She can't be alone, of course, that's why my grandmother / my mother's mother / added! I talked to her. With her parents. Her brother raised his hands and said do not bother me. What did I not try! There were 4-5 girlfriends who 3 of them grabbed my head and asked me how I put up with it ?! My friends offered me to dare her and get a little scared. I reached out two or three times, but I felt and stopped before I broke something. I'm talking about a slap or twisting of the hand. I didn't grind her to the point of screaming for help. And yet, there is no lull! Many times I have threatened to file a lawsuit for parental rights. But due to the fact that we have appointed judges who are only looking to tick the number in the list for a percentage of the salary, I do not see any sense in going around the courts. I had many records of how and why scandals are raised at home and how the child is shouted at. But I don't know if they would have evidence in court. I don't have extra money to pay lawyers for a consultation. Even if I win the case, I don't want to see the child and harm him. If I'm allowed in the courtroom to ask her two or three questions, I'm sure I won't need a lawyer to see what a brainless beast she is. From visits to child psychologists, they called me one day in private. The child's psychologist was a well-known and good specialist. He called only me and explained in two or three words about his mother's condition and about pills which, when he starts taking the child, will differentiate things from autism or something more harmless. One kind of after drug therapy, I'll know if my son is autistic or he'll be fine. I agreed. A month passed and the psychologist reassured us that the child does not have autism and will be fine, but we should continue to give him these pills. After a year, increase the dose from 1 milligram to two milligrams. There are about 10 pills of 1 milligram left. I inquired about them and found that they are weak sedatives for children. Earlier, Desdemona had blood tests and low hemoglobin levels. Anemia. I also have this diagnosis. But I have the most common headache, while she has dizziness, fatigue and poor hydration of the brain. Add to that the tightening of the neck and fall into schizophrenic hysteria! They found out that the child was also anemic and prescribed drops of iron to drip into the milk. Someone pushed me from inside to give to her as well. And what happened? Calm down immediately. He began to speak normally. He thought normally. I didn't believe it. And so on until the package is finished. Time passed and the wizards began to prevail. The sedatives for the child that had remained, and arrived in ten days. I was convinced with my own eyes that there is a lack of something in the body and that makes her go crazy and talk nonsense. I've made her go to the doctor many times and drink something for her throat. She turns things around and tells me that my mother and I are on pills. I explained to her mother, a woman from the village who had been killed at work and her mother-in-law, that things were the same. He behaves this way and that. By giving the child harmless medication, that he behaves like another person. Desdemona treats her mother in the same way as everyone else. He insults her. He hits me. / As if in anger /! No one can give her advice or a brain. I wrote 7 years of misfortunes and troubles from my life. I don't even know if you would bother to read them. But don't just blame others. Look within yourself. The fact that you stopped the medication is not harmless. The doctor told me that the body is changing, hence the level of disease. Kind of, you can't stop a drug and help it in a year. Illness or lack of something in the body changes. You need new tests and medical intervention for medications. Be alive and healthy and do not make my mistakes. I wrote 7 years of misfortunes and troubles from my life. I don't even know if you would bother to read them. But don't just blame others. Look within yourself. The fact that you stopped the medication is not harmless. The doctor told me that the body is changing, hence the level of disease. Kind of, you can't stop a drug and help it in a year. Illness or lack of something in the body changes. You need new tests and medical intervention for medications. Be alive and healthy and do not make my mistakes. I wrote 7 years of misfortunes and troubles from my life. I don't even know if you would bother to read them. But don't just blame others. Look within yourself. The fact that you stopped the medication is not harmless. The doctor told me that the body is changing, hence the level of disease. Kind of, you can't stop a drug and help it in a year. Illness or lack of something in the body changes. You need new tests and medical intervention for medications. Be alive and healthy and do not make my mistakes. Illness or lack of something in the body changes. You need new tests and medication. Be alive and healthy and do not make my mistakes. Illness or lack of something in the body changes. You need new tests and medication. Be alive and healthy and do not make my mistakes.

   Are you crazy??? Erase it from your life, I never loved you !!! They do not encroach on normal people, not to mention a loved one. And I have a daughter, if I find out that someone is joking in this way, as with you, I will break his bones, he will see such prophylaxis, his poor imagination !!!

   It's not for a psychologist, you're both a psychiatrist. You are also diagnosed with bipolar disorder, which is a mental illness, and you have stopped taking the medication yourself. Well, at least you broke up without having a baby.

   Yours is Stockholm Syndrome, probably read about it online. I don't know how much the therapy will help your friend, but I strongly believe that you should do a few sessions with a psychologist or psychotherapist. You're not crazy, you don't think I'm calling you a yellow book, but you're scared, confused, and you have to pay attention. You love your abuser, this is your story in 3 words. I would not return to him in your place. I would not allow anyone to humiliate me with the ground. Fighting, shouting, accusations - what are you, a man or a punching bag? No one can help you if you yourself do not want to end this relationship and save yourself. They can only sew you up, give you painkillers, take you to the hospital ... all things like 'after the rain hood'. Imagine marrying him and having children. Will you be able to leave the cubs with their father or will you be afraid that they will provoke him and he will beat them? Do you remember that a pregnant woman will shake you on the floor? Then what ... we're looking at children with disabilities who would be in perfect health if Dad hadn't punched Mom from an early pregnancy. You will be told that you are fat, swollen, disgusting, and then that you are a bad mother, a bad wife. Bullies do everything to leave you without self-confidence. They make sure your self-esteem is below zero so that you don't run away and feel guilty about fighting and insults. Then they boldly impose and do not stop after 1-2 meetings with a psychologist. Your man will not go to the psychologist regularly, he will go several times and say that the specialist is a charlatan. They won't help him because he doesn't feel guilty about the things he did. He refuses to apologize to you, he says that you are to blame for what happened, he does not see his mistake, he tries to lie to you that you take him again. You were bad with him, but he shouldn't have blown you away, he should have just dumped you and explained that he didn't like your attitude. You have to do the same now. Leave him because you don't like his attitude.

   Wait for him to chase you with an ax, then think about it. It is not a lie that only the man can do the worst to himself.

   I was a victim of verbal violence, and in the same way he had instilled in me that I was provoking him and almost getting what I deserved. I got depressed - pills, roaring, suicidal thoughts. BUT ... I went to a psychologist because I am more valuable! Then the psychologist made me believe in myself, I gained self-confidence, I crushed him mentally. In my opinion, you should go to a psychologist so that with the questions he asks you and the situations in which he puts you, you can come to the conclusion how important YOU are. You will see that garbage has no place in your life. He won't change - if he hits you more than once, he'll hit you again. I guess you don't want your children to see you crushed mentally and physically one day? Throw him out of your life and the right person will come!

   You're looking at things the wrong way, I think. Sure, you both have problems, but the question is, what is his? The answer is that you noted that he did not feel bad after the beating and did not apologize. It's an antisocial spectrum disorder or psychopathy / sociopathy ... both groups are incapable of conscience (except borderline, but that's not it). Why is it important? Because many people think they can save them. I give an example: I have Complex PTSD, as a result of my first 10 years, when my father regularly lubricated my mother and sister from a fight, he chased my sister with a knife, my mother died as a result, and my sister became a heroin addict. . I was antisocial until I was 16, due to social phobia ... I was rejected by my classmates and so on and so forth. As a result, when I started a relationship (homosexual, with a girl, which is much bigger than me) I "swung" with a manipulator ... she was addicted to amphetamines, she used me financially, she didn't leave when I asked her to leave me (she lived at home), when I chased her - she started to cut herself or to push his hands / head against the wall, he threatened me that he would sleep on the benches, etc ... always after 3 hours of screaming - my nerves couldn't stand it and I slapped her. She, of course, defended herself ... but she was always bruised ... the most serious of her injuries was from her own head-to-wall crashes, and then I blushed in front of people because I seemed to have done it, and I'm not going to explain that she's fighting alone and she's wrong. So ... I always felt bad afterwards ... I apologized to her for days ... I cried for hours ... I got depressed and I hated being like my father. When I limited her manipulations - we stopped arguing for a year and a half. We broke up and I went to a psychologist voluntarily. I've been going for two years now, but I don't want to hear about her either. I would not return. I gave you an example to see the differences. Not only from a guilty conscience, but also an idea: leave it for a year, two, three and see if it still walks ... but without getting it in your eyes, because it will be a manipulation. For example, my ex and I are blocked everywhere, I removed all her relatives from everywhere to make sure she has nowhere to look at me ... like some of her friends I know she can "use". Good luck. .. but without getting it in your eyes, because it will be a manipulation. For example, my ex and I are blocked everywhere, I have removed all her relatives from everywhere to make sure she has nowhere to look at me ... like some of her friends I know she can "use". Good luck. .. but without getting it in your eyes, because it will be a manipulation. For example, my ex and I are blocked everywhere, I have removed all her relatives from everywhere to make sure she has nowhere to look at me ... like some of her friends I know she can "use". Good luck.

   You say that you have BAR, in itself people with BAR are dangerous for the people around them. In the beginning, he treated you well until you touched him. He didn't feel good about pushing him in a public place. You tried to accuse him of infidelity - for any self-respecting man, this is quite hurtful. We all read here only about his actions towards you, but you do not mention yours. He has reached such moments, probably because tension has been created between you. I think you're both a psychologist, if you love each other and want to be together, why don't you both go? Sometimes I am amazed how a Bulgarian understands everything - people without the necessary qualifications define other people, even the person next to them. You lived together - that's very nice, but what was the next stage of your relationship? I think you're obsessed - in the beginning you had fun going to clubs, as you wrote? And he was probably silent, because he was also worried about saying something that would provoke your anger. To save another quarrel, another portion of insults, another shouts. You missed the moment for the development of your relationship, you did not bring freshness to it - but you blamed each other for the lack of freshness in the relationship, from there the tension rises daily. You, as a person with ADHD, have probably taken him out of your nerves and self-control quite often. And when a person with ADHD stops treatment, he returns to the final episodes - if you had continued your treatment, you would probably feel better, and from there your relationship would be better. Despite everything, the boy is aware of his problems, as soon as he tells you he's going to see a psychologist. It is also worth respecting the fact that despite your diagnosis, he has remained with you. I myself have a BAR and when men find out about this thing, they run away from me. I don't justify his atrocities in any way, but really think about how you provoked him. I have never understood why people do not listen to the people next to them, but trust outsiders for this connection, you have even entered this site and seek advice from people you do not know. Each case is strictly individual for itself, so I think that if you both go together to a psychologist you can build a path to each other again. There has been verbal and physical aggression towards the other on both sides, in such moments it is somehow not correct to blame only one side for everything. The boy wants to deal with his problem, because he wants to bring you back to himself, because he loves you, and what do you do with your treatment? You stopped him suddenly. It is quite complicated for you, but in my opinion everything is achieved with desire. With my comment I tried to be different from the above comments. We live in a country where it's easiest to be scolded on the street, everyone has the capacity for everything, and this site generally has only hate and very few accurate and sincere comments. If you still have feelings, try to build a bridge to it. "I was fascinated by the idea that he had cheated on me." In my opinion, you have often been fascinated by some unrealistic ideas that are unlocked after stopping the treatment of ADHD. In my opinion, your mistakes are: - stopping your treatment; -the lack of diversity in your relationship; -your accusation against him for infidelity and other things; -BAR, because of which the moods change a lot, and creates anxiety in the other person; -probably while you were arguing that you were rude to each other, and from there there was a lack of normal communication; -the anxiety created by verbal aggression from one to the other; What you can do: -meetings with a psychologist together; -to renew your own treatment; -to try to diversify your relationship; -to open your ears more to each other; -try to reduce verbal aggression; - Calm conversations. I hope I helped with something. -to renew your own treatment; -to try to diversify your relationship; -to open your ears more to each other; -try to reduce verbal aggression; - Calm conversations. I hope I helped with something. -to renew your own treatment; -to try to diversify your relationship; -to open your ears more to each other; -try to reduce verbal aggression; - Calm conversations. I hope I helped with something.

   as some wrote above. Everyone deserves a second chance, think when you were diagnosed with BAR that he was standing next to you and probably fought for your happiness. Now he wants a second chance.

   As long as you live for the opinion of your parents and girlfriends, you will always suffer, or at least you will not be a completely happy girl. As far as I understand from reading you, your remorse is that you told everyone your version of your separation, and you do not want to part with this person. And now you are looking for support from the writers on the site. Some will say leave him, others will say give him a chance, others will say that you shouldn't have stopped your treatment, that you also contributed with your aggression. Others - that he was aggressive. These people were not in your relationship, and I noticed that on this site people only mention their versions (normally everyone writes the first gender singular). He is aware of his problems, I don't know about you. Think about dropping the boy in your life.

   I don't think it will change. Mila, think about this man, even if he changed, would you continue with him? I wouldn't, just the memory of him beating me would pull me away. How are you going to lie down next to him and pretend that nothing happened. These problems are the fault of both parties, the truth is that you are not for each other. Once there are misunderstandings and constant scandals, there is no future.

   On this site, only women write and inspire each other. I don't want to offend, but reading advice from people unknown to you is strange to say the least. Heal yourself.