Hello. I am a 27 year old man and I also have my own unpleasant story like all of you. I've been in a relationship with a girl for 3 years ... it's a relationship, but what a relationship only ... Now I'll tell you. My girl is from another city, 450 km. from mine. I work and she is a student, so you know how much we are together. Even the 3 summers of our 3 year relationship are not together. The first summer I was on a business trip abroad, and she was in Bulgaria, and the second 2 summers she went on a brigade to the USA. In general we see each other on Saturdays and Sundays and in the summer we do not see each other. :( But despite everything so far we have supported and held for each other, we dreamed together about our future, we loved each other a lot. Our sex has always been a "madhouse" of feelings and sensations, awesome great. We fought naturally , but all the quarrels stemmed from the fact that we miss each other a lot and we are separated. 2 months ago we were arguing because she kept telling me that she was dating boys, and how much they liked her and took her down, and I baked ... hellish jealousy came up and I just asked her not to go out with these men alone, I didn't blame her, I just wanted to keep her from getting into risky situations. And so it started and we quarreled. We didn't write to each other for half a month, I was angry that I was angry about such a thing, I just wanted not to lose it. And she just kept saying, "You're ruining my summer, with your jealousy, I want to have fun." I would do anything for her if she was annoyed that I only see women - I stop. In fact, for the last 3 years, the real happiness for me has been to make her happy. And a week ago, at a wonderful moment, I found out that he was having sex with his colleague in the United States. We talked about it, we didn't fight, we're reasonable people, and she comes up with explanations. " you didn't write to me and didn't call me for 15 days and I thought you didn't want me anymore and you dumped me and that's why you slept with your colleague. She was very sorry, she didn't know if she wanted to be with me because she was no longer as crazy about me as in the beginning, but somehow she felt calm but strong love. She had lost hope for us. She had been terribly smart there all summer, and stuff like that. She claims that her colleague is just a friend nothing more, she was not in love with him, she wanted me, she loved me. But I doubt she continues to sleep with him even though she wants me to forgive her and be with me. She told me that he was very much in love with her ... but I think that in order to fall in love with a girl you need a little more than sleeping with her twice, there were feelings, no matter how much he claims to be just a friend and colleague. I want to forgive her !!! I love her! Although our whole "relationship" or "phone love" is strange and impossible. But if he continues to sleep with him and writes to me "I want you, I love you, forgive me", I don't know how to act, it's very confusing. I don't know if this is a reason to break up now and not suffer anymore ... I don't know ... I know that what I wrote to you is confusing for you, but I hope you understand me at least a little. Thanks.
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There may be more affection and love left than love, but that's normal. If she's been there for a long time, it's no wonder she's found a man for sex. If you forgive her and she really stops doing it, but really never - ok. Otherwise, what will be this connection ?? Maybe you should think if he asks you to do such a thing, whether he loves you at all and whether it is worth investing so much in your relationship. Because this "you didn't write to me and didn't call me for 15 days and I thought you didn't want me anymore and you dumped me for that too" sounds like a STUPID EXCUSE to me! If she really loves you, and if you don't call her for a month, she won't stray from the right path, but will think you have a reason. So if he doesn't promise not to cheat on you anymore, you better find another one!