Hello! I'm a girl, 20 years old. Here I want to unravel a very disturbing topic for me, which so far I do not find the courage to share with anyone. I graduated from an elite school and am currently studying at a medical university. I participate in various organizations and projects and in general I am a very diligent, good and purposeful person. My problem is that when it comes to sexual experiences, I'm just ... perverted. Or perverted, rude ... whatever you want to call it. I like many different things, such as being tied up, slapped, suffocated while having sex (I also had fantasies with much rougher and "vulgar" things). I also like the idea of being fucked by several men at once. In general, I am a masochist and I feel how to some extent the pain gives me pleasure. The very thought of rudeness and violence excites me. I love men dominating me and that makes me feel amazing. I like to give pleasure to my partner and I would do anything to achieve it, this is one of my leading areas in sex. But when it comes to my pleasure ... I'm really not sure if I can share everything with the Man without it happening so that he thinks I'm crazy and slams the door in front of my eyes. So my question is mainly to men, boys, what do you think Would you tolerate such a girl and how would you react to her desires and sexual fantasies? Does it repel you, does it excite you, are you neutral ... I'm really very confused. But when it comes to my pleasure ... I'm really not sure if I can share everything with the Man without it happening so that he thinks I'm crazy and slams the door in front of my eyes. So my question is mainly to men, boys, what do you think? Would you tolerate such a girl and how would you react to her desires and sexual fantasies? Does it repel you, does it excite you, are you neutral ... I'm really very confused. But when it comes to my pleasure ... I'm really not sure if I can share everything with the Man without it happening so that he thinks I'm crazy and slams the door in front of my eyes. So my question is mainly to men, boys, what do you think? Would you tolerate such a girl and how would you react to her desires and sexual fantasies? Does it repel you, does it excite you, are you neutral ... I'm really very confused.
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Only on fairy tales to the author, only on fairy tales.
it is a pity that contacts cannot be left ...
I was just thinking of answering you comprehensively, but you only ask men. Sorry babe, I'm not a man. Otherwise you are not perverted, you just like BDSM. Read a little more about it. Magicians
There is a suitable partner for everyone.
it's repulsive ... pain to give you pleasure, love is for giving tenderness and not slapping
Perversion is a sign that you have lost your sensitivity, and now you need larger doses of chills to feel the thrill. In my opinion, such a decline can be explained by some overripe people who have to get aroused by their old, tired partner. But to be a pervert is very sad. I do not have good predictions, I have read a lot on the subject, because I had such an acquaintance. Soon, large doses will not be enough for you, which means that numbness intensifies, and this inevitably leads to asexuality.
I was a boy many years ago, but I will still speak, with the permission of the author. One day she will live to communicate with men my age :) If we mean sex for one or several nights, I would probably welcome such a partner. But I'm not sure about the permanent. I'm even sure I wouldn't. When someone wants to humiliate him, you gradually lose your respect for that person. And that can be dangerous. Uncontrolled power over someone removes restraints, and perfectly normal people can become sadistic freaks. If the author is interested, let her search the web for information about the experiments of Philip Zimbardo and Stanley Milgram. I would not want such a thing to happen between me and the woman with whom I am connected by feelings. And with no woman at all, I respect and love them too much. PS. I explicitly want to emphasize that what I said is not a reproach to the author. J. Silver
At first it excites me, but if it's a serious relationship, it would repel me ... M22
Number 6 is repulsive to you, but it's not about love, it's about sexual experiences. Not everyone is sublime and gentle, some like rougher sex and there is nothing wrong. There are all kinds of people who like different things, all kinds of sex and fetishes. Why do you think there are so many types of love games, fantasies and people get excited about so many things? For some people it will be perverse to be tied up in sex or even a blowjob, for others it is everyday and even banal. However, they have no right to call others "congested," and others have no right to judge others for their sexual urges if they like. In my opinion, if both partners like something (if there are only two :)), then it is not bad at all. You like to be tied up and dominated, you are perfect for men, who like to be sadists and have "victims". For others, the opposite is true, some men like them to be the victims and women to dominate. The human imagination can run wild to invent amazing things in sex. Some say that perversions are invented by people who have lost interest in ordinary sex due to lack of love and feelings in the act, but tell me, if there are so many people who like something, it is not dangerous for them and they do it, why is it bad It would be bad if someone raped you, but for example it is wrong to judge a woman for having anal sex because it does not seem moral to you. In general, there are masochistic talents in the psyche of women, so it is not so strange, just in some it is more pronounced. The problem is that for a man it would be commendable almost to be rude and to " which are perverted, for me the worst thing is to impose your views on someone. Take for example sexual topics before, it was taboo. There were also perversions and sexual desires then, just because people tried to cover them up doesn't mean they didn't exist. Then suddenly the sexual revolution flares up and it comes to the point that nowadays you profit from sex and what was forbidden is now almost necessary by society to be "respected", and it is different for everyone, one will be spit, the other -praised, depending on the decision of the majority. This is stupid for me, you should not be afraid of what you are and be ashamed of, nor should you be so proud of your sexual inclinations, to flaunt them and confuse the minds of others, because children, for example, suffer precisely from that, watch porn, they understand how to have sex, but they know nothing about love and relationships. Porn creates a false impression and causes terrible things. Here is an example of excessive propaganda, and excessive conservatism and bans also do not lead to anything good. I missed the point a lot, I'm sorry, but it opens up a lot of other things for me. Author, don't be ashamed of what you are! There is nothing wrong with what excites you if you like it. Just be liberal and tolerant of other people, because they are big hypocrites! If you like something, do it because you want to. You enjoy it, you will do it with someone who shares your interests and no, it is not bad if it gives you pleasure and if it does not hurt anyone morally or physically. If it hurts you, but you like it, it's still not bad because you want it, right? That doesn't mean everyone has to be like you, and that they simply should not think that if they accept something as normal, only things within its limits are correct and everyone should take an example from them! Sex should neither be overdone nor become an incredible taboo! Girl of 17
You are not perverted. This is BDSM, I think someone above wrote it
BDSM is a fashion like smoking and rock and roll - no one is born with it, it is cultivated and is a kind of fun :) But if it comes from inside you and you do not imitate - it is still a perversion.
Calm down, you're on such a wave now, live it. Women generally like to be dominated, but there is a difference between domination and humiliation, not to mention causing pain. I'm also quite perverted, I love a woman drinking my urine for example. But it does not give me pleasure to humiliate or intentionally cause pain !!! Not that at some points I don't cause pain, for example during anal sex, but that's different. Introduce your partner gradually into these desires of yours, and stop where you feel that he does not like ... M 44
as long as you find someone who likes these things too ... it shouldn't be a problem
I don't see anything wrong
It's called BDSM. More than half of people are BDSM, conscious or not. Do not worry.
It's perfectly normal, a lot of people have similar desires, as they said above, it's BDSM. It has varieties, but if you do not go to extremes there is nothing wrong. If you find a suitable partner who also likes these things, it will be great for both of you. And don't listen to the negative comments above - people write nonsense, you have no problem, even for some people it is very exciting and they would give anything for such a partner.
To number 10, and you say you're a 17-year-old girl, a well-graduated psychologist, could hardly explain the subject better. As for the author's pressures, everything is fine, as long as you find the right person to share them with.
№16, who is BDSM, is certainly aware and does not unknowingly drag him like that, and he does not understand. The author does not know that this is BDSM, but she uses the term masochism, and it is part of BDSM and is absolutely in class. Only a partner with the same needs can respond to such a preference. This topic is so chewed up on this site that if you dig into the author, you will surely come to this conclusion. People who are oriented to the so-called vanilla sex can not accept it as normal and enjoy it.
Number 2 is another man who thinks that only they want. I completely understand the author ... I just don't understand what worries you? There are MANY but MANY men who love rough fucking, so you won't be dissatisfied. If they bother with gossip and talk about you, don't care at all. You will easily find a man who will satisfy your sexual fantasies with pleasure. It is also my dream to do it with several men at the same time, but there are few men in BG who will agree without investing any emotions and feelings of any kind. They're too limited ... so, good luck finding men who will just fuck you without caring and keep an eye on you.
I was pissed off by the babe at 17! Well done, you're really into things!
Thanks to the 17-year-old girl, I think she answered your question. CONGRATULATIONS !!!
The baby at 17 is great!
From the author :) Thank you very much everyone! You really made me believe a little more in myself and find the courage to share my desires and inclinations with the "person next to me". I've found that quite a few people have fun this way and it makes me feel charged! Special greetings and admirations for №10, she was the catalyst for my intentions. Such girls? Bulgaria needs - smart, sweet-spoken, intelligent and open-minded. :)
From the babe of 17: D Thank you very much for the nice comments, I don't think it's that difficult to understand and many people are aware of these things. Girl of 17