I am a woman of 44. I have been divorced for 8 years. and I have a second "husband / husband" with whom we have not been officially married, but we have a 5-year-old child. For him, this is the first child. I have two older children from my first marriage, who are 18 and 16 years old - a boy and a girl. I divorced my first husband because of a dissimilarity in character, on my own initiative. There was no infidelity. It was very difficult for me to divorce, he refused to give me a divorce to the last and claimed that he cared for me and that he loved me. However, I divorced. My children's parental rights were assigned to me. Regarding the family home, my husband offered to sell it and to deposit the money in euros in the name of each of the children until they reach the age of majority. He went to the apartment, and we moved into the apartment of my parents, who moved to live in the villa. The husband has always paid alimony on a regular basis. He kept in touch with the children and I never limited them. My ex-husband is an electrical engineer by profession and has been working abroad in Germany for three and a half years. He insisted that my children travel to him every month, even for two or three days. All expenses were at his expense. I didn't stop them. At the moment, both of my children live with him. After the divorce, I didn't let a man near me for a long time, but in the end I got scared. My so-called second husband is three years younger than me, a bachelor until he met me. I loved him because he was calm and balanced, or so it seemed to me. He was very delicate with my children. He showed a certain tightness, but I didn't pay much attention to that. He moved in with me and my children. I gave birth to a child 5 years ago, a boy. I can't hide that my children from my first marriage showed some distance to him and to me, especially when I was pregnant with my third child. They stayed with their father for a long time and I made constant scandals to get them home. I gave birth to a child, but he had health problems. I went to doctors all the time, quit my job, worked in a private company and there was no one to tolerate my absences. We were left with only my second husband's salary and that made him nervous, scandals started, and it affected the maintenance of my children from my first marriage. Bad job at all. The children were not happy at all and told me in plain text that they did not want to live with me anymore, but with their father. They asked me not to stop them, so it was better. I did not stop them and they went to Germany with their father to study and live. They have been there for almost three years. At the age of 4, however, my child was diagnosed with a tumor, which urgently (within a month) had to be removed. They couldn't help me in Bulgaria and I had to have surgery abroad, they recommended a clinic in Germany. The craniocerebral surgery, together with the stay and other additional costs, cost 70,000 euros. I didn't have any time. I know as a mother what I have experienced. I spoke with my second husband and his relatives, who told me categorically that they had no money to help me and no property to sell. They lied, but that's another topic. I didn't have time to open a fundraiser, it was just the most extreme option possible. However, my parents were ready to sell everything and the apartment and the villa, but they had nowhere to live. My father then offered me to settle in a nursing home. I also started thinking about a mortgage, but they only gave me half the money. Then my second husband began to persuade me to encroach on the money of my other two children, as I had mentioned to him the sale of our family home. I explained to him that we are great people, this child is ours and we have to deal with the problem ourselves. My other children don't owe us anything. Then he started accusing me of not loving the child of him, of watching more for my other children. My nerves were unbearable and I made such a scandal of him and kicked him out of the house. He went to his parents. Dad came from the villa and started to get documents to sell the apartment in Sofia and he called me all 50,000 we will take from him, the other 20,000 there is no way not to come. And the doctors there may be waiting for you. My mother cries and shouts, call Milen, this is the name of the ex, break this pride. Your children are with him, it's about saving lives. I picked up the phone and called him, explained everything to him about the child's illness and the problems with my second husband, etc. He shouted at him without thinking, grab the child and did not think about money. We are waiting for you! I called my second husband and told him I had to leave. He wanted him to come too, he was going to take a vacation. I told him to secure 5,000 euros from the godfather's shame and come with me. He became furious and slammed my phone, saying that he very much doubted whether the child was his and various other nonsense. I was no longer angry. It's good that I had a power of attorney certified before and I left for Germany. My ex and my children were waiting for me and I and my third child welcomed me very warmly. My first husband had already secured the money. I will not heal the date 05. 03. 2015 was then the operation of my child and they removed the tumor. Thank God there were no distractions. Everything went well. For three months, the child was recovering in the clinic and under medical supervision. My daughter was always by my side and canceled me, and my son and my first husband were always available. After I was discharged from their clinic, my children and my husband invited me to visit them at home for another two months. It was beautiful. The child adapts wonderfully. I had the opportunity to be alone with my ex several times. I offered his father at least to transfer the ownership of the apartment in Sofia to him. I knew that this money was for our children, but with it he saved the life of a child unknown to him. She didn't want anything. He told me that both my little child and I should have a home. He hugged me and cried so much on his shoulder. The children brought me back to the memories when we were a family and when I watched them my heart overflowed with joy. All this time, my second husband once did not pick up the phone and once refused to hear me. I wrote him an e-mail and there is no answer. I returned to Bulgaria. A letter in the mail was waiting for me. In it he explained to me that he was parting with me forever, that I had used it over the years and did not deserve it, that the child did not feel it as his own. Apparently, the last difficult years along with the health of our child had taken his mind ... At the moment, a lawsuit is being filed by me against my second husband for depriving him of parental rights. Let my little son know who saved his life, instead of who created it ... Am I right? that the child did not feel it as his own. Apparently the last difficult years along with the health of our child had taken his mind ... At the moment a lawsuit is being filed by me against my second husband for depriving him of parental rights. Let my little son know who saved his life, instead of who created it ... Am I right? that the child did not feel it as his own. Apparently, the last difficult years along with the health of our child had taken his mind ... At the moment, a lawsuit is being filed by me against my second husband for depriving him of parental rights. Let my little son know who saved his life, instead of who created it ... Am I right?
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I would write a lot, but I will only say this - the apartment you sold with your ex was 50% yours, ie in the end half is divided between all your children and half of your husband between his. And what do you teach your children - not to help a sick brother? And if your parents had sold it, wouldn't money be taken from the inheritance of your older children again? Finally, the two men in your life think more soberly than you, and your children are older. NB !!! Think about other people's behavior, but also think about your own! Health and luck! ж28