Human life is an ego. With age, the ego begins to die - mentally and physically. He has to make this transfer from the personal, to the children, and then to the grandchildren. It's pretty simple. I don't know how old you are, that you don't understand what selfishness is, what death is, how reproduction and the life cycle are ...
It is good to receive help and support from your parents, but when a certain limit is exceeded, it becomes harmful. Do you think it is a good idea for parents to come and help their 18-19 year old children fill out their application for university ?! That if they can't do it alone by this age, imagine what amazing mother's sons and daughters we are talking about, completely incapable of dealing with the most basic thing in life on their own. So don't envy them! They will still understand what a "bearish" service mom and dad did them with their excessive pampering.
Therefore, rejoice that even though it was sometimes difficult and painful for you, that your parents are not like that and do not support you, you have learned to be independent.
It is normal to help your child, but you also need to teach him to cope alone. You don't owe anyone to fix it. You're just sad that no one took care of you like that. In that case, become a parent yourself and take care of yourself. Put yourself first and be your "obsessive parent."
And how exactly do they crush, asking for help with any documents? !! You have a place at the university, no one will take it from you. You sound like those who don't let you rewrite their lectures if you're absent. It's as if there are a number of good grades and if they help they will fuck up somehow. Or they just get annoyed that you can achieve the same result with less effort. The thing is, as the period with the grades in the book passes, real life begins. No one counts your points anymore, but looks at how you are doing in the real environment. And those who, if they help, feel fucked up, can't work in a team, everyone is to blame and they just sabotage the team, and thus the company's activity. And instead of looking at their work, they look closely at the work of others, who, how long they have lunch and why, hell, gets the same salary. Just because someone succeeds doesn't mean they steal your success. There are sixes for everyone, do you understand?
There will be one where the parents not only fill in their documents, but also write their term papers or buy their exams. There will be those who will get a high position with connections, or whistles, all that. However, they do not steal your success, you steal it by focusing on them instead of on yourself. The easiest thing is to be a victim forever, to have more of others forever, to be fucked forever, but to be such is a choice, not a consequence of circumstances.
And I in the queue at the traffic police, I saw 20-year-old boys with their mothers, they can't copy their ID card data on an application. And I heard how they took their driving from the first time, and I showed up 3 times, I can't envy them, man. Neither for the mother, nor that they coped faster. On the contrary, it became tragicomic to me.
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