Our Daughter Is Not Interested In Us

   Your daughter will come to her senses, but too late.

   Why aren't you happy that you became a grandmother, that your daughter is happy and has a child? What about the fact that she dropped out, if she wants an education she can always finish part-time. And when they recover and her boyfriend's family helps them, what's the problem? Not only do I guess you didn't offer your daughter financial and moral support after the birth, but her father doesn't want to see her either ?! How do you expect him to look for you for something? And what if she is small for children, once they recover, they are not irresponsible. The child remains a child for the parents, but don't think it's your thing. Let him live his love

   If your daughter has decided to abandon everything and everyone for someone (her husband) then she is ready for this child and wants him more than anything, which would you choose your daughter or education ?? It is best to talk to your daughter, try to get closer, and say that you were wrong about some things, although it was better to end that you understand her. What happened, at least don't lose her as a daughter, and your grandson has something better than that

   I'm sorry, author, but these are not mother's words. You gave birth to a child, you predestined his life and now that he is no longer playing your whistle, you are complaining. Children run away from their parents when they see that they cannot, that they do not have the strength and ability to fulfill their desires. You have put a lot of effort into figuring out how your daughter's life will develop instead of developing yourself. "I was lied to." Has anyone ever promised you anything to make you feel lied to? If your daughter ever promised you anything, it must have been under pressure. "And now I'm wondering where - without a home and without a child?" Be angry with yourself, not her. You are the one who has only one child in your life, and that's it, that you are not satisfied with yourself even in this. It is not your daughter's fault that you had such great demands, unattainable for her, that you gave her up ambition altogether.

   Ma'am, that's love. :)))

   Hello! I am a mother in a similar situation - very similar ..., I have not yet become a grandmother, but I / we have given everything for my child, as well as you. My wife, even though we weren't the perfect family with him - it doesn't matter why, but it wasn't an occasion for infidelity. Now he is standing close to and behind me and he is just saying - he will come to his senses, calmly, he will come to his senses. Yes, I strongly hope that he will come to his senses, as well as №1. I know your mental state, judging by myself ... now I don't like myself either ... And the others who give advice - Don't give and don't bark - you are after us and you don't know what will come to your head, but for a child it hurts a lot, if it's like the author and me only one! May our children come to their senses and may God watch over them!

   Number 2, I think you are very strict with the author. However, both she and her daughter are to blame for this situation - she is never the only one to blame. In principle, I support you, but they believe that the author suffers from the fact that she is no longer a part of her daughter's life, and she would like to help this grandson, as long as there is someone to call her. I do not think that the author regrets that she gave up her apartment and moved to another city to cure her daughter. Rather, she feels frustrated because she had other expectations. Of course, it is not right for parents to pass on their ambitions to their children, to make them follow a certain path and to stifle them from their expectations, but it is human to have them. So who doesn't want his child to be a little good, maybe a little naughty and to have a lot of friends and a happy childhood. Who doesn't want his child to get together with educated children, to go out and have fun, but also to have good success? For me, these are things that every normal parent wants for their child, but of course they should not impose their vision. After all, this woman has made sacrifices for her child, and I think she deserves at least a little thanks from her daughter. After all, this girl is already a mother and should realize what her mother sacrificed. Or maybe she doesn't realize it because she doesn't work, because her husband doesn't work, and her mother-in-law and husband support them. This is exactly irresponsible for me, but it is different as you are used to always having someone to fix you and to think that someone is obliged to help you, even though you are no longer a child, but a mother. As number 2 said, it is best to let her experience her love and, as number 3 said, try not to lose her as a daughter. Talk to her, help her for the child, be a part of her life, but let her take responsibility for her choices - do not interfere in the relationship with her husband, do not interfere in the methods of raising your grandson, leave her alone decisions for herself and her family, but also for her to bear the consequences of these decisions. Let her know that she can count on you whenever she needs to share, needs advice or moral support. Ana let her make the decisions for herself and her family, but let her take the consequences of those decisions. Let her know that she can count on you whenever she needs to share, needs advice or moral support. Ana let her make the decisions for herself and her family, but let her take the consequences of those decisions. Let her know that she can count on you whenever she needs to share, needs advice or moral support. Ana

   Number 4 your words are devoid of any kindness. People like you see your parents as an incubator for raising a person. As soon as the person grows up and gains strength, he sends the incubator to hell, and he rightfully lives carefree.

   God forbid parents like you. Good thing the girl was saved. Three hundred money and lessons when you treated it as your property, which is obliged to live according to your wishes. The moment she naturally tried to live for herself, she became the blackest - "and my husband doesn't even want to see her." Horror, horror! You are parents only when it comes to yours. When you really had to support her to experience her love, or to experience the mistakes of growth - you rejected her. You ruined the best moment of her life - the birth of her first child. You are terrible, just terrible people!

   Number 9, What did the girl save herself from? Her parents sacrificed everything to keep her alive and well, did you do such a thing? Her mother went to the discharge, what did they ruin, did you ever experience such a thing? And how exactly should they support her to experience her love? They sacrificed themselves to live, isn't that support? No one said she was the blackest and no one said they rejected her. It's just that people have had some plans for their child, their child has failed them and now they are offended, is it so difficult to get into their situation? Yes, she is recovering little by little and the father will recover, but it's just hard for them right now. People like you spit on all adults when they are young, and when they grow old they spit on the young.

   I join the opinion of number 8. Number 4 too.

   №4 behaves like a bitch. But dear lady, I hope you have children! Do not challenge fate! It is never too late to explain to her that you are not insured against falling into the position of the author! To the author: darling, don't bother much, there may be many reasons for this situation. Many people can interfere and cloud the brains and morale of a young person. But ... all in good time. Things will get better don't get angry. I am writing on behalf of the daughter who was able to abandon her mother, her education and not only that, but she did. I was bitterly sorry after a while. But I corrected my mistakes. I hope my mother forgave me. A normal and smart girl like your daughter will understand that not everything is sex and love. She will understand that without education she will not be well received and well paid anywhere. He will understand much more, many things for men and then it will fix what I am convinced. I wish you only patience and peace now. Don't let the sensible girl go home to her parents - ruins!

   From №4 I am 49 years old. Until №8 Parents are a kind of "incubators". Nowhere in the world is there an animal caring for its elderly parents, except for someone demanding children from their children. A cow does not suckle a calf and this is a natural law. Until №13 I have two older children, but my difference with the author is that I do not expect them to provide me with housing, I have bought a home. Nor do I expect my children to live their lives as adults by my standards, I leave them to be "single mothers" if they have decided so, since I have brought them up to expect the state to feed them, I am to blame, not them . If I decide to help, they also don't ask me for help, that's why they do it on their own and quite well, they even help me. Just as I mentioned, my back hurts, they bought me a space disk as a gift. I take the grandchildren when it's convenient for me and them, they don't expect me to look after the children like most young people do now. I am firmly convinced that if a person is lumpen up to the age of 25, his parents are to blame and no fault should be sought in him. If he had been brought up as a child, that success depends on him, he would not have complained about his life to the state / to ask for help /. What the author wants: her child to provide her with housing, to study the education that the author wants in order not to lose the "big help of BGN 2,800", to be interested in her, as she has never been interested in their opinion. If young people are not told from an early age that education is for them, not for their parents, most "learn" for their parents. At one point they feel it was for them but it's too late. No matter how much you tell the author "ah poor thing", that's all I need " One day he gathered the essentials and didn't even want to tell me where he was going. He slammed the door and seemed to hate me so much - he ran away. Her friend called me on the phone and said she would live with them because she was pregnant. I felt so sad and cried for days. I accused myself of lying to her, and my husband doesn't even want to see her. "to judge what kind of mother is lying so that her mother's neck is slammed, what must a mother have done to HATE her? What kind of parents don't want to see their child, their grandson? My children did too white, also did not want to understand any of my teachings, but we talked about how long it takes and how many times it takes.And last, when a person does not have too high expectations, do not be disappointed! Her friend called me on the phone and said she would live with them because she was pregnant. I felt so sad and cried for days. I accused myself of lying to her, and my husband doesn't even want to see her. "to judge what kind of mother is lying so that her mother's neck is slammed, what must a mother have done to HATE her? What kind of parents don't want to see their child, their grandson? My children did too white, also did not want to understand any of my teachings, but we talked about how long it takes and how many times it takes.And last, when a person does not have too high expectations, do not be disappointed! Her friend called me on the phone and said she would live with them because she was pregnant. I felt so sad and cried for days. I accused myself of lying to her, and my husband doesn't even want to see her. "to judge what kind of mother is lying so that her mother's neck is slammed, what must a mother have done to HATE her? What kind of parents don't want to see their child, their grandson? My children did too white, also did not want to understand any of my teachings, but we talked about how long it takes and how many times it takes.And last, when a person does not have too high expectations, do not be disappointed! what kind of door slams on her mother, what must a mother have done to HATE her? Why don't parents want to see their child, their grandson? My children also made white, they also did not want to understand any of my teachings, but we talked about how long it takes and how many times it takes. And lastly, when a person does not have too high expectations, do not be disappointed! What kind of mother slams her neck, what must a mother have done to HATE her? Why don't parents want to see their child, their grandson? My children also made white, they also did not want to understand any of my teachings, but we talked about how long it takes and how many times it takes. And lastly, when a person does not have too high expectations, do not be disappointed!

   Until №4-14 and whoever you are - God slows down, but does not forget! You had an apartment - well, have one, but if there was a problem with your child's health, would you sell it? !? !? !! And do your children have a house - Bought from you? You are very Arrogant! Now it's time to buy for your children - because the author did so! She gave a home, Health, Nerves, Her life, and people like you have probably looked after their lives - they don't have a strong connection with their child, they have weakened their ass - she bought a house - A big miracle and if you didn't give it to the children it's time for them to kick you out - then you will be able to feel this woman's pain for a moment. Dear, Author! I hope your child will come to his senses and turn to you humanly, and what does a mother need? !? !! Her child to respect her, a kind word, a smile and a hug - the mother does not need anything else .. I wish you very soon that your daughter will come with a bouquet in her arms and ask for forgiveness, to express gratitude and just to come out happy - I wish you with all my heart - a truly sad relationship between mother and daughter! Good luck, Author, and may God watch over you and over all those you love!

   №15 If you read correctly, the author did not give her home, because she never bought one, she gave her hereditary home. Dad's home is easier to give. This notorious cough hardly cost an entire home. I bought my own home and my inherited homes, my children will get them. They have already bought theirs. Mine, bought by me, will be mine and I will not be dependent. I raised and studied two children, and I'm not ashamed of that. Looking at it, I have not sold a hereditary home, I have invested money from my own work in my home and in the education of my children. So, which of us with the author has slapped his ass with his available funds, it is obvious. Our children are almost the same age, so I guess the author and I are also of a similar age. So we lived and raised children in the same, difficult years for the country. Telling the truth is not arrogance or impudence. The author says I want! want! want! let my daughter live this way and that way. She doesn't care what her daughter wants in her life. Isn't her daughter an adult, doesn't she have the right to choose how to live her life? You are attacking me only because I am for everyone's right to make their own choices in life !? !? The author wants to be the main conductor in her daughter's life, and you defend her and encourage her to be right. You incite her against her child, give her wicks to keep fighting for her own "right." Without thinking, is she right to ask? If I expected my son, for example, to become president in 2011, I would be disappointed now. Would you encourage me to keep waiting for him to apologize to me, that he did not become president? Should he come today with a bouquet to apologize to me for not being able to fulfill my wishes? Whose mother is happier, the one who feeds unfulfilled hopes, or the one who enjoys even the small successes of her children? Doesn't the author miss now, the first syllables of her grandson "ba-ba-ba", doesn't she miss the baby's innocent smiles, with mean and dissatisfied? Doesn't she miss the smile of her daughter holding her child in her arms?

   "Was it worth giving up everything in the name of a good deed - to get well, to study and to have a profession?" I was deceived. And now I wonder where - without a home and without a child? "I support 16/9 What has the author achieved in her life, apart from being an unsuccessful conductor in her daughter's life? The girl deliberately got pregnant for me, so I would do the same to get away from my family. What can I say to the author - your daughter does not belong to you. Putting material things like an apartment next to your child is indicative. It is a good deed to donate BGN 1.20 by SMS to an unknown sick child. It is a parent's duty to take care of your child. In both cases, you are not expected to return the favor! Who wants to have a return on investment, to invest in private business or stocks. Children are not companies! Number 16 - it's good that you had, what to give and how to teach your children, but not everyone. My parents would not give me anything. I have been working since I was 18, I studied on my own and my husband and I bought a house on our own. However, I am very grateful to ours, I respect and love them. If I had parents like the author, would I probably act like a daughter? - I did not get pregnant and interrupted my studies, but I have always been an independent person. A daughter like the author's? taken away all decisions and responsibilities in life. And notice what the author is angry about - for some help of BGN 2,600? And a word didn't say that she hadn't seen her grandson, that she hadn't been involved in her child's life? She has invested in this child, just as a person invests in a home or other material thing. For her, the daughter is SOMETHING. Well, the investment has sunk, economists say. That's right, there is no successful investment when you forget that you are a human being. The author will die alone and without an apartment. What you sow, you will reap! My parents did not give me anything material and did not study me after 18 years, but I will take care of them when necessary after years. Apparently they did well, because even today I can spend BGN 500 to send them, but they do not want to be proud. I save this money for them and when they get sick they will have the best treatment and care. I'm expecting my first child and I don't rely on help at all - I won't even look for it - and I won't look for children because I learned one thing in my life - to take care of myself. Thank you mom, thank you dad! but I will take care of them when necessary in years to come. Apparently they did well, because even today I can spend BGN 500 to send them, but they do not want to be proud. I save this money for them and when they get sick they will have the best treatment and care. I'm expecting my first child and I don't rely on help at all - I won't even look for it - and I won't look for children because I learned one thing in my life - to take care of myself. Thank you mom, thank you dad! but I will take care of them when necessary in years to come. Apparently they did well, because even today I can spend BGN 500 to send them, but they do not want to be proud. I save this money for them and when they get sick they will have the best treatment and care. I'm expecting my first child and I don't rely on help at all - I won't even look for it - and I won't look for children because I learned one thing in my life - to take care of myself. Thank you mom, thank you dad!

   Ah, but you also attacked the mother ... A daughter must ask forgiveness from her mother, not the other way around! Take care even indirectly of your child and daughter! She will come to her senses, she will come home! Talk to your husband, soften things up, because from experience I tell you that your daughter will knock on the door again! But then it is your duty to let her go home after she has asked for forgiveness and repented, because she, too, is still raising a child who must learn respect! Ales

   Alessa, nothing "should" in principle. In this case, the daughter is right, why ask for forgiveness? The only mistake, perhaps, is that the daughter hurried to get pregnant just to get out of her mother's power, but honestly - there is hardly anything worse than harassing your own mother. Whatever mother-in-law she came across, she is obviously better than her mother? If she hasn't knocked on her neck yet ?? What do you think? Is it bad? is such a daughter? I think that even today the girl is in a better position than before - she has a family that loves her as she is. Who knows - one day she may decide to continue her education on her own ... she hasn't done badly so you know.

   Alessa, this daughter has run away from home, a man of good does not run away. We do not attack the mother / the author / we tell her to come to her senses, to stop wanting her daughter to be indebted to her. Children do not owe us anything in this world, the decision to have them is entirely our parents. If they don't do well, then we haven't done well.

   Abe, Writers, stop yelling at the woman! Do you have children? How will you feel if this happens to you? You are not sinless, but know that they will find fault with you too! The old people said - "Bye, Grandma, don't let the bear meet me" Instead of talking normally and without giving advice on how to fix things - you attack! Aren't you very smart? Aren't you educated, well-read? Is this what psychologists teach - ATTACK? When you write your drama and tragedy - it will always be the hardest and scariest for you, how do you want to be treated - edifying? !? !! OOOO NO- you will want advice! And now try not to stand out, but to give the best advice on how to get your child back. Good evening!

   21 - and what happened so much? People watch their children die, lose their loved ones. Otherwise, I support 20 - a person does not run away from the good. 1 sentence in which everything is said

   №22 No matter what happens, the woman wants advice, and you are not righteous either - once you attack and your children will surely have something to blame you for, so this is not the way to behave! Once we are alive, then all mistakes are correctable! There is a difference from mistake to mistake, and for some a mistake can be big and for others it can be harmless. Probably the daughter currently sees only the bad in her parents, but the other family will never be her family and now showing her attitude towards her own mother will be vulnerable to her dear husband and mother-in-law, even at the slightest quarrel, especially when they are together. No mother does unforgivable things! / there are certainly exceptions, but I don't think the author is one of them / She always pleases the stranger so that she doesn't feel neglected, but her own is her own! So,

   People, you only know how to laugh. The woman shared and asked for advice. To you, if all this happens to you, will you be of the same opinion. You are after us. The woman ran to hospitals, trembled at tests, did not even sleep to find out if the child was alive and breathing. None of you who want to have called an ambulance at night and have not stayed in the hospital at night on behalf of the child. What people you are! You don't seem to be a mother. You look at everything from the other side and from above. The daughter fled in fear. She was scared and didn't know what to do. She is forced to live with her mother-in-law because she has nowhere to go. Her parents do not receive rent from 4 apartments from Toshovo time - from social panels like some of you. What so rebuke people, look at yourself! You looked like village gossips. Here they keep in touch from time to time,

   It is easiest to blame others for mistakes, not to seek the Truth. It's easy on the side, but if it happens to you, you'll talk differently. I sought little support and was punished.

   Ma'am, put yourself in your daughter's shoes and think about whether you would be happy if someone else told you how to live your life and what to learn. It is possible that she went to her boyfriend and deliberately got pregnant because she did not feel any understanding from you. All her life she tried to like you and did not follow her own path and dreams. She studied what you wanted to write and not what she wants. And the result later was not late single mother has almost broken off contact with her parents. Unfortunately, she is now an adult and you can't interfere in her life, just let her do what really makes her feel happy to enjoy her child and learn what she really wants and is her vocation! g. 22

   Ma'am, put yourself in your daughter's shoes and think about whether you would be happy if someone else told you how to live your life and what to learn. It is possible that she went to her boyfriend and deliberately got pregnant because she did not feel any understanding from you. All her life she tried to like you and did not follow her own path and dreams. She studied what you wanted to write and not what she wants. And the result later was not late single mother has almost broken off contact with her parents. Unfortunately, she is now an adult and you can't interfere in her life, just let her do what really makes her feel happy to enjoy her child and learn what she really wants and is her vocation! g. 22

   "Was it worth abandoning everything in the name of a good deed - to recover, to study and to have a profession? I remained deceived." - And what development did you expect? The daughter to remain an old maid, to live as a nun in the service of the mother. Instead of rejoicing that things have worked out in the best way, the author shakes that she has been deceived !? Her daughter lives in a good family, they help her, she doesn't complain, and her mother complains. This makes selfishness, instead of enjoying the happiness of her child, the author whines to herself, she was gone !? On top of that, he even advertised it.

   I know what you're talking about, madam! Unfortunately, we are not to blame for the children leaving us. You've been shaking his whole life, and you shouldn't. He must be independent, have his bitter experience in time, not when he grows up to accumulate it, because mom and dad took care of him! But the Bulgarian understands everything - after that! And I, in order not to howl, raised my tremors and went abroad to bake, because no one needs me. I don't know if it's advice, but I have decided for myself, when I return to Bulgaria one day, to take a child from an orphanage and raise him. So I will both have someone to live for and I will not make the old mistakes, I will make new ones. The bad thing is when your daughter starts asking you for services and money in time, because she will not ask them from her mother, but from the one who has them! That's why I said - the money is mine. There was a time when I offered, it was over. Now there are so many hungry children, I don't buy cars or trips for fake smiles! Take your child home so that you and you can be happy!

   Author, two years have passed, how are things going? Everyone here has their own opinion, as well as way of expression, so do not take literally the attacks and disapproval. I, on the other hand, have my opinion somewhere between the two poles. Both sides are to blame for this - your fault is that you failed to make your daughter realize the importance of elections and their sequence, and her fault is that she chose the easiest without thinking-pregnancy and birth. Your guilt is less, because your plan is generally good and correct, obviously the mistake is in the approach. Because one day your daughter will realize that everything you have done is for her good - if she had asked here about education or pregnancy and childbirth with an as yet uneducated man, then you would also see the direction of the comments in your favor and in favor. of education. It's bad that they tell you here that your daughter "deliberately" got pregnant. This is nonsense and carelessness, it is not intentional. She has just taken an easy and very slippery path, expecting someone else's mercy from strangers. And if you asked her and FOR HER goodness as parents to be obedient as she grows up, they will now require her to be obedient and submissive all her life, to comply and be silent to strangers who will do it not for her, and for YOUR good. Heads up, nothing is as scary as they tried to suggest to you here. And write what happens if you are still reading the topic! as she grows up, she will now be required to be obedient and submissive all her life, to conform and be silent to strangers who will do so not for her but for THEIR good. Heads up, nothing is as scary as they tried to suggest to you here. And write what happens if you are still reading the topic! as she grows up, she will now be required to be obedient and submissive all her life, to conform and be silent to strangers who will do so not for her but for THEIR good. Heads up, nothing is as scary as they tried to suggest to you here. And write what happens if you are still reading the topic!

   It's been 3 years already. As always, the daughter does not share anything from the new life with the new family. I thought it looked good - the child grew up, she finished her education and suddenly new problems. The mother-in-law increased the glasses of alcohol, the father-in-law moved to live in the countryside, the son-in-law, as always, without a job and a big quarrel between everyone. My daughter goes out with the intention of calming down, but she doesn't know what to do and goes to the metro station. He gets on the train, travels a little and gets off. He calls me to see you and talk. I found her harassed and crying. I took her home and she told us everything: about their behavior, about the eternal scandals, about the attitude towards her and others. He said he wanted to get out of there too, but to take the child. After the conversations with the other party, it was said that she would not have a child. They started accusing us of various things. Finally, we all got together for a conversation and came to a compromise to think for a few more days and decide whether to go back there. After the allotted time, she decided that she could not live without the child and returned. He called me afterwards and said that things were fine. After a while, driving followed again and a new decision: to take the father-in-law and mother-in-law out so that he would be calmer. Now they are in a place like us. The other problem was that the daughter had a severe headache and was taking migraine medication on her mother-in-law's recommendation. The pain was unbearable and at our insistence he went to see his previous doctor. Thanks to her, all the tests were done and she was sent to physiotherapy. After the procedures, she rarely has a headache. It turned out to be no migraine, but a cold on his neck. They also found a previous cystitis, as well as a sharp weight loss. For these 3 years she has lost 10 kg and at the moment I am ashamed to write how much they are, because the children in the first grade are much heavier. According to her, she doesn't eat because she eats a few spoonfuls of what she cooks and gets up because the other three start arguing. Here it is in general and in a few words. Some may still think I'm guilty of something, but this time I'm not guilty.