Hello. I am 19 years old, a student, full time. What can I say - I did well in school, and, for now at least, excellent (I still follow what is interesting to me). But my social life is a complete tragedy. Not that I don't have good relationships with the people I study with, but only on a collegial level. I don't keep in touch with my classmates, only that we have one specialty. I have no friends to go out with, to share. It's good that at least some of my fellow students from time to time go to events and other places. The thing is, I don't like big companies, bars and discos, two, three, or even just one friend, but I can't find ones with my character. I also participate in Facebook discussions, but there is no real benefit. Of course, it weighs a lot on me, to be alone everywhere, but to be honest, I've been feeling the need to have a boyfriend for a year now, and I think that's enough. In another topic on this site - "Would you be with me", almost all women had written that they do not mind being only with their partner and that their loving couples are self-sufficient. But I doubt that those around my age think so. I tried with a fellow student who seemed to be more or less like me, but she cut me. Not that I'm sorry for her, because then it turned out that we have significant differences. I have to do something, on the issue, to meet a wider circle of people, speaking boldly. Basically, I haven't given up on finding any close friends, but do you think it's normal that I'm not 20 yet, and I feel a greater need for a boyfriend, given that much more open-minded boys around me are not yet committed and have fun only with their friends? It is clear to me that girls who love big companies, discos, etc., will not tolerate me, even if they like me at first, so I will have to find someone like me who wants me. Of course, it is clear to me that no two people are exactly alike and I am ready to compromise.
1 mariana_lop answered
Lack of friends is a problem for a relationship on two sides. First, it will mean that you will be very dependent on your partner and it is likely that your relationship will be very suffocating. One must have a life beyond these relationships. The second is that the fact that you don't have friends is probably a symptom that something is lame in your relationships with people and you may not be able to catch and keep a boyfriend. Work on your social skills and personality. You don't have to like bars and parties, but you have to be able to communicate with people and maintain relationships.