Only I Think Differently

   You have a distorted sense of character, that's all I would tell you. I'm on the rule: Be like glass - if they break, cut. I have protected myself for 28 years by following this rule, I hope I succeed so much more. Good night

   I respect your opinion, but I don't think it's right to qualify the others as weak-willed. I do not agree that I have to fight at all costs, and now I will try to argue why. There are enough lucky people from mine and I guess from your slip, you understand me I guess, we do not live in a rosy world where everyone thinks well of you, why should I fight for everything else and therefore a struggle necessary for the possible behavior of someone. If someone else with certain other ways and measures tries to stop me with a woman / girl I love, then I understand and agree that the fight is necessary. But to struggle to convince someone that I am better than another, where is her love then. If you were wrong yes, but otherwise. I understood one thing, love as a relationship between two is not a quarrel; disputes and the question of whether I love this someone, things are clear there, for you there is no doubt that you love this person, you do not run away from each other, you are certainly not mistaken, you are both a team, best friends. In most cases, in fact, I advised not to "fight", but because for me, from my point of view created on the basis of information received, there was simply no love. There are very strong loves in which you can indefinitely think they were love and that's not bad. Usually a person grows a lot if he learns from what he should learn and if he does not push things where they should not be pressed, that is, the "struggle" is not always right. Without these infatuations, we could not be ready for love, so we should be fully grateful to these people for being in our lives and growing through our relationships with them.

   You are still young and inexperienced, that's why.

   Listen now. When 2 people love each other there is no room for a third. Once a 3rd person has appeared in a relationship, all sorts of fights, wars and soap operas are unnecessary. The jug is broken and the glue will not be able to stick to it

   In your opinion, people who are not inclined to tolerate ridicule and bad treatment are weak? And those who tolerate being treated as garbage have a strong character? I think your ideas are the other way around. I don't want to draw conclusions about your age, but I think you have too naive an idea of ​​love. You can only truly love someone who embodies your own human ideals. If you are in love with someone who does not respect you, treats you badly, then you yourself have a very low opinion of yourself. Strong people demand to be respected. Not out of arrogance, but out of self-respect for the other person. You can only feel love for someone you consider valuable. You cannot consider yourself a valuable rude, ill-mannered and uncultured person. If you are in love with a woman who insults you and makes fun of you, Ask yourself the question - are you objectively in love with her, or with some idealized image that you have built in your head? Because no one is perfect, no one is black and white, but time passes, you take off your pink glasses, and you will have to live with the man of flesh and blood. Are you ready to truly love him after that? M. 36

   I think you're right! Everyone here gives others the intelligence to "dump" their halves while they stay with their troubled halves without trying to mend their relationship. Of course, there are relationships that need to be terminated, but I have the feeling that they are people with whom they are very nervous and have problems and want to kill him somewhere. I'm not talking about everyone, don't attack me now haha.

   I don't know what time you live in, but the knights on a white horse stayed in another era ... At the moment, at least we play the role that the two sexes are equal, and therefore such things are required of them. Just as women make claims about men, and expect certain behavior and responsibility, so should men ... Your thinking shows infantilism, and even greater infantilism is that you have made a whole topic in your attempt to impose your own your opinion. As this is your way of thinking, live it, no one stops you. People give advice only from their own point of view. A self-respecting man does not "give up" the girl, but considers that he is not at his level, does not meet the criteria. He doesn't need dramas, and even more - he wouldn't choose her as the mother of his children. The fact is, your behavior is weak, and because of the hormones you call love, you are ready to close your eyes and move forward blindly. In fact, it takes more character to admit that this is not the person you are looking for a partner, you have been deceived (most often in appearance) and take off your pink glasses. This requires courage, the behavior you describe, this "true love" for which you are ready for anything, for me they are female fantasies ... True love is this after 30 years when you prove that you have walked the path with this man. Few do it, especially nowadays ... this "true love" for which you are ready for anything, for me are female fantasies ... True love is this after 30 years when you prove that you have walked the path with this man. Few do it, especially nowadays ... this "true love" for which you are ready for anything, for me are female fantasies ... True love is this after 30 years when you prove that you have walked the path with this man. Few do it, especially nowadays ...

   I never understood that about the struggle. Every second person says "fight for her". Wait a minute - so she won't want to be with me, and I have to fight for what? For her approval and consent? It's like I hate someone and he struggles to love them. I don't see much logic. Either you love or you don't. What does the struggle have in common? I have fought, but we have fought together against the circumstances, not for one to fight and the other to scratch his ego with the other's "struggle." I see no point in the latter. This is not judo to recruit the other. He either wants you or he doesn't. You can take by force, but not give.

   Was it worth fighting for? And what is it worth to him if a muffin decides to dump you and drag you after it to pray for it? Were they taken from him? Isn't it a wheel to be taken away? Or do you think that the girls are taken away like that - you go, you say and you are no longer with him, but with me and she leaves with her head bowed to your bedroom;) Huh? !!

   There is one thing called reciprocity. Is it worth fighting for. Without it, it is a pure waste of time and emotions. After all, you can't force someone to love you, no matter how much you "fight." As a woman, I can tell you that if I love someone, I don't crush or use them. It's one thing to argue, it's another to use it emotionally.

   We don't leave any girls ... they just get into some movies on their own and go to the other boys. There is nothing like 'losing' or 'missing out'. Seeing that the girl next to me until a few days ago told me how much she loves me and starts looking at another or dealing with another ... what should I do with her if she has already taken this path? Try to keep her? Her eyes and ass are already scratching at others ... it's pointless. Once she's got there, she'll go much further. If you truly love someone, you will never let that happen. To start liking others or at least letting them get so close ... dangerously close to you, because that's how whites become. But he's just a friend, but we met by chance, he's not who knows what, and then ... you come in and read topics here about; new colleague, random, who wrote to me, ex-boyfriend, new classmate, I can't get it out of my head, but imma boyfriend, husband, child and at the same time do you understand ... they didn't want to hurt the person next to them or ruin their family, but they drive furiously to this. Come on, please and good health! Those who truly love each other ... stay together in spite of everything and forever. Everything else is ala-bala and excuses :)

   Author, it makes sense to fight, but only if you have failed yourself. Otherwise what a struggle? With whom? For what? For example, she cheated - what are you going to fight for? To make you talk a few more times until you realize that you have nothing to fight for? Although even in such situations people say - sorry if it's worth it! No one makes someone else listen to his opinion or do what another thinks is right. We read, comment, and finally become guilty when someone doesn't tell us what we think. But I don't see anyone else who has put the knife on someone else's neck and said to drop it, we only advise - you choose. :) I quote "I would never give up my happiness just because she once made fun of me or something." What happiness, what love - when they make fun of you? What are you talking about? Or give advice, let them crush me, let them not respect me, let them not love me, let them behave badly, but I will fight. And you said somewhere in the writing that it was normal for every girl to do that. Please? You have some misconceptions about normal and love! A man who loves - loves and never behaves badly! We say - leave while it's time, because we already have experience. I was as naive as your boyfriend cheated on you, but I believed that chances would change, chances at least 100 - I didn't change! He reached out, I thought he would stop, that he loves me - well, he didn't stop! On the contrary, it was always more and more, but I, like you, did not listen - I fought! Here is a struggle for you - such a struggle is to be like a horse with caps, to believe in the impossible and to deceive yourself. Start thinking! Remember, there is no struggle when they tease you, when they make fun of you - they do not love you, then there is nothing to fight for! He does not judge us, but thinks that this is how they will make you crazy! One day you will realize it, but I hope it's not too late.

   What does it mean to fight? She is with you, a bearded brazier comes, grabs her arm and pulls her. She roars and begs you for help and you rush to fight. If so - yes, fight for it. But when she wonders all day how to fuck the other without you noticing or how to lie to you so that you don't ask where she was - and you go to "fight", ie to explain to her how much you love her and to give up everything (everyone else) to be with you. But she wants the exact opposite - to get rid of you to poke with others, more and more. Fight, but in time you will realize how pathetic the picture was.