On The Verge Of A Nervous Breakdown For My Future

   Hello, it is very unfair that through his elections at the age of 14 and then at the age of 18-19, a person practically lays the foundations for his whole life. Your problem, however, is that you have obviously not learned a lesson and are about to make a mistake like the one you made when you were 14. Then you chose something that you thought you liked. Now you are about to make the same mistake. You don't think about future realization at all, you don't understand what the sciences and specialties you choose really are, and you come up with something so much. For the humanities in general, I can tell you that the realization is, to put it mildly, in question. Many women enroll in these specialties as well, and women, unfortunately, do not know how to ask for high salaries. There has been no bread in journalism for a long time, but there will always be one handful of people who will earn a lot. The same goes for artists, directors. My childhood friend is currently the busiest young director - there are several Askers, there are at least 6-7 plays by the Plovdiv Theater, the Theater of the Bulgarian Army and everywhere, but it barely connects the two ends. And yet - he was not accepted the first year either, but in the interest of truth after that he somehow got better, working because he comes from a poor family. He had a scholarship and was 6 months in New York to study on Broadway. He has achieved what maybe 1 in 100 students achieve and still barely connects the two ends, but fortunately he is a homosexual and will not have to feed children and family, and to shoot movies and series is 1 in 1000 and not only in our country, but all over the world. The money is made by the producers, by the way. So I advise you not to panic and not to learn all sorts of nonsense, just because you do not know what you want. Get a very good success now and concentrate on the prom, and if you do not know what you want - just do not enroll for 1 year. The very thought of not having to apply this year will set you free to focus on graduating from high school with honors. In your place I would go to Sofia, I would rent a bed in a student dormitory - many students rent their beds and sleep alone with a boyfriend. So on the spot you can get impressions, you can even attend lectures freely. Few people know, but in public universities anyone can attend lectures - you just call the teacher, promise to stay and calm down and so on. I attended language lectures at Sofia University because I didn't have money for private lessons and they explained grammar to me quite well, they even explained to me personally more understanding teachers. It is not a big drama to lose 1 year, in which job you will start. It's a drama to lose 5-10 years learning something that didn't make sense to you.

   Hello, young man! Don't worry, you're not the only one wondering how to get your life in order, but I'm in a hurry to say that I don't agree with the advice of No. 1 to postpone the decision for a year. One year is enough time to lose your learning habits, and there is no guarantee that things will clear up for you. I know it's complicated, but it's not fatal, everything is fixable, you're young, you'll find a way. Besides, you don't have to make a living with what attracts you the most, even if you're not sure if your interest will continue. Comply with the labor market now and in the future, think about what you would like for a profession, and other interests will remain a hobby, not bad. Use what you have worked hard and time for, it doesn't have to be exactly medicine, let it be something related to it, you have a choice. Discuss all this with your parents, what are their professions, see if they can give you adequate advice, look at the universities and the specialties they offer, you will always choose something. One feels at home when one realizes with what one has learned the most. Just don't worry, gather information, think and decide - and then pursue your goal without deviations, doubts, etc. I wish you success!

   I also graduated from such a class in such a high school and I know what it is about. Well, no one can force you to apply for medicine! A nervous breakdown? Take care of your nerves, how can you, there are much bigger problems. You didn't even realize your mistake at a later age, when you spent a few years at university, for example. I think apply something with computers, I do not know why it occurred to me. In the sense that it has a great application and realization, it can't be a mistake. For a director, if you have talent, you can become without NATFA, it can be an additional activity, hobby, etc. If you are so afraid - just bet on the safe.

   You will not have to deal with journalism. I don't know about the cinema, but even there things seem uncertain to me. If you like humanitarian professions, choose law, psychology, sociology. You can also medical psychology, kinesitherapy, etc. You do not have to study medicine or biology. Also, nothing prevents you from writing something down and then learning something else. That is, there is nothing fatal, you can always correct the choice of profession. You have a lot of time in front of you.

   Until n. 2, hard and woe to a scientist who has lost his habit of learning ... We learn all our lives. For info - number 1 she worked 2.5 years before enrolling in university, but did not waste 5-10 years studying things that make no sense. Not only did I not lose the habit of studying, but as a more mature individual I was able to distribute my study time better. My husband has a nephew who is 33 years old and is doing a PhD in Chemistry, simply because he had to have a PhD as a chemist. He hates Chemistry, he lives on his parents' money and he has no idea what he will do with it, and when I gave him a few ideas, but related to moving to another city, he was immediately against it. As a chemist, however, he will not stay hungry after all ... But in short, he has not lost 1 or 2.5 years, but 13-14. in learning.

   Hi, I think I'm only 2-3 years older than you and I deal with computers. I don't watch TV anymore, but before I watched it I could very easily get used to what I was watching. I think I have some unconscious talent to be an actor, but because of the emotion that holds most people captive (fear) I haven't tried. Basically, I thought that from a learning point of view, being an actor is much easier to learn by watching and repeating what you've seen, rather than reading books (this is if you don't like to read). Human consciousness has a mechanism by which, by repeating much of the same thing, it becomes part of your personality, even if you do not initially believe that you can achieve it. In high school I had low self-esteem, but over time watching and copying actors playing roles with a very strong character, I developed as a person who manages to stand up for himself and not allow himself to be bullied. If you are an emotional person who gives his opinion even when they try to suppress it, a person who can easily go from one state of mind to another. If you've been acting crazy on the street for a long time (to me more than once), then I think you could have talent as an actor, but I don't think just because you like watching movies means you're getting up. for an actor. Almost everyone has been watching and enjoying cinema since its inception, but not everyone has become an actor. Another method to find out what you might be up to is to "catch up" on what you're thinking at a given time. Take your smartphone and start the timer in 4 sessions of 15 minutes each. During this time, look at the ceiling and think, then, when the timers are out, quickly take a pen and paper and write down what you were thinking. Do this for 2 weeks to say and go to a career counselor, he might be able to help you on which professions are right for you.

   Up to n. 1 and 5 a learned person cannot lose the habit of learning, reading while alive. However, a confused high school graduate can, I know such people, who did not have a few hundred to become students at the time, earned, broke away and did not want to apply again. I also believe that any work put in to read cannot be lost, but at the same time we must think about the realization of what we have learned. I do not think that the author was wrong in choosing a class for secondary education, it is not so important, now it is important to find out how to continue to have a profession one day. And chemistry is your nephew's smallest problem, and if he had chosen something else, it would have been the same, he just isn't independent, he doesn't want to get out of his comfort zone, he doesn't seem to be working, but he is looking for excuses. And about the phenomenon - he studied a lot,

   Well n. 7, maybe those people you're referring to weren't for university anyway. Do you think that 70-80% of the people in our country do not have higher education. He doesn't die, I guarantee you. The best solution, at least for me, was at the age of 18 to pick up my luggage and go to Sofia to take care of myself. I know people without higher education, who today live much better than people with 3 higher education, but as you said - one must have other qualities. Still, I do not see in the Author a reluctance / inability to learn, but rather he is a very confused, very messy person in his thoughts and is about to waste his life learning because of learning itself. In the West, it is normal for a person to travel around Europe or go to work and travel in Australia, New Zealand, Canada or in the USA for 1 year after graduation. They did not die because of interruptions in their studies. This practice comes from the aristocracy - they always traveled around Europe for 1 year after graduating from boarding school or school to gain life experience and learn to communicate, also to strengthen friendships. It is more common to take a break than you think, because many people start somewhere and then decide to transfer as they have not actually studied for 1 year. You also seem to have forgotten the good old military service - before there was also the practice of going as a soldier if they didn't agree to tell you and again these people then studied if they wanted to. It is better not to study for 1 year or not to study at all than to waste your time with stupid nonsense. If he was my son, the author would refuse to fund his studies and send him to take care of himself. We have an acquaintance, who made his daughter write 3 sheets of cover letter why she wants to study just that and why exactly at this university. Before that, she wandered, went to student courses for something completely different, then gave up, then this, then that. In the end, she didn't study for a year, but decided to study something else, and her father told her to write firmans and for about a month he didn't tell her if he would help her or not, and she had to convince him. We also have a close friend whose daughter recorded Fashion Design, he pays. He recorded then I think some economics. The father pays. Now (1 year before graduation) she has decided that she will become a right-winger. The father pays ... and this father is very poor and lives on a minimum to support his daughter, he is also a single father. Higher because of the higher has no value. That you know from me. Everyone else does his own thing and then breaks his head.

   Number 3, now almost everyone is learning "something with computers" and the competition is fierce, how can you offer it as a universal university ?? Of course, it can be a mistake - if a person does not have mathematical and technical talents, preferably some idea of ​​programming from before, then the FMI will tell him the game, I do not know about TU, but there is no child's play. To enroll in IT, IF HE IS INTERESTED, but not just because it is fashionable, because technical specialties, like medicine, are obtained only with talent and INTEREST. Not to mention that the labor market is flooded with programmers, who knows what will happen in 5 years ...

   You are deluded that your classmates are 100% confident in their choice. So far, I have not met a high school graduate who does not wonder what to do with his life for a whole year. I myself had reduced the election to 2 and subsequently decided a week before the dates for enrolling in university. You have time to make a decision, study all subjects, prepare for graduation and think from time to time. Keep in mind that a subject you like in school has little to do with a profession in which that subject is leading. It's one thing to like biology and understand it, it's quite another to be a doctor. The other thing that is important, how much you studied and understood at university is also not a 100% guarantee that you will like the profession. I was in a construction college, the theory seemed annoying, but when the practice came, I fell in love with the specialty and began to understand the theory (otherwise I never thought of being a mathematician, and my profession is 90% mathematics). Being in MG with biology does not oblige you to become a doctor, it does not guarantee that you will be accepted as a medicine and that you will be a good staff, most of your class will not become medical people. I considered journalism as an option, but a friend, a journalist, told me that I could work in this field even if I didn't have a university degree, and the money wasn't always a lot. There are realizations in specialties that are important, but there are not too many graduates. An accountant can earn a lot, but why offer thousands for a position, given that there are many accountants, that is, many candidates for the same position and the company will not be left without a worker. You're targeting an industry, in which it will not happen without being communicative, positive and having the right acquaintances. Not that they won't accept you, your grades are good and many universities will open their doors to you, you will probably graduate without many problems, but the important thing is what you really want to work with and what job you will really be happy and insured with. . Don't think about the acceptance itself, about the subjects you will study and so on ... think about the profession you want to do.

   I listened to people and finished and worked 5 years of well paid work and I was unhappy now I work many hours but I am happy and I work towards just a little work to have time for my family