HELLO PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE. I HAVE LIVED WITH MY FRIEND FROM 5 YEARS. WE HAVE A 3 YEAR-OLD CHILD, BUT EVEN THOUGH I DON'T FEEL COMPLETELY HAPPY WITH HIM AND A MAN WHO IS ALSO MARRIED WITH 2 CHILDREN APPEARS HERE. OBVIOUSLY WE HAVE INTEREST IN EACH OTHER BECAUSE I RECEIVED AN INVITATION FROM HIS SIDE FOR A MEETING, WHICH I REJECTED BECAUSE I HAVE NOT BEEN ATTENDED AND HAVE BEEN RELEASING TO HER. ON THE ONE HAND, I BURN WITH THE DESIRE TO GO OUT WITH THIS MAN, AND ON THE OTHER HAND, I KNOW THAT THIS IS WRONG AND OFFENSIVE FOR OUR HALFS. I KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE WHO WILL SAY THAT I AM STUPID TO LOOK FOR OTHER LINKS BETWEEN PARTIES BUT WHAT TO DO WHEN MY HEART WANTS IT. PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE.
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Go out with him. Get to know each other, otherwise you may be wondering all your life "what would happen if ...". I am firmly against relationships and marriages without love are a whole punishment. This complicates the situation a little with the children, but in my opinion, if the separation will not drastically affect their lives, it is completely justified. Anyway, as soon as you are attracted, at least try and if things get worse, end your relationship in the most delicate way possible. Life is short, it is not worth wasting time with relationships without a future when we can meet happiness elsewhere, fight for it, your child should not blame you for this one day, especially if despite the separation he remains loved and embraced with attention from both parents. It might even become more independent. Don't think that if he looks at you unhappy and eventually quarrels with his father, he will feel better, than as if you are separated but on good terms ?? Listen to your heart!