Not The Crossroads - Family Or Personal Happiness?

   Is nothing new under the sun. This "I chose the wrong man" syndrome is present in every woman immediately after the birth of children. They realize that they do not want to be with the man they are with at the moment and a search for problems begins, which sometimes do not even exist. Come on, cheat, that's why you're writing this topic. Write there to the one who can provide you with unforgettable moments and everything will be correct. Then divorce, half the things go for you, his child support and you're done. You are clear, like daylight women. It is no coincidence that I said that I would not marry. Why should I do it, when at 35 my wife will sit down and write on the forums how unhappy she was with her choice.

   It's good to take into account the priorities, the probability of making your husband travel more instead of doing all the finishing touches on the house is minimal, think about how long it will take and whether it is worth ruining a family because of the delay of 1 year. These clichés will not be the same age, you can always say them for any age, I hope you realize. It is normal for a person to always want to enjoy life and have fun, but isn't it more logical to think about the future first, winter is coming, the person wants to fix the facade FOR YOU, what's wrong. However, you can convince him for a small romantic holiday cheaply in a nearby place only for a weekend, in early October, when prices are lower, in a bungalow not to spend, but to bite him from the experience "love, sunrises, sunsets, beautiful views ", leave the child to the grandmother so that you can pay attention to your husband, hopefully 1-2 such weekends will ignite him in the future to dream of more. Start collecting money from now on, save from this and collect so that the rest does not burden his plans for the facade, so that he sees that he does not need to deprive you of the warm winter because of the rest. It is also good to talk about the child's upbringing, but do not dump all the conversations at once. Now it's July to October, there is time, so start talking about upbringing, because there is the most important thing, every missed minute sticks to the child a negative habit or belief. I hope the child is more important for you too. Ask to talk to him, tell him what dangers you think it creates for the child's development, maybe he has arguments, he may even be right, and you may not have judged correctly, so talk to him, make him think, the way of expressing love to the child, will not hurt. Girl every family revolves around a woman, it depends on how the woman will present her ideas to her husband, and the best and most problematic families are the result of the woman's intelligence in the family, especially when it comes to partners who fit up like you. As people have said, the man is the head of the family, but the woman is the neck, wherever the neck turns, the head also looks there. That is, you are the one to guide him, which views are "correct". You love each other, you have been together for 12 years, he as a husband and father thinks about home, about you, sex is good, the rest is up to you. However, it is not worse to take out his soul with a cotton than with a stick. To prove that "taking out the soul with cotton" is not always manipulation (especially ugly), and more often it is a kind of approach to saving unnecessary quarrels. So, the example ... 1. You are about to buy a new washing machine. You go around for days, weeks, identify several models. You like one brand, your husband definitely leans towards another. You hesitate, comment, discuss .... at one point the old woman totally refuses and you put the "money in your pocket" and go to the store, where you liked 3-4 models. You go in, look at them, your husband says, "Look at this one, you remember," and describes various details, parameters, and so on. points out a few more advantages. You think a little more and agree that this brand is a good solution as a vision, and as parameters, and as a price. You buy the washing machine, smile kindly at each other and take it "blissfully" home. 2. You are about to buy a new washing machine. You go around days, weeks, you identify several models. You like one brand, your husband definitely leans towards another. You hesitate, comment, discuss .... at one point the old woman totally refuses and you put the "money in your pocket" and go to the store, where you liked 3-4 models. You enter, your husband turns to the brand he likes, says: "This one will be!", A store employee shouts and buys it. In both cases you have a washing machine, and in both cases you buy the one of your choice. In which variant will you feel better? In 1, when they consulted with you, they wanted your opinion and tried to convince you that his favorite is better? Or in 2., when they ignored your opinion and treated you like a voiceless letter? And men are good at "taking out the soul with cotton," remember it. They call it strategy.

   Don't be fooled. And what if you meet such a man, he will rush to take a woman with a child? And your husband will look away and smile with happiness? She landed on the ground. You have been brainwashed by these trips and cultures. What if you see them? Wealth is the family you have. If you lose it, no Maldives will give it back to you. Don't watch candied movies, they give a false idea of ​​life. Just because he doesn't like traveling doesn't mean you don't look in one direction, recover! And what is your direction, something meaningful? Sunsets, sunrises? There is also here.

   Yes, if you can go with a friend, and I go around, my husband rarely winds up. But now we have two children. When the child grows up, you can walk with him. I completely understand you.

   Think about what you have: a healthy child, a nice home and a responsible husband who takes care of you and the child. What awaits you to achieve your happiness to travel, to get to know other cultures, etc .: a difficult divorce, the separation of the father from the child, division of property and all sorts of other nonsense. Hard, but it passes. You are left alone with a child at the divorce market and start looking for an uncle - a coin that will make you happy and provide you with emotions (travel, sunrises, sunsets, romantic dinners, etc.). It will be difficult to have to sleep with this or that, until you will finally understand that men will use you only for sex. However, to accept that you are happy and a man truly falls in love with you and accepts you and provides all this. Do you think that will be enough for you? I'm not convinced? Then other claims will appear. Tip: if you're not happy - get a divorce, but be ready to take all the negatives of it and have the strength and luck to then fight for your happiness as a divorced woman with a child. F45

   Such love lasts a maximum of 3 years, during the period of falling in love. Catch a lover, what so, you even have a green light on his part. He should look after the facade and the child.

   That's right, but you're already a family. You have more important things than yourself - the child / children. Yes, some people don't understand it, but they are selfish :)

   Sorry, but you married a typical Ganyo ..

   I'm not picky, just out of curiosity. 12 years did you have to understand that you are different?

   To number 10: It didn't take me 12 years. I, too, have always thought about the family, the home, and especially the child. It's just that for the last 6 years we have been in repairs, we are always limiting ourselves and depriving ourselves of the emotions that travel brings. Now we have finished the repairs. The insulation of the house is ready, only finishing things on the facade remain, which are not so important for me. It's not even a financial problem, we both work. The problem is more in our different views on life, we just enjoy different things. Until now, I waited and I did not allow myself to dream of traveling. Now I have only seen how he perceives these ideas. It is more pleasant for him to deal with the house, to buy new things. And for me - the good moments in different places. Just mentioning the topic, he gets nervous. I've always suspected this trait of his, but it's only now that I'm convinced

   10 You travel again, if necessary, with friends. Will you split up just for one trip? And do you realize what a separation it will have and how much pain it will cause you? And that it will hit you right where it hurts the most - the child. And finally, what is the guarantee that you will be happy after the divorce or that you will meet the prince of dreams, with whom you will always be on the same page and will travel the world (even if you have the financial means). Accept that absolutely nothing can be right in life. There is always something to compromise on. Better a poor horse than no horse at all. And keep in mind that travel is not the paradise you imagine. My wife and I can only now afford to travel. We even recently returned from one. Yes, it's cool, there is no dispute, but when you travel a little, it doesn't matter so much to you anymore. Before it was important for you to renovate the house, when you saw that it was coming to an end, now you are moving your priority to another place. It's the same with travel. When you don't travel, you idealize it, and when you travel, you start to want something else. And so on indefinitely. If you find a new man and travel with him, after another 6 years you will want a third man to do something else with him, which will be the new fixed idea. Of course, I realize that it's easy for me to say that because I've scratched my itch with travel. I know how painful it is to want and have to save for other things. But keep in mind that if you divorce just because of that, then you are very likely to be disappointed and after a while you get tired of realizing that the trip was not on time, and the consequences of divorce or possible infidelity are often lifelong. Now it is difficult for you to comprehend it, because your mind is excited by thirst, by desire, and you see nothing but them.

   The poor provider, in the beginning he was chosen to be a "real man", that is, a good payer and "responsible" and now he is abandoned precisely because of these qualities. That's right, today's spoiled woman first wants "security" and then when she gets bored, to do what she wants (emotions, sunsets, etc.) Normally, she is still important, the rest does not matter. In a neighboring topic will write those women who have not yet secured "security" - "where are the real men?", "Why do not want a serious relationship" and the like. There the sunsets are in the second place, first you have to provide the benefit, the benefit and the "security" of a payer, so that when they are full and tired of them they start complaining and thinking about someone with whom they will be on the same wave and who will he listens to them and understands. Otherwise how? Is it lived only with love? However, if a topic comes up from a man who looks after his personal interest in the family and does whatever he wants, how the vipers just jump and tell him what a freak, ungrateful and animal he is, it's not readable. You realize that such attitudes and attitudes are a sham, a parody. Who will take them seriously?

   Look now, here they will stand by his side en masse, because they are in solidarity with him, because for some reason they recognize him, etc. If she had been a man and posted such a topic, the miles would have been different. Everyone got caught up in the journey, otherwise they ignore the other and what you say between the lines, and in fact in them, if you read carefully.

   You have no problem for me, but you are looking for it.

   I have never mentioned divorce and that I am considering divorce. I'm just tormented that the person I love doesn't share my dreams and desires. Of course, I can't change it. I have tried to talk to him about our different points of view, but he has his own and he is right about himself. I wanted to share and read other opinions. It's true that travel is also boring, but why not get bored together and then set a goal together? Thanks to everyone for the feedback.

   Well, obviously he can't travel with friends, because the girl is waiting for the maid to look after the child, to clean, cook and keep an eye on why she is breathing. God forbid that this slave girl can afford to go for coffee - this whore will blow her ass and will not look after her child and the little boy, so this is a low infidelity !!?! This is the pathetic and impudent thinking of the Ganyovites. As someone else said - you caught a typical shit. And really, how could he ?! It seems to these individuals from the very beginning what they are like.

   There are men who do not like to travel. There are men who like to save, they are housewives. These are human priorities, but by no means makes them bad spouses. It's nice to have some balance, but I suspect you're mentally straining your husband, so he doesn't want you to travel. Even if he doesn't tell you, you're obviously acting negatively on him. Think about how to improve your relationship. All these sunrises, sunsets, etc. are wonderful, but in such a long relationship the relationship changes and deepens, and regardless of sunrises, sunsets if there are, the important thing is that the person is next to you in both good and evil. You will make a huge mistake if you keep looking for another type of relationship. And life shows that men who are romantics are compressed air, and in time there will be sunrises and sunsets with other women. Watch your husband, your child and don't do nonsense.

   I think you should look after your house, husband and child, and travel if you have the time and money. The house stays for a lifetime, and a trip in a few years you will forget. You are not a teenager, but a mother for God's sake. Make a compromise together, to go once on vacation in Bulgaria, once on a trip abroad. Most men find it difficult to accept a woman with a child. Most men use women for sex, especially the older ones and with children. I am a man of this age, no longer married with a child. The same thing happened to me - my partner decided that home, child and work were not enough for her. She wanted new love, travel, emotions, etc. She would have been happier without me, she started going to a beautician, a hairdresser, etc. She would have a second child by another man. Well, a year later she told me that there were no people willing, she just looked after her child, I helped her, she went to work and that's it. The other option is to meet a rude man and tell you the game. You don't understand, family requires sacrifices, it can't be changed like your hairstyle. I take great care of the child and women see me as a second quality, get out of the movie!

   You and your husband can relax in different ways, you can really travel with a friend, etc. You have a very romantic idea of ​​a woman's relationship with a child. If you get a divorce, you will receive minimal child support. It is unlikely that in your romantic future relationship the future man will be a full-fledged father and ready to raise another child. You will probably live apart. You will have to work harder to have money for this child.

   You remembered very late. Indeed, your differences are great and the problems you describe are understandable. The bad thing is that you really can't share happiness. You can, as he says, try to fulfill your desires to travel with friends. Just remember that you have a family and a husband. But you obviously feel that if you touch the other you will not have the strength to hold back. And this is also a problem with the spoiled child. In general, a stalemate. Whatever you choose, someone will suffer, maybe everyone.

   Rest assured, you will not meet a man who wants to squat together at sunset. Most men are not into travel, sightseeing and shopping. Not to mention the money, though. As a compromise, you can travel with a friend. Also, try to travel as a family. so, He will have someone to evaluate the local beer with, the buttocks of the foreigners, instead of listening to your exaltations on the quality of the local goods.

   First choose what you want - what new crops where it is 5 years old to be 25 years old, you are the flag. One tip stay on your ass. My mother was like that, I always went to Bulgaria with my grandmother, my mother at parties with friends, me and my father in our country. I hate my mother for this, I miss her to this day, because for many things she was not with me, and for a girl it is important to share with her mother. If you stay, look at your child, from the age of 14-15 he will take his life in his hands, so then you can travel at will, whether alone, with your current husband, or with a lover, it doesn't matter. Only one thing I can not understand why you make families when you are not ready for this step. As good as children are, they are deprived, especially when they are few. Why, because it's time for you, because now you've tied an amsalak? When you are not ready for children and you want to live, why do you have children?

   Number 12, let's not summarize. I am close to the age of the author, I have been working for 20 years and I can provide everything myself. I earn 4-5 times more than my husband. Ie I can afford excursions and other pampering in my little free time. But my husband doesn't want to. So, in my case, what do you say? When the "kelepir" comes from me, and he still does not want. I have the appearance of a model, with a university degree (real, not from a fictional university), I speak 4 foreign languages ​​and I am learning a fifth, I have a highly paid profession, but I am also watching sunsets. :) I understand the author because I have the same problem. But, with a little more perseverance and without arguing or pushing, I managed to organize trips to three different countries for the last two years. It is not easy, but it is not impossible. The mistake most women make is that they start a direct conflict and then alienation occurs. No, men can't stand being crushed by their ego. You need to be very careful and loving, without harsh words. :)

   Divorce makes children sick, she was a woman! Travel, I travel with friends with children and I'm super good. With my husband, I run after the children and watch him rest. By your logic, I should not play sports and go in English, because my husband has no such interests. And he doesn't have to climb and play games because I'm not interested in those things? So what is this family without personal happiness? And let me tell you, because we travel with girls, the world is not full of men on the wave of "married with a child", unless you are interested in one-time experiences. Ah, for ruining your family ...

   I'm probably not your age, nor am I married or have a child, but somehow I have the feeling that I can imagine to some extent your situation, because I have a friend of a year and something and it is my first true and great love, and I haven't had any other boyfriends or romantic experiences before him ... and every time we quarrel over something bigger or less, or when we even have different points of view on a problem and argue like crazy ... and in such moments I think how maybe we're just not for each other? And then I start thinking how I don't want other men, I don't want another love, just at the thought of kissing or hugging another, I feel like crying and I immediately come to my senses to fix things between us and believe me, with a LOT of talk and compromises and listening and understanding, you can reach great heights. My friend and I are HUGE stubborn, we are both very difficult characters, so everything happens with a lot of compromises and a desire for change on both sides. That's why in your situation I understand what and why it stops you from looking for another man and parting with your childhood love ... Now many people will spit on you and say "well, why did you go to have a child with him, if you don't you like, etc. " - it's easy to say yes, it would be nice to end the relationship in time before the child, etc., because now it's kind of naughty to break up with the father of your child ... But on the other hand - you have a life Damn, once you live ... you can't sacrifice the most valuable thing - freedom, just because the man next to you keeps you ... out of 7 billion human beings in the world, there is hardly anyone else YOUR man. If it wasn't for the baby, I would advise you to leave this person immediately or to start thinking about an independent and family-independent life ... because as much as you love him, as well as he knows you well, he is your husband, etc., as soon as you are NOT HAPPY and you admit it to yourself and to us - why continue like this ?! Yes, it will hurt. Yes, it will be difficult to overcome and it will not happen overnight. But, what is a year or two in suffering against the rest of your life in misery?!? But since you have a child, try to talk to him SERIOUSLY, really seriously ... you tell him "I want to talk about something important that has been bothering me for some time ... so and so" - you explain everything as it is, you are waiting to see his opinion - maybe when he finds out that you are sick, he can try to change things, to improve ... if he doesn't want to and he still cares about your wishes, goals and dreams - you don't need such a man ... it will be difficult for the child, but it will be difficult for you too ... but in the end - such is life and not everything always goes according to plan and as we want it. You better split up so you can get over it sooner ...

   Hey poor wives ... alive to pity them ....! All of you are the same and when I look at my acquaintances ... they only think about exotic excursions and who will pay them ... it schemes the numbers what not ... just to deceive someone to pay them for these things. ..... BG woman in her full "brilliance" ... happy gentlemen!

   Author, did it occur to you to make money, buy vouchers for a trip or plane tickets plus a confirmation of a hotel reservation and give them to him as a gift for a birthday, anniversary or some other holiday? Such a gift is not refused! In recent years, I have only given this to my husband and he is happy as a child. I also gave him absolutely insane surprises. He came home from work one Friday afternoon. I said, "Because I know you've had a difficult week, I've made you a special dinner." What? he asks. Hey, now you'll find out! The taxi was already waiting for us downstairs. Along the way, he continued to wonder, "Are we going to a restaurant? And what is this bag for?" "To a restaurant," I say, "but it's farther away." It wasn't until the airport that he came to his senses and shouted, "You're crazy!" "Crazy, not crazy,

   15, in the comments you say that you would not divorce, but you were just tormented that he does not want to travel like you. In the topic you say: "I am afraid that I may meet a man with whom we are not one wave and who will willingly listen to me and share my dreams" and you talk about some crossroads. Aren't you exaggerating a little? So you secretly hope to meet the man of your dreams. I don't understand something. Is it such a big problem for you that he doesn't want to come with you on vacation, given that in the topic you wrote: "He offers me to travel and share my experiences with a friend" So neither stops you nor anything, and you assume that there you can meet a man, ie. your mind is open to other connections. This is provided that your husband does not stop you with anything, just because your home is more important than his travel. I don't understand something. Too small a problem to worry about meeting a man. Well, since you don't seem to have a problem with your husband, what worries you? I have the feeling that you are just bored and looking for excuses to find a new thrill and emotion. I don't know, I can't figure it out. I have been married for 10 years and my wife also does not always prefer what I do, but only to worry that we will be "on the same page" with a woman. At least admit to yourself what you are missing, because what you describe here is stupid and sucked out of your fingers. Either you just want to live, or subconsciously there is another reason. Ah, yes - and why should he "look through your eyes" and not you through his? that you are just bored and looking for excuses to find a new thrill and emotion. I don't know, I can't figure it out. I have been married for 10 years and my wife also does not always prefer what I do, but only to worry that we will be "on the same page" with a woman. At least admit to yourself what you are missing, because what you describe here is stupid and sucked out of your fingers. Either you just want to live, or subconsciously there is another reason. Ah, yes - and why should he "look through your eyes" and not you through his? that you are just bored and looking for excuses to find a new thrill and emotion. I don't know, I can't figure it out. I have been married for 10 years and my wife also does not always prefer what I do, but only to worry that we will be "on the same page" with a woman. At least admit to yourself what you are missing, because what you describe here is stupid and sucked out of your fingers. Either you just want to live, or subconsciously there is another reason. Ah, yes - and why should he "look through your eyes" and not you through his? At least admit to yourself what you are missing, because what you describe here is stupid and sucked out of your fingers. Either you just want to live, or subconsciously there is another reason. Ah, yes - and why should he "look through your eyes" and not you through his? At least admit to yourself what you are missing, because what you describe here is stupid and sucked out of your fingers. Either you just want to live, or subconsciously there is another reason. Ah, yes - and why should he "look through your eyes" and not you through his?

   Good and if you separate, who will pay for the excursions? Who will look after your child or will you drag him together with your new romantic man, whom you will eventually meet? You seem bored and don't have enough commitments to think about complete nonsense. I've traveled a lot, at one point everything merges, you don't remember anything and you even start to get annoyed - luggage, airports, hotels, people, people, people ... the same thing. I'm napping about cultures. And we have! I don't want to go anywhere anymore, it's best for me to be at home.

   I read a lot of nonsense! And number 8 is under criticism. "Typical Ganyo." I will not comment on the others, but I will answer briefly and clearly. For many years I staggered from one to another. I was very nice and careful. But when you start doing the calculations for the common good, you become "Ganyo"! One, two, five, fifteen - still something was missing. And then the men were simple! I envy you! I envy that you managed to turn a home, a child and a family. If I start explaining why your husband is behaving like this, it will be a very long time. And most of all, you may not understand me. You have his support and confidence to have fun. And what if you meet another man? Give him! Experience the thrill, but only there. I ruined a family. I interfered in their relationship to such an extent that I still hate myself! It was a great thrill. But I shouldn't have wanted to live with this woman and their child! Unfortunately, I felt it late and stopped everything. I will be sorry for the rest of my life! I am a child of divorced parents. At 15, I stayed with my mother and sister. My sets played outside and sat on the bars, and I worked from 8 to 20 hours. No matter how much I denied, I was always looking for male support. I couldn't have a childhood. I barely finished high school. No one shook my hand. I swore that one day when I have a child, I will never make him live the difficult life I went through. And from there I caught a drowning man for the last woman who agreed to start a family. My most spectacular mistake! Realizing that she was two months pregnant, she turned 180 degrees in demeanor and attitude. I have never met such a person who is literally for certification. My child. The child I dreamed of and prayed for, he is now 6 years old and ill. I don't know if it's from her crazy mother or from the screams and scandals between us. I don't know how long I will endure the nonsense and have a heart attack. As much as I hate and hate her, I will grit my teeth and be silent so that this child has two parents. That's why I'm hanging out here on this site, because I have no one to share my pain with. Okay, you're not happy. There is no trembling. Everything is tired and monotonous. Why should you look for a 35 man who will make you goosebumps? Do you think you will find it? 35-40 year olds are already married or misogynists. The other 10 percent try to lead numbers they couldn't have. How many years have you lived and never seen such a person? Do you think you will find it in 5 years? Will you build a family of 40? How long will it take you to figure out that life is not excursions and sunsets? Find a lover and firmly explain the rules. Falling in love lasts very little time. Finally, ask yourself the QUESTION: "For whom do we live in this world"? Personally, I, with a sick child, choose to take care of and give my life for him. I'm not interested in intestines and tremors! We live for our children, motherfucker! M40

   30, why are you writing an EXCURSION, is this some kind of eccentric joke? :) Greetings

   # 32, sorry to hear your story, sad really. But in your desire to provide for two parents of your child, it is very likely that you have placed him in an environment that has helped or caused his illness. A child cannot live in the midst of constant scandals and madness and develop normally! If you have the financial means, start seeing a therapist immediately. If you can't get along with your wife, stop the scandals and be united in how to raise the child, think about whether it's really worth staying together and continuing to make him sick.

   I will tell you one thing: Feminism will not make you children, nor will it raise them with you, nor will it warm you in old age! :)

   23 is the smartest and wisest woman to comment here. And 32 is the most responsible man of the commenters here. both have a very good grasp of causal relationships in a life in which nothing is accidental.

   32, there is no person left on this site who does not know about your story, there is no need to write it under each post. And your pathos and drama is more. Author, you just got caught up in the routine and you need variety. That's why you blame the closest one - the wife. I understand you, with a small child, work, constant repairs, it is easy for a person to get bogged down in everyday life and decide that he is very unhappy and the other does not understand it and do not look in one direction. Since you've been together for 12 years, things are hardly so black. Put yourself in your husband's shoes, if he was writing the story, it would probably sound like this: I'm shaking to finish the perfect home for the family, and my wife is still unhappy, she always wants us to go somewhere, I'm sorry I don't we look in one direction, I think I chose the wrong woman. Do not dramatize your disagreements, they are dictated by routine and different priorities (normally, you are different people). However, it is up to you to smooth out the differences and come to an agreement with meekness and kindness, without accusations, with calm discussion. Well, the facade is very important for your husband. How much money and time will it take for her, what is the best season, when it should be done ... Show a little interest, if it is important for him and you want him to show interest in travel. Plan a weekend somewhere for the two of you nearby, you don't have to go to the end of the world and try to be in a place he likes (mountain, sea, river, you know what he likes). So slowly find common ground, since you have been together for so many years, there can be no such. Do not rush out of boredom to make general conclusions that your choice is wrong. Surely there is no man with a longer marriage who has not wanted to pack up and leave. But even if you find butterflies, sunsets, love, etc., don't you remember that she will be there in time? Then what? Will you jump from color to color all your life? Not a good solution, especially with the child

   number 32: You also shared about the woman and the child before, I'm almost in the same situation - a crazy woman who changed after giving birth, like another person, my child has epilepsy, we broke up, that is, she decided she wanted butterflies in her stomach , is not currently available. What is your child sick of? I'm a man of 36, I know what's wrong with you! I am also a child of divorced people without paternal support.

   Talk to a specialist. Things are not so bad. Go with a girlfriend did not stop you. You are not gone yet, you are already thinking how you will meet someone, and great love.

   Author, I would tell you only one thing - PERSONAL HAPPINESS is the most important! You were not born with your husband or a child, you were born alone and you will die alone, this is Your way of life, to sacrifice for others makes you and them unhappy! I didn't have my father's support, only harassment on his part and thank God that my mother raised me, who is a very strong woman, my father I never want to see him, because I will beat him or something much worse ...! He is complete rubbish, and I am grateful for their divorce and that my mother saved me from it! Tolerate WTF ??? for someone and not to live the life you deserve, because every normal person deserves to be happy does not make you a hero but a victim! And your children will be victims, is that what you want? Are there ugly words, ugly deeds ... and your life will be ugly for everyone around you! Travel and dream, no one is your judge, I am glad that I am the son of divorced parents and that I live with my mother in Spain, and my biological idiot father rots in drunkenness and will die alone like a dog! As he did with his behavior! You don't have to put up with it, Nobody has to understand it! Good luck and I wish you a happy divorce!

   To the above Do you know how many people, looking only at their personal happiness, I know, who brought it under the crooked pear and now curse fate? Modern man is massively on this principle - I do my own thing, and the others are the mother. But the medal has two sides. But I don't blame you, apparently your life has turned out this way that you haven't happened to people in your life. But the author's situation is more of a pampering and she has gone to serious stupidity, for now only in her mind, but it starts from there.

   You immediately attacked her. To think that, maybe the man doesn't show her enough love. Why not want romance and excursions, every woman wants to leave the stove and the vacuum cleaner and feel like a woman, what prevents a man from changing places in 2-3 days. He can't do that much for her, even if he doesn't feel like it. A man should not keep his wife alone at home.

   42 that is, he did not lock her at home, but offered to go with friends. And the fact that he does not want to go on vacation is not a reason to dream of love with another man.

   You will meet another man if you want him. If you are serious, as you should be at this age and with this marital status, you will not have eyes for another. Tighten up a bit. Can you throw away everything you've achieved so far just for some pampering. The man didn't even stop you from traveling, he gave you an option that would suit both of you. And what could be better than traveling with friends, and when you come home your home is more and more renovated and pleasant to live. Tighten up and set your priorities. If you think that getting a divorce and leaving a man and a child to travel will be easier for you ... ok ... act! It `s your life!

   44, did you not understand that the woman was looking for an occasion to commit adultery? She hasn't left yet, and she's already thinking about how she would meet the new love. It's as if you go on vacation and love awaits you there. A man who is serious, sits down, talks, fixes his marriage and does not think about a new love at the first trifle. He who no longer wants to build a relationship is looking for small excuses. the very fact that she had thought about what she would have done if she had met the Man with the main M meant that she was ready and looking around. Otherwise, such a thing will not cross a person's mind.

   It is not very clear to me how you both love someone and regret that he was the wrong choice? The man neither locked the author nor stopped her from going to watch the sunsets where she would. However, the pink novels and women's series have their say, since in her mind are not only the culture and history of distant lands, but also a sultry macho. Apparently her husband came across the wrong woman.

   Apparently, the woman has decided to take off her panties outside the house. Don't scold her, everyone has to go their own way.

   He looks like a 12-year-old who doesn't know what life, responsibilities, reason, wisdom, loyalty, values ​​are. Having a child and a man. A child who wants, gets, understands that this did not make him happy and let's go back to the new demands, the new "adventures", the cycle continues and somewhere there at a late age begins to see what life is, what is gratitude and true happiness.

   The Bulgarian women are already very open. Exotic excursions, airplanes, foreign cultures and chatter ... Prestigious professions with salaries 5 times more than men, knowledge of 5 to 10 foreign languages, etc. Understanding of family psychology at the highest level. So if you read a foreigner who happens to be in these forums, he will think that we are a very advanced civilization with an extremely high standard. And because it's about opposing facades against some kind of romance, beyond the imagination of even the most ardent South American screenwriter. We are both a complete failure. The facades are in poor condition. On the streets every 2 meters there are sullen and tormented faces disgusted by life. Our history no longer has anything to say about culture, but we study other people's customs and manners. Each irradiated bg. a goose is already looking to swim in foreign and exotic goals and take a picture with the phone and then brag like a gypsy with a white ass. But the trip lasts 5 -10 days and then back to the swamp. After all, if we launch a monkey into space and take it back, we will still have the same monkey. We have a feeling that very soon it will be full of old maidens and bachelors and divorces, but everything is correct. And since his wife has made ends meet, she is now at a crossroads and is wondering how to please herself at that job abroad. And the boring domestic man to think about the putties. What romance just ah? We have a feeling that very soon it will be full of old maidens and bachelors and divorces, but everything is correct. And since his wife has made ends meet, she is now at a crossroads and is wondering how to please herself at that job abroad. And the boring domestic man to think about the putties. What romance just ah? We have a feeling that very soon it will be full of old maidens and bachelors and divorces, but everything is correct. And since his wife has made ends meet, she is now at a crossroads and is wondering how to please herself at that job abroad. And the boring domestic man to think about the putties. What romance just ah?

   Up to 50 Kefish mu, that's right :)

   № 50 - a remarkable comment!

   № 40 - He and your father did just that - he looked at his personal happiness as he understood it. And he has shown you how far one can go on the path of selfishness and the occupation of one's family - to complete failure in life. If your mother professed the same philosophy of life and did not make sacrifices to raise you, instead of throwing you in abandoned orphanages and looking after her, she might not be alive today.