If you ask, I'll tell you what to do. Because the situation obviously weighs on you and because you are a man, you have no choice but to act in the direction of change. Men act, they don't sit and grumble in forums like numbers 4 and 7. As I listen to them, they've already figured out whether, even though they're 20 or so ... and of course women are to blame. I was like you 20 years ago. Then a relative of mine once sat down and explained to me what I would tell you. Shyness is one of the most serious problems for a man. You have to make a conscious effort to overcome it, because it will hinder you for the rest of your life, and not only with women. First, start by changing your inner conviction of who you are, what you represent as a person, and how you feel about yourself. You have to consciously build in yourself through repeated repetition, firm conviction, that you are a wonderful, dignified and confident man who walks through life with his head held high, who knows what he wants and how to achieve it, and who has dreams that he will achieve, whatever it costs him. In short, you must have the conviction that "You are the Man." Here I am not talking about being arrogant and behaving arrogantly with others, I am talking about radiating confidence and calmness that whatever happens around you cannot affect your inner principles and cannot distract you from your goals. It will be difficult to imagine it at first, but if you persist, it will become part of your inner radiance. And people will feel it, because your behavior will change. The second phase is to force yourself to communicate with all kinds of people in order to break your shame of communication. Become a master of the short conversation. Talk about whatever you like - whomever you like - saleswomen, seniors (very gracious interlocutors), waiters, the master of your car, random people on the street ... use every occasion to talk and try to keep it for a little longer, than you are comfortable with. If you manage to do it, it will become easier. Soon you won't have any problems having a conversation with anyone, and the beautiful women for you will just be what they really are ... people like everyone else. And now the women. Remember from me that women like to be led by confident and dominant men. If you want success with them, you have to be unshakably confident, a dominant man who knows how to make decisions and makes the woman feel safe with him in every way you can imagine. That's why they don't like insecure and shy men ... they just don't have the balls to do what it takes to be with a woman. They sit in the corner, scared to death of rejection, and prefer to do nothing just to keep their fragile egos. The shy put the woman above them, are afraid of her and put her on a pedestal. There is no woman in this world who feels sexually attracted to a man who has placed her above him and sees her as some kind of supernaturally frightening creature. Once you are confident in the conversations, first start communicating with women on neutral topics and without a sexual context. Gradually like some of them and try to become more sexual with them - hang them, blur them, look them in the eyes, lightly touch them and offer them to see each other in private. Don't worry about giving up in any way and don't take it personally. Not everyone has to like you, and that's perfectly fine. Lastly - your personal life. You must have a life full of events and interesting activities. Women are irresistibly attracted to men with interesting lives, who passionately follow their dreams and manage to attract women to their world. For you, women should not be an end in themselves, but a source of pleasant sensations. The paradox is that when you stop taking them seriously and giving them too much importance, they start to feel terribly attracted to you. I hope I was at least a little helpful. Success! Women are irresistibly attracted to men with interesting lives, who passionately follow their dreams and manage to attract women to their world. For you, women should not be an end in themselves, but a source of pleasant sensations. The paradox is that when you stop taking them seriously and giving them too much importance, they start to feel terribly attracted to you. I hope I was at least a little helpful. Success! Women are irresistibly attracted to men with interesting lives, who passionately follow their dreams and manage to attract women to their world. For you, women should not be an end in themselves, but a source of pleasant sensations. The paradox is that when you stop taking them seriously and giving them too much importance, they start to feel terribly attracted to you. I hope I was at least a little helpful. Success!
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Open. ;) Then it's easier.