Hello, I turn to you for advice nothing more. I don't want to be judged and so on. I have a friend for a year and a half he travels by ship. From the very beginning of our relationship, when we didn't know each other at all, I was with someone for a short time. I really liked the man I slept with and went out with, I didn't have contact with my friend. We were constantly arguing, and as young children I thought that separation was inevitable. It so happened that the man I was dating ended my relationship with me, and I was very much in love with him. I'm already with my boyfriend, everything is fine, but ah this conscience. Sometimes, even quite often, I think about what I did. I liked the man very much, I was depressed, I'm not sorry, let this be a lesson for me, but a lesson at the cost of what I'm just like that, I constantly think, I think, and I end up doing nonsense. It is only when one makes a mistake that one realizes one's mistakes. It's been a long time, but somehow I do not accept this fact. It is not said that my friend was not with another while he was there, even once, because he kept calling me as if he was checking on me. All this adventure happened when we hadn't heard from each other, we hadn't written for a week or two. I am writing this story to give me advice on how to overcome this nonsense, why I am like this, how to change, how to be above things. Thanks.
* Why are you with your boyfriend at all? You are with him because he has abandoned you, and do not come out to me with a guilty conscience. If you had a conscience, you would end contact before you actually cheated on your friend. * You used and cheated, but they did the same to you. Who wants to be used and discarded? !! * You could judge from the very beginning whether you were ready to give a chance to a long-distance relationship. When it doesn't suit you, you just tell the boy that you're not okay with his trip, and look for happiness elsewhere. -Maryan
Admit to your friend that whatever happens will happen. The conscience is calmed with frankness.
Everything is so badly written, I have to read the lines 10/20 times to understand what you are trying to say ...
Your story is not complicated. It is difficult to read and understand. My advice is to stop thinking so much and go on with your normal life. Nothing new under the sun. Happens.
You're obsessed with thinking about it, and it doesn't matter. It was at the beginning of your relationship, you didn't even know if you were in a relationship. What you do is important now and in the future, so leave that conscience to her. If you want to stay with him, don't tell him anything. Start playing sports (or something else) and you will pass
"One only realizes one's mistakes when one makes a mistake." Well, no. We humans have brains and can judge the consequences of our actions. You knew you were cheating. You wanted something to happen to the busier one, but you weren't sure if it would happen, and you kept the other one just in case. I'm sorry about your "boyfriend" being with such a lowly wife.
Don't admit it. How do you know your friend wasn't another on the ship? Rather, the problem is that you were in love with the other. Do you love your boyfriend at all? If not, break up with him. Because he will go to the ships again, and he will be alone again ....
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I did not understand anything, can anyone say briefly what it is about?