congratulations, your son has unconventional sexual preferences
I know a lot of people will say it's not normal and advise you to really take it to a psychologist, but I think if makeup isn't that obvious, it's not bad? On the other hand, he likes it, and there's nothing wrong with doing what he likes, except of course, if it's not illegal, but it's nothing like that. I think you should be glad your son doesn't do drugs and stuff, be glad he doesn't care. I think it would be good to sit down and talk normally without yelling at him and obviously against it. Ask him if he likes it, why he does it, has he told a friend, for example (if so, what he thinks), tell him that maybe he can remove any of the products like foundation and so on. All the best! Finally, please don't make him feel lonely, repelled and misunderstood by his own parents!
It's perfectly normal for the boy, and she'd probably take Prince and Michael Jackson and the vocalists of Moden Toking to a psychologist, as well as Marilyn Manson. And even if he was gay, it still wouldn't be a bad thing. Amman from limited people in this country. And yes, I missed — and Berlusconi goes makeup!
He may be transgender, but that's usually evident from a child. It's not a tragedy for a man to be homosexual, but if he starts mating like a woman, it's a little too much. I hope you didn't get yourself a beating like that.
If he's got a lot of female girlfriends, he's probably gay. Have you ever thought that you should just accept it for what it is without blaming anyone? Homosexuals are born like this, it's not a matter of upbringing. She told the boy he wasn't hiding. Would you rather he hide, get married at home to have children, because he should, and not be happy? It's like you're being made to marry a woman.
At his age, I'm wearing makeup, too, but I'm neither gay nor feminine. It's normal to experiment now.
Yes, it's very normal. Tomorrow lipstick will put on, but we are narrow-minded and lost. That's why they're in the west. Gender to gender, gay to gay... And by setting an example of musicians and artists, it's a stage image. And it's different!
There's nothing wrong with it if he likes the child like it, and about homo men they don't make up and they don't make up in any way from other male individuals.
Mrs. Viet, you're insane!!! Treat your own child in this way when everyone else is probably behaving badly with him and expects support from you. We are 2018 year, it is already normal to have any people, not illegal what does, not do drugs I guess, so it's better? Get interested in transgender people - it could be your child. That means being born a boy/girl and wanting to be the other sex. In America, so many children feel that way, Angelina Jolie's child is transgender. For the makeup. what can I tell you, that I'm a girl and that I'm not doing makeup makes me a boy? Not. Not to mention that all male actors and singers have makeup all the time. Do not be limited, the child is not for a psychologist, he was born this way just now he decides to show it to the world. Be a good mother and first of all try to understand it.
Korean men also go make-up free, as do celebrities all over the world.
If she doesn't like herself without makeup and looks better with makeup and isn't gay, why not wear it? Even Donald Trump is doing makeup.
People make up to look beautiful. I guess your son wants to look perfect, so he's got makeup on. If your son doesn't have makeup, it's pointless to worry.
There are also girls who are impressed by such boys.
This is what happens when many please children and walk with branded clothes and new techniques. I know five guys like that who go make-up and upload pictures like that on the internet and have already declared themselves make-up artists and girls go to them and pay to be makeup-free from them. When I asked them why they had become like this, they replied that like too many things they had and were already wondering what to do. Deprived children become people. You have the mistake, ma'am. If you had him go to work from a young age and wonder how to make 10 leva for a new T-shirt and learn to work, he would not have had time to think about makeup and. Stop his money and make him human while you have time to make up for your mistakes. Soon he'il be an adult and get him to go out to work, study, pay for everything himself without paying him for some private universities and branded clothes. Wondering how to pay his rent and work, she won't have time to put on a foundation and pluck his eyebrows.
Author, there's nothing crazy about your son. Beauty salons are full of young men who go to fix their eyebrows, there are Arab salons in which they fix them with thread, etc. Once upon a time, it was thought that this was not for men, and no matter how hard your eyebrows are, you don't have to change them. There were a lot of comical cases. It's a good thing that time has passed. Now men are epislated, makeup-free, going to manicures. I guess he's in a teenage age, then they're more critical of themselves and their body, if they have a pimple on their face, they think they're all looking at them, and they're laughing at them. I don't see why you should stop him.
I called my son in private and yelled at him, ... find a video on youtube I think it was either karbowski or No man's land and see a young man, like your son, how he is maintained. He paints his beard. very interesting. If you break up the emotional connection, there's no return. And shout??? He's a man. Leave him alone, he'il overdo his makeup, his friends will go and stop. The limit is thin.
And you're 38, like you don't accept that he's big. Haven't you thought about a second child? Just don't say, but yes, but the difference is big, people, what are they going to say in...?
We're 2018. All kinds of people are tolerated. There's nothing wrong with it, or at least I can't see. He was raised in a good family, that's how I learned from the lyrics. He doesn't miss anything? ... Maybe it's puberty? Talk to his father... Do not forbid these things, for he will want them even more, as we know, the Forbidden Fruit is the sweetest." Maybe he lacks self-esteem for his appearance? Maybe someone offended him with something? It is better in my opinion not to sc sc matter to him, explain to him what you think and ask him (whatever you have to ask). ;)
Take yourself to a psychologist that, like the things you write, sting my hair. She was devastated. What's the matter? I'm ruined by limited parents like you! For a 17-year-old, the look is EVERYTHING. I understand that perfectly!
Once upon a time, men waited for a summons for the barracks... ...and they're not going to be the same. and now they're waiting for their orders from Oriflame. :D A woman calmed her down, a psychologist went to lead him. Leave the boy alone. I understand taking drugs to scream, and you're looking for some makeup, and he's just to look fresher, he didn't go to wear lipstick and mascara. And even if you were gay, you still shouldn't react like that. It's the 21st century!
I've always been happy to be a man and don't have to make up, and the world is a little bit of a freak. Number 3 the examples are accurate to you, these are artists, showmen, it's different there. It's a good thing Levski wasn't born in our time otherwise and he'd be wearing makeup on.
He doesn't need a psychologist. You should be alone with him and talk. Be calm and ask him why he's starting to make up. Today's times are totally freaked out. It wasn't bisexual, gay, queer, no wonder he changed his sexual orientation, it's fashionable. Maybe it's a different reason. There are celebrities (young boys) who make up. Maybe he's got a favorite performer and he's trying to emulate him. I don't know, there's a lot of cases. You just have to be both of you and ask him (but in a calm tone) and ask him what the reason is. Success!
Men's people in other parts of the world use makeup daily, in countries like Asia, hair dyeing and a man's makeup is a perfectly normal thing (for most people), but they are not homosexual, and I would even say they have more attention on the part of girls because they are different. Stop thinking limited, we live in the 21st century. They also have an opinion about how they look, and if something doesn't like it in appearance, then I don't see how they can disguise it except with makeup. You need to see a psychologist, not your son. Accept the fact purely human, why should only girls change the way they look? Amman of these kind of people, there's a serious thing for you, let the boy do what he wants. I understand you're from a religious family, but even if he's gay, what are you going to do? Are you going to kill him? Or are you going to shut him down and not let him go anywhere until he dies of grief?
THE WORLD IS CHANGING, REALIZE IT NOW!
To number one, it might not be a bad time for you to be gay, but for a mother to be without grandchildren would be a nightmare.
Let his father talk to him. Tell him that it's not important for a man to be handsome, that girls won't like him when they find out he's wearing makeup. Tell him that if his classmates find out he's wearing makeup, it's going to be a big embarrassment, and there's always going to be rumors about him. Danl, talk him out of it. I don't believe a psychologist can help. The son doesn't think he has a problem, so even if you take him, the psychologist, besides saying his opinion, won't be useful.
Rather, consider reducing his allowance, moving him to another school and researching his activities and company.
Success!
Let him do what he wants! I don't wear makeup because I'm more comfortable without one, and I'm a girl, almost 19. And what comes out- that I'm insane?
You're going to yell at him about it, leave the boy alone and he's 17 years old before you raise your voice, look at what celebrities look like, you as a mother should support your son and not yell at him like he's 12 years old! God, what kind of people are there?
I'm going to have your problem! The boy is a teenager, for them appearance is everything and just obsessed with the idea of looking good. Not to mention that the singers make up en masse and he just wants to emulate his idols. If you didn't see him in a dress and heels, I think there's nothing to worry about, and so be it, he's your son, whether he's wearing makeup or without.
It's a good thing you didn't follow any modern videos on the internet. I often come across boys, and mature men who show how they make up, pluck their eyebrows and do their haircuts. It's normal to be a little shocked, we're talking about your child, and it comes to you like a thunderbolt, but there's nothing you can do. You can talk to him, take him to psychologists, cut off his pocket books, scream and cry, but the young man is 17 years old and you've long had no power over his decisions. You probably don't like it at all, but you have a puberty, and they're pretty inventive when they get bans and penalties.
In this case, we are talking about metrosexuality rather than homosexuality. This is not a kind of sexual oration, it does not mean that he has a tendency towards men, but that he follows certain trends that affect his appearance: that he is contied, put simply. My advice is to talk to him, not to hang and put on unpleasant labels. A child you have, your most important role in life is to love and accept it, however difficult it may be sometimes to assimilate his involvements, thoughts and approach.
Your son is normal. I can't say the same about you. You yelled at him??? For what? He should be ashamed??? From what?
If he likes makeup, that's his right. And you're describing the situation as if he killed someone or became a pimp...
My best friend from high school was buying more cosmetics than his sister and mother combined. So what? The girls seem to like that because they're sticking to it a lot more than I do...
I absolutely support number three. Amman from limited people.
My condolences, your son is a pendant. There's the problem with him spoiling him a lot and not depriving him of anything. In the past, being a faggot was nasty, disgusting, offensive, and now it's become fashionable, so young spoiled boys are off. susceptible to this depray.
Dr. Freud
by the author
My son is not homosexual or transgender by any means.
I mean boyfriends, that's just how I expressed myself, and maybe that's what the confusion is about.
My son's friends are mostly boys. I don't know what they think of him, I rarely see them. I don't think he does it because he has very high self-esteem and has always cared and liked his appearance. Twice a week he goes to a haircut, has always taken care of his skin with various lotions and ointments, epilates, all this I take for ok, but makeup... Tomorrow he'il decide he wants to be taller and buy heels. I deliberately don't talk to his father because I don't even know how he's going to take it. As far as I know, he'il be shocked at first, and in a moment he'il say he looks like he's as good as ever, or he's going to yell at him about being a man and he doesn't have to make up.
You're accusing me of being insane, but imagine that this is your son you're doing everything for, and one day you come home makeup-ready as a woman... And you'il be confused. The truth is, he's doing it out of a lyg. He even confessed when I asked him that he was just doing it to make him prettier. I'm glad he's taking care of his appearance, his dad and I are also looking after each other, we've had a few surgeries, we're not neglected or limited in any way, but it's all too much for me.
Well, just because he has a lot of girl girlfriends means he's gay. He seems to be more comfortable in the company of girls because they have more in common. Looks like makeup's one of them. And taking him to a psychologist, you're not going to change him, being gay is innate, there's nothing to do. It is best for you and your husband to seek specialized help for yourself, just to make it easier to accept your child as it is.
There is, however, another moment. Gather strength and talk to your child, it's really important. It's about the fact that there's not a slight difference between having your son gay or being transgender. Transsexual means that he feels the opposite sex, that is, your son wants to be a girl, since gay means to be attracted to people of the same sex, while a trans wants to be of the other sex, and my makeup speaks to something like that. This is also not "treated", you are born again. You just have to accept it if you don't want to lose it.
Number 23 outraged me. What's with the selfishness? Grandchildren?! Don't you care if your child's happy? How can there be such parents as you! If I'm in, I'il slam the door and you'il never see me again. No one needs a mother like that!
Then why are you making your child's elephant from a fly? Let him live his life the way he wants.
To the author 31
When I was 17, I wore women's clothes when I was alone. I didn't put makeup on. I never liked boys, and I never wanted to change gender. I wore the clothes when there were no others at home.
My loved ones misunderstood. Makeup and dress do not define sexuality. There's nothing to worry about. I've also seen documentaries of women living with male crossdressers.
It may be meerosexual, a lot of guys pluck their eyebrows, epilate, but they're not gay or transgender, they just take very care of their looks, they probably take care of their looks, and makeup is part of that. I understand you're shocked, try to accept it, be glad he's not a drug addict, an alcoholic, a gambler, a repeat offender, he can stop in time.
Look, excessive attention to appearance, almost manic (as I read his mother, what she wrote), is an expression of mental health problems. You're right to worry. Your son certainly has serious problems. To experience as a peacock and be so concentrated in its appearance is anything but normal. Unfortunately, he's almost an adult now and he's a little bit or too missed. At least he has the narcissistic personality disorder. Maybe it's a good thing to point it at showbusiness or other shows-related professions. In the typically male profession, he's not going to feel good. Men there compete with character and skills, not manicures, hairstyles and makeup. He calmly explained to him that appearance is important, but not everything, especially for his gender. Talk about the examples he's backing up. What media stars do is not always appropriate in everyday life. What exactly does it aim with this makeup and why it is not liked natural, that it is necessary to use kifflen methods. Make-up in men has always been used only for professional or military purposes. And all the boys who are bored, who are getting make-up, seem to have not created enough male activities and develop typical female methods to attract attention.
"That's how it pays off" just me... is that why you are giving birth to us, to repay you? And how? When we fold, we amputate our personality to get into your frame. Your frame is scythe, narrow and doesn't fit us. Is it so scary to be ourselves? Is it that hard to accept? Why are you judging us the most? Are we being judged enough out there? Your son feels not handsome, and you tell him that it's not normal to be who he likes and should be the way you and the society (yours) would like him. Straight out of right, tell him, live for the people, not for yourself. Like us.
Take him to a psychologist. It's going to be like my little sister. She wrote an incredible, age-racing fantasy story with which she even won a contest. And my parents thought it was for a psychologist, that he was in a cult, or that he was on drugs. They took her, read the story, talked to my sister, went out and invited my parents to family therapy. The nurse is super, the psychologist worried that my parents would be crushing her incredible potential instead of developing it. What do you think of that, huh?
So take him, check his watch a little bit. Just because you're a parent doesn't mean you're always right about everything, nor that you've gone your child's way. It has its own way. Did you grow up with facebook and unlimited access to information, or did you grow a home phone and library, m? Your whole world was different, time, opportunity, freedom. Otherwise, you've been through our path, well, no, my way, I don't know if there's any other way to be more unfamiliar to you.
What kind of psychologists are after you? What century do you even live in? Leave the boy alone in his makeup. And I make up, it's not a pain to die and men do it, mostly celebrities have made up. You're making such a drama that you don't know where. You're overreacting!
What's wrong with wanting to look good? And whether he's gay or not, no one here has it, to comment on the boy's private life. In the 21st century, this is a rough rural event.
Amman from the opinion of any complexist who thinks they proclaim tolerance, but are actually less tolerant than those they blame!
I understand the young man of the time, i used to wear foundation and lipstick when I was 19. Ever since then, I've had doubts about myself being gay. Yes, i'm gay, and there's nothing wrong with that. I'm 25 years old and i'm living apart from my parents. I found out I was gay at 21. And to this day I keep doing makeup, but it should not bother the parents- The young man is alive and well at 17, but you, ma'am, don't mess with him, that's his life.
At first there is a pretty high probability that he is gay, but either he doesn't realize it himself yet, or he's ashamed to admit it, and that's what he's doing to be interested in girls. If he's not gay, then he's a type of weather man, that is. a man who cares very much about his appearance.
And in one and the other there is nothing wrong, and instead of getting into turmoil, just try to accept it for who it is. With makeup or without, gay or straight, it doesn't make it any less your son! Yes, I guess it's a shock for any parent to see their son with foundation and lipstick, but he definitely doesn't do it to you off, but just because he likes and feels good. So as hard as it is, try to accept it, not make it uncomfortable as if he's doing some kind of crime. Yes, it may be a little strange and unusual, but it's certainly not a crime to treat him like some villain who urgently needs re-education. If you treat him badly, all you will achieve is to take him away from himself and make him ashamed of himself and what he is.
Besides, how do you know this isn't just another stage in its development? Just because, as a teenager, makeup doesn't mean she's going to do it at 40. So why would you want to shame him and make him feel rejected and misunderstood by those closest to him? Puberty is generally a pretty difficult time and it's important to show our children that we love them and can always rely on us instead of judging them.
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