Hello, everyone! I am a 14-year-old girl with a friend of almost 23. We have been going for almost a year and four months now. In the last month he hasn't paid as much attention to me as before, while I'm talking he doesn't listen to me when I say "repeat what I said" he repeats only the first two words and nothing ... I talked to him so he promised me he would try changes but does nothing about it. In the last few days, I'm just crying not to lose him, because I love him really strongly and truly. He works next to people non-stop, next to girls who take him down and are offered to him, they even left him their numbers several times, but of course he doesn't pay attention to them. My problem is this. I love him a hell of a lot and I'm jealous a hell of a lot too. The weather is warming up, the girls are undressing and I'm worried about not doing something. When he looks at a girl in her bust for even a second, I go crazy and start crying and screaming at him. Every day he repeats to me that he is not interested in another, but my jealousy of him is huge. Lately we fight every day for nonsense and it's like "why are you looking at this one, why is she looking at this one, I saw you looking at her ass" 6 months ago he was different, he didn't allow me to sit next to boys in public transport but now he allows me to say whether she is sitting next to a boy or a girl. The truth is, I'm afraid of losing him.
I cried for 30 minutes for fear that someone else would steal it from me. Our people know him, he sees me every day, but my jealousy of him has no end. With each passing day, it gets bigger and bigger. Many times I have cried from girls I don't even know who I see for the first time because they are either beautiful or have a nice body. He always reassured me and said "nice don't cry, I don't care who has what body I want only you" does not show his jealousy and gram, I have told him more than once but he always answers me with "I'm like that". He knows ours as I know theirs and we understand both he with ours and I with theirs. Quarrels are regular because of girls who strip naked, so as not to get along with anyone. His attitude has changed for a long time, he is not the boy he was radically different before. He says that I treat him like a friend. That when we fight, I fight and he's right here, but I'm just like that. I love him, I really don't want to lose him, because for me he is the whole world without him I am nothing. I have always envied my brother for being 17 or for a girl who is 17-18-19 ... he is 23 and it is time for children but it is not for me. I am too young for children and I do not think of giving birth soon. I can't imagine him having a child with another. We have known each other for 3 years, I have always loved him and I will always love him. I'm afraid he'll cheat on me with someone bigger than me to start a family with. A few days ago I cried on the flight because I asked him if I was 20-21 if it would be better. He told me that it would be much better because we would live together to help him with the costs and not wonder how to connect the two ends and the most painful thing for me was that we would have a child. It broke me into millions of pieces, I started crying, he calmed me down and asked me why I was crying. I haven't thought about the fact that he can cheat on me with someone they can have a child with before. This thought kills me every second. Many girls are offered to him, even if he cheats on me, I will not understand. I'm afraid of losing him, he keeps me afloat. If it weren't for him, I would be one of the typical girls nowadays with her breasts out and her ass as visible as possible. I'm asking for help!
1 lillylotuseater answered
The difference in your age in this case is of great importance. I'm the same age as you, but I haven't had a serious relationship so far. I think you should talk to your parents, because they will give you the best advice and will always think well of you. You're right because he's a big man now and maybe he's thinking about family. The fact is that it certainly takes you at least 10 years, if not more, to get on your feet and no longer think about children, etc. Talk to him and your parents and share your worries. and watch his reaction. You have to stop showing your jealousy so clearly. He will suffer, he will suffer, and in the end he will get tired. If he truly loves you, he will not look at anyone else. Think about whether your relationship has a future. You have a 9-year difference, which if you were 20, wouldn't matter. But you're 14, you are at different stages of your life. You grow, you still change, and you don't even know yourself. He already wants stability. As much as we do not acknowledge it, carnal desires have an effect. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. If you haven't let him go yet, it's normal for his interest in you not to be so strong anymore. But this does not mean that you will immediately offer yourself to him. Only if you want it and only if you are sure. Just really think about the future of this relationship. Will he be able to wait for you to grow up? If you both think you won't last long, end it, no matter how painful, and stay friends. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. That's all from me. I hope I really helped. That's all from me. I hope I really helped.