My Parisian Story

   First, congratulations on coming home. There is a lot of work at the moment and you are welcome. Do not regret your experience abroad and do not think that you have failed. You have learned many important things about life and people, things that cost more than money! At least you realized in time where you are and in what environment you are. Unfortunately, 80% of Bulgarian emigrants abroad not only live in the way you describe, in the environment you describe, but also do not realize it or do not want to admit it. I say this as a person who has studied and lived long abroad - in 4 different European countries and in the United States. It is enough to be nearby when a plane from Chicago with Bulgarians is emptied to find out what it is about. You saved yourself in time and didn't waste your time living in the ghetto. As a highly educated person who also speaks languages, I guarantee you, that discrimination and bad attitude / prejudices towards Bulgarians and Romanians are and will be and the reasons he tested on himself - bad human material has gone to the West and stains our name unfortunately. That's why I came home and made a career in our country. Good luck

   It's good that you understood what kind of product it is. The child obviously suffers that he is not with his father and that's why he does it. And the mother is not a commodity. This is a useful experience. You saw the world and you saved some money. So try yourself in Bulgaria. You can always go back if you choose. And this time, if you live with someone, set clear conditions for them, incl. Financial before you live together.

   Good to have you, compatriot. The important thing is to feel good. Everything else is in order.

   Author, I fully understand you, because I have also gone through the bitter path of an immigrant. The attitude of the people there towards those from Eastern Europe is not good at all, and for a number of reasons it will not improve. On the contrary, it will get worse. I also returned to Bulgaria and not only do I not regret it, but now I wonder how I endured three years in Germany. Don't worry, because you don't have much time left and October is only two months away. Now there is a lot of work in Bulgaria and this will not be a problem for you. Good luck.

   The fact that you haven't met a woman shouldn't lead to the expression "fuck you abroad." You could have come across something nice. Don't do your bills on a single case. Concerning the return to Bulgaria, rather forget it if you live normally.

   Number 5, precisely because I live normally, I returned to Bulgaria. Since I returned, my nerves have calmed down and I feel healthy and happy here. If you don't mind the people there using you for a doormat, stay there.

   My advice - choose your roommates much more carefully, no matter if you are in Bulgaria, France or Pakistan. Abandoned mothers, with 8-year-olds talking to their mom on the phone, are no good. Most often we talk about various garbage. everyone is to blame, they are lazy, they live on benefits, they are racists ("Thieving Bulgarian"), they hate everything and they always think they are right. And they are very simple, they swear like carters all the time.

   I am very interested in those who say that they wanted to go west to LIVE LIKE WHITE PEOPLE. What kind of white people are you talking about, since the vast majority of those who immigrated there live in the ghettos with Negroes, Arabs and all sorts of other mangasars, and the locals treat them in the same way - with hatred and contempt. So my dear compatriots, think again! Who lives like a white man, we who are in Bulgaria and live between relatives and friends (white people), or you who live among stinking, intoxicated inks. Only the strong remain here, they are recovering well and the most important thing is that they are happy.

   Hi, Interesting story and sad what you experienced. Many people are abroad, but I'll just tell you. First, people are different in minds from each other, whether they are Bulgarians, French among themselves or whatever. Abroad, however, the minds of many people change, and especially as they are from different countries, belonging and definition of nationality in many cases can be felt in communication with people. Not necessarily but it depends on the people. You screwed up when you went to live with the woman from Romania, because that's exactly what she wanted. Someone who would benefit from her, looking purely at her interest and that of the child who was hardly planned for her. It's good that you're out. Problems abroad vary among people depending on their social class and education. The educated usually know the language and are qualified in a certain field, they may be self-employed developing a business. Your mistake is that you do like many Bulgarians who go out to earn the minimum wage that satisfies them, which is more than in Bulgaria. The tendency of these uneducated people is to move to the biggest cities because they see them as places where they can easily find a job, especially without language. They want to save, but their expenses eat up their wages and stay in the loop. In many cases, they also live among their compatriots, with linguistic and cultural interactions remaining the same and discouraged from integration. The whole cycle and limited views in many cases remain their potential undeveloped, because they are not interested in what the systems they have gone to can provide them as retraining. What I have seen, unfortunately, from our people, however, is an interest in the benefits they can get, which also irritates me to some extent. Tighten up and if you are going abroad looking for options to improve, avoid parasites and do not be yourself. It's hard to make you stronger.

   It's great that you've decided to go back to where you feel better, but you think very impulsively. What are these hasty conclusions so angro for all foreigners and abroad from the experience with a Romanian woman ?! That if she was not Romanian, but Caspian, what would happen? Would you hate all the people of Kaspic only or the whole Shumen region? And, maybe the whole northeastern Bulgaria or why not the whole Bulgaria or the whole Balkans ?! Don't do that. This reminds me of a subjective New Zealander who travels to make films about tourism in different countries and in Bulgaria went to Plovdiv, right in Stolipinovo, and commented that in Bulgaria it is a complete misery and they still go with the carts. Then he went to a crowded pub and ordered the cheapest from the menu, which turned out to be porridge or mamaliga, as the Romanians say. Try a little, made a disgusted face and added - "and Bulgarian cuisine does not fit!" How does that sound to you? Unfortunately, you are making an absolutely identical mistake. Think carefully, analyze the situation and think about why it happened to you both personally and professionally. What is the reason why you are not satisfied with where you live, that you love Bulgaria and you miss your relatives or that you do not like your job and the place - city, country where you are? What can you do to improve your life professionally? Do you need additional education, retraining, languages, starting your own business? Where would you feel best if you were satisfied with your career? And, personally, what is your environment? What made you marry a woman who is rude, simple, thieving and impudent? And, as a bonus, to poison yourself with her son. How can you change that? For example, as a student I realized that if I want a girl for one night I have to go to a disco, but if I want a meaningful conversation about the philosophy of Rene Descartes, I can talk to a girl who digs a section of French philosophy in the university library or philosophy club . Think carefully about what I am writing to you, because it is for your good. If you do not change and continue to so hastily draw hasty conclusions, it will only harm your life, whether you are in Paris, the village of Hunavir in Alsace, Sofia or the village of Gorno Uino, Kyustendil region. which digs a section of French philosophy in the university library or in the philosophy club. Think carefully about what I am writing to you, because it is for your good. If you do not change and continue to intuitively draw hasty conclusions, it will only harm your life, whether you are in Paris, the village of Hunavir in Alsace, Sofia or the village of Gorno Uino, Kyustendil region. which digs a section of French philosophy in the university library or in the philosophy club. Think carefully about what I am writing to you, because it is for your good. If you do not change and continue to intuitively draw hasty conclusions, it will only harm your life, whether you are in Paris, the village of Hunavir in Alsace, Sofia or the village of Gorno Uino, Kyustendil region.

   Number 11 read the story again. The author did not say anywhere that he hated Romanians because of the incident with this woman, with whom he lived for several months. He burned his fingers and this will be a lesson to him. He does not say that he is returning to Bulgaria because of what he experienced with this Romanian woman, but simply because his plans were like that. To work for two, three years, raise some money and come back here. A few years ago I did the same. I went, worked, saved some money and came back. Thousands of Bulgarians do it. The man has experienced something very unpleasant and to relieve him, he shared it here, because there is probably no one there.

   To 12: I personally completely agree with the opinions of 10 and 11. What the author says at the end of the story is 'Don't see the foreign country, the foreigners and their miracle'. I understand why he is bitter, and I understand that when a person is angry, just to vent his anger, he sometimes intends to fry everything in his path. But objectively, I do not share the formulation of a negative opinion about abroad on the basis of specific experience. I have many friends in Bulgaria who have not happened to women, I have also had love disappointments, who has not, but neither I nor my friends have a negative attitude towards our country or women. I suppose that the author was offended by the fact that the Romanian woman in question, while trying to obscure her child's behavior at school, said something like 'this Bulgarian'. It should be borne in mind that this is quite natural, however, for example I am not proud of the following, but I am from Sofia and when we have commented with friends someone else who is from the countryside and for some reason we had a negative opinion about him, almost always someone will say ' this peasant, no matter if the person is from a big city, if he is educated, etc. We just like to explain the world to ourselves with stereotypes and to reinforce them, because that's easier. The same example can be given with 'this Negro, Arab, Jew, Greek, etc.', I do not know who can say with all his heart that he did not make such generalizations. I wish the author to earn the money he has set aside, to return to Bulgaria and find his happiness, because everyone deserves to be happy. For the record, I've lived in Paris for years and I can't complain about the French. On the contrary, in general I find them kind and polite. Of course, there are some cultural differences that are annoying, but in the end there are pros and cons everywhere and everyone decides for themselves, but they are also responsible for the elections.

   The author wrote his story in order to share it and make it easier for him, but as always, several people here immediately rushed over him and tried to crucify him. These are the same people who, if only someone wrote something against abroad, would start foaming and emptying like donkeys on dry land and spitting on him and making him a simple unfortunate person because he wants to return to Bulgaria. Let the people decide where and how they will live, because neither you will get a job, nor will anyone listen to your memorized phrases and guide you in your mind. I returned to Bulgaria and would never go to another country again, either to work or on a trip.

   Welcome again Author !!! We are with you and we are glad that another smart and hard-working Bulgarian has returned to our beautiful country.

   I have lived abroad for 12 years and have the following experience and observations. When a Bulgarian lands in a foreign land, the first thing he looks for is not how to integrate with the locals, but a Bulgarian shop where they sell kebabs and tripe and how to integrate there into Bulgarian society, if there is no such, he hangs out with Turks, Serbs or mamaligi. That is the same as our mentality. Intrigue, scams, hypocrisy and exploitation. He integrates into such a society and his day is at work at home, Saturday and Sunday at a table with our people on kebabs, alcohol and drunkenness until the morning. This is his social life. He knows English and thinks that as each of the locals speaks it perfectly as a second language, they are obliged to communicate with him in English and not him in their native language. And so he hovered for years in one of our societies there, he boxed in one place and when they got into a fight he was left alone at one point, he realized that he hadn't moved an inch forward, he sat isolated for a month or two and beat himself with a whip for Bulgaria. And he does not return because they miss the dirty streets with big holes, the street dogs, the misery overflowing from the containers, the Sofia ghettos, etc. The common reason is that either loneliness kills him or they are left there without work and realization. For which they cannot spit abroad and only they are to blame. If you have your own home in Bulgaria and living parents. Mom brings Daddy Messi, and some work for 500-600 quintals ... He doesn't think much about it before he packs his suitcases. And in the evening on the terrace in the shade of Shopska salad with brandy, for some it is much more than an American dream come true. Not bad, but not to spit abroad.

   Then we were the thieves and the fraudsters ... Quite a telling story, author.