Why do you have to go home to your parents after you graduate? Get a job and a place to live there with your boyfriend. You're 24, not 14, and your happiness doesn't depend on whether your parents accept your relationship. If they don't accept, you close the door for them, and that's it.
I know two pairs of Bulgarians with turk. They don't have problems. If that's all that bothers them, tell them you love him. They'il take it, don't worry.
Hi, you're in a very complicated situation, but I think the best thing for everyone would be to tell your mother and then your father. She's your mother, she'il understand, mothers always forgive. At least I'm closer to my mother, and I'd tell her anything, my dad's more conservative. I hope you're okay and happy. :)
I don't know if that's how it's supposed to be, but even so, why should you go home to your parents? Finish, get a job and find a place with your friend. You must have been raised very patriarchally, so you're so worried about what your parents are going to say, but the truth is, it's important to do what makes you happy, not what they expect of you. Instead of being offended, they should consider showing you the support and understanding you need to share with them. If I were you, I'd go out to a place, tell them about the boyfriend and put them in front of a finished fact. Over 18, you're independent and independent, and you can do whatever you want. Don't slave to their hardened views. The most important thing for a relationship is whether people love each other and live together, not whether they are Bulgarians, Turks, Gypsies, etc. I'd tell them that's the situation, and they either accept it or they're out of my life - yes, it's OK to sever a relationship with them if they keep you from being happy. I can't even imagine waiting for approval from my mother and father for my relationship, only I know what's wrong with me when we close the door with my husband, but that's how I'm brought up by them. You can also break down and make your own opinion first, in the first place, in front of that of everyone else. Write what happened, that I'd be so sorry if you had a three-year relationship because of your mother and father...
Find True Stories or Fates at a Crossroads had the same story. I couldn't find her to watch. Very instructive especially for parents.. The Bulgarian is racist and in general Bulgaria is a conservative state and differences are difficult to accept. Look at how gay people are accepted, so gay marriage.
You can feel people's eyes and the negative attitude, because I'm in that kind of relationship. I'm happy to have a way of just being the two of us somewhere so I don't tolerate someone's prejudice and negativity. He's very kind, gentle, responsible, our relationship has been full for so many years. His parents were making trouble for the kids for names, but he cut them off for not being their business. We rarely have contact with them, now after all these years they have softened, but we are reserved. They can't take things lightly, but if you come home it'il be worse, you better live together and just inform them. In fact, everyone has to live as they want and parents have to accept their children's choice.
Sooner or later, they're going to take it. There's no other way. Over time, my parents learned to accept my boyfriends. That's what's going to happen to you. I just don't know what's keeping you from living with your friend. Even if you're back in your hometown. You have to live together.
24 years is too much for your parents to influence - you're an adult of six!
Get out to a place, get a job and you don't care! If you're financially independent of them, you're going to do whatever you want, and they're going to squat sooner or later (especially when the grandchildren show up... ...
I do not know and my mind does not fit it what is this nonsense - to divide bulgarians, Turks, Christians, Muslims, etc... We're all people, aren't we? We eat, we go to the toilet, we learn, we work, we make love, we look at children, we make scientific discoveries, sports achievements, businesses, policies... We're on you and the divisions and the bullshit! Love the man by your side, I supported him and be faithful to him - now he is your family. You're no longer a child to belong to your parents' family. And it's outdated when I listen to you.
From the author: although a little late, thank you to everyone who responded. The reason I'm coming home is because I'm not working right now because of the exams coming up. So is he. We want them to pass first so we can get back on our feet. That's why I have to go home.
If you're still following your theme, here's my comment. I am a woman of 25 Bulgarian, at university I had quite a few friends and familiar Turks. I've had a relationship with a Turk, as well as my best friend. Even the Turk men tremble for fear of their parents not to find out that they are walking with Bulgarians... This kind in the 21st century is far from normal after our country is called Bulgaria and the Bulgarians are not inthe real world that you are afraid of us. You're conservative in your thinking, leave what kind of phone your dad has and what kind of car he drives, for example, outwardly yes, you're modern, but in your thinking you're not. Believe me, I know not a few Turks, and from Turkey itself, students here, from wealthy families, but they tremble a lot about what mom and dad will say. One of them, again from a wealthy family that supposedly must be civilized and modern, forcibly married him as his cousin... He's a man, but he couldn't say anything to contradict theirs. You're wild, you'il forgive me. Yes, I know you're all not one person to be put under a common denominator, but it's basically the case. I'm sure you're a wake-up and forward girl who obviously doesn't share people if you're with a Bulgarian, but I'm a little sorry for how your loved ones are going to attack you and what you're going to have to hear and live. Remember, parents love their children to the grave, even if they "deny" you, even if they are offended, they will not stop loving you, and one day it will pass them if they are normal and if your happiness is most important to them. Good luck and don't give up on the man!
Matzko, I've always read my story.
I'm 23, girl, Turk. I've been with a Bulgarian boy for about 3 and a half years. We have an amazing relationship. Everything was top when I was a student, because I'm away from my hometown, we travel with him everywhere, we do what we want.... but life is hard. I'm already in my hometown, for the same reason as yours, I've graduated and i'm looking for a job.. With our family, Mom's the leader. Whatever she says, that's what happens. Tati is literally a voiceless letter. She's been harassing me for two years to stop seeing him, how she'd kill herself, how I'd regret it if I went with him, no one understands me.. I do not divide people by religions, ethnicities and the like. I love him so much. and now for 1 week I live in horror, narrowing and panic. I don't know when what might happen. Mother doesn't talk to me, she starves, speaks to me the worst and ugliest words possible. I'm in a lot of pain. I know if I leave, I won't be able to come back here anymore. I'm facing a terrible dilemma. He's not at all to blame. He's a great guy, but he's tired of dealing with all this mess, lying about being with friends, and actually being with him, having coffee at just some places when we have to shop in the kaufland-me to wait for him in the car, and for him to do this job for and not see me someone i know and tell me to be my mother.. Oh, my God. it's. And now I don't know what I have to do-- I know that without him I wouldn't be the same me, I wouldn't be happy, we tried it a few times, but fate brought us back together again and again. I also know that without my family, I'm going to be very sick and I'm going to miss them. I just can't stand the pressure. I hope your parents have mercy on you. Good luck, girl, good luck!!!
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