Hi! I've been in a relationship for a year. Everything was going perfectly, but he started to get more obsessive. I have a group of friends (only girls) and we go out regularly, we know each other from a handful of ladies and we're super close. yes, we were dating until he started making trouble with me. Now I see them rarely, and every time we go out he keeps texting me where I am, he wants me to write to him when I'm going somewhere and when I get there, and every minute he wants me to be on the phone. I try to explain to him that I rarely see them and can't just sit on my phone, but he doesn't want to understand. The last time we left, one of them' boyfriends called to see if they could see each other in a hurry because he's going to the country. We went to see them. My boyfriend started "you were just girls," "you're lying to me again," and so on. He knows he's both walking. And every time I go out, he's going to find something to give me trouble and ruin my mood, and in the end, I just stay out and look stupid, because I know that later when we go out, he's going to have to fight me and make me feel guilty and that because of me and my friends, our relationship was going to break down. But the problem isn't just there. makes me trouble what I wear. I don't dress. He's making me even a problem with jeans, they're tight. I'd be lying at home in comfortable clothes all day. That's why if I go out, I'm most comfortable putting on leggings in a hurry, because it's looser, and my jeans tighten and cause me even more pain. He doesn't understand it and calls me a whore because I wanted others to look at me. He tells me it's all because he's concerned, but I think it's pure jealousy and mistrust. He's the one who cheated on past relationships, not me. Sometimes it me off and I just want to stay, but I can't. I'm too attached, and I always think it's going to go away, but not. Tell me, am I exaggerating?
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hey_fuck_me answered · May 31, 2020
You're not exaggerating, you're looking for excuses. If you don't get married or have kids or just move in together, I don't see you. The beatings, insults and humiliations that await you will be daily. Run with 200, you're young, you don't need to be someone's slave. What he's applying to you right now is psychological harassment. The moment you get him in the towel, the physical one starts. What he's doing isn't normal. He said he cheated in previous relationships. It's only a matter of time before he starts cheating on you if he doesn't already.
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gencbircocuk answered · May 31, 2020
Your friend suffers from sick jealousy. I used to be with one of these, but I only endured it for three months. It's just that whatever you do, wherever you go, whatever you go with, you'il always be guilty of everything! His obsession makes the relationship toxic, and it could set you up for life.
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bsjuliana answered · May 31, 2020
So, your friend calls you "k*rv"? He doesn't want you to see girlfriends, she wants you to be on the phone, you want to walk with bags...
Is this the bond you think you deserve?
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amelia_star20 answered · May 31, 2020
Girl, I don't know how old you are and what position you are in, but run away from that sick brain while you're still young and you have no commitments (the type of child, credit, shared housing or anything else that's tied to you like those prisoners' foot balls)! REALIZE - it's neither love nor support. Jealousy is not sweet! Jealousy doesn't care! His is pure selfishness, you see, to be his only, to be fully available and subordinate. He kept you on the phone all the time - that you even had a breath, a time when you could really feel good after your girlfriends?
You're attached, so what? It's two or three or five days, a month when it hurts after the breakup and then you're a full-fledged person again. You wear your leggings when you like it. You wear whatever jeans you want. You don't have to explain yourself, or make excuses without even being guilty (with an apology to your friend) of some moronic manipulator who's always going to make you guilty. In a truly normal relationship, there's nothing to prove - either trust and respect, or there's no connection. Well, no, he won't understand the argument that he was your girlfriend's girlfriend. He doesn't warm him in any way. He just needs to push you into the corner where you'il be and where you're going to be if you keep being with him. Women, value yourself. Cherish your fucking privacy and freedom. Your parents don't tell you what to do or how to dress, and some squirt is going to do it? Please, please? I've played this game with jealousy and "gaining his trust" by playing his whistle and from personal experience I tell you that it's too much nerves and oppression. It's very hard to take your freedom away from this man. You deserve better, you deserve love and support, not to meet someone's sick expectations. I'm sorry if I was a little rude. Whatever you decide to do, good luck! :)