Hi, I'm starting with the essence, my mother is 54 years old and the behavior has always been unacceptable. She's acting like a teenager, she thinks she looks cool when she's like a muffin (she told me so). It's not critical, it's always been. It was my graduation recently, she was behaving extremely ridiculously, discussing people, talking vulgarities. She works in a bar and says that her behavior is normal for her environment. I have always accepted her because she is my mother. But it's been too much for a while, my fiancé is discussing what it looks like, and it strains our relationship. She says she likes him and supposedly accepts him as part of the family, and at the same time she tells him he's fat and constantly makes fun of him. As much as I talked to her, I explained, I shouted, no result, she treats everyone like that, including me. I tried everything, there is no result, and I don't even want to think about ending my relationship with her. It got to the point that my fiancé no longer wanted to see her and I was in the middle. It's too much and I don't know what to do with it anymore, and in those years it is clear that it will not change. When she doesn't like something, she shouts, shouts, forces herself, insults, she doesn't care where she is, whether she is outside. How many times has she shouted at me on the street and people turn and it's not just me, it's all close to me. Everyone has given up on her. My father and I are separated and he himself has been telling me for years that I tried to change her, but I didn't succeed, she is like that, nothing can change her. There is a young lover, a little older than me, married. Since she was with him, it got even worse when she didn't look for her for more than a week or two and started calling astrologers to tell her when to look for her. I never thought it would get there, but I did not object to her, this is her life. It just creates problems in my life, I'm single and we live separately with my fiancé, but just one call from her and we get upset or it upsets me or starts insulting him. I ask the moderators to approve my story, because I feel hopeless ...
1 sweetskinnyx answered
Re-educating her at this age is absurd, you understood it yourself. It's insulting when it turns out that your mother is a selfish and self-satisfied creature. Because from the description I chose it. How to act. your person and the relationship away from your mother's tentacles. You yourself gradually reduce the conversations with her. Let them not be about your important things and are not circumstances. Just isolate her - but gradually. .What can I say about the young lover ... It was only when I mentioned it that it became clear to me. I am a woman and I work with women. I have seen a lot of waist. each younger. Their methods are very different. A young lover and a relaxed demeanor are the usual ones. We are all getting older.But a truly conscious woman doesn't need to compete with the younger ones in this pathetic way. But you can't teach her that. Don't break up with her but keep her at a distance.