My Mother Preferred Her Lover To Her Children ...

   I am increasingly convinced that a mother no longer means love, devotion and unconditional support. My mother betrayed me too. Make my husband locked up while I'm pregnant. And all this behind the mask of "For your own good." Is it good to put a pregnant woman under such stress, to cry and to be at a dead end? !! And after finishing this "good deed" she once did not ask me how I was, how my pregnancy was going. I don't know what she said and did, but none of my relatives were interested in me either. So rejoice that you are far from such a mother, take your life in your hands and do not do like me - do not allow a person who, even though he gave birth to you, does not love you, to ruin you. Because such a person does not deserve to be called a mother.

   Author, forget to write how old you are with your brother - if you are over 18, you know - you are not "children". Accept that you have to take care of yourself after coming of age, to work, to pay your bills. Your mother doesn't owe you. She raised, fed and studied you. Enough. Just because he doesn't want to look after his grown sons doesn't mean he doesn't love you. She just obviously decided to wean you off and now you're angry, because it's easier at the Mama Hotel. You hurt yourself that way. In fact, the woman wanted to do you a favor. As for the partner? - she is a widow, a free woman, has the right to live with whomever she wants. Your home is hers, when she dies you will inherit it, but you have no claims before that. If he wants, he can live in it with an alien. Your mother did very well to evict you. Enough Bulgarian mother's sons, it's time to learn to take care of yourself, otherwise how will you look after children, take care of home and family? You live until 20 with mom and dad and think of "children". Tighten up! P.P. What was the last thing you and your brother did for your mother? What? you bought, in what? did you help, when did you pay the bills, when did you buy appliances, furniture? Does your mother have an account to live with you? Obviously not!!! Well done to the woman.

   Very good mother Evalla, not all of us have the strength to wean children who have reached the age of majority. It has done them good for the woman to learn to cope on her own in life. №1 Did your mother commit the crime for which your friend was imprisoned? How can you defend a criminal and attack your mother who has fulfilled her public duty. Isn't it better now to shake him off and find a man worthy of you who doesn't commit crimes. Don't ask the woman about the pregnancy because you didn't ask her if you could get pregnant by this malnourished mother.

   Number 1, just don't say your mother is holding the court and the police to imprison your husband unfairly. you may not believe it, but there really is a chance she did you a favor. I stop here because we do not know the whole truth about the matter, and the topic is not for you. Author, it is important how old you are with your brother! if you are not a minor, especially if you are not studying, you have to take your life in hand. your mother doesn't have to fuck you all her life. after the death of your father she is a single woman and may have a relationship with whomever she wants. you may not like her boyfriend, but it's her choice. by the way, don't you and your brother have a share in the house, if it belonged to your father or both?

   Two problems of such parents who want to evict their children is that then when a person starts a family they start ringing phones, coming uninvited guests and getting confused. I'm sorry, but if they've turned me down, we don't know each other anymore, if they don't want me, why should I put up with them? !!

   2 and 3, are you also angry with your mother's children? These children are the legal heirs of their dead father and have the right to live there, if not - to receive the amount corresponding to the share they deserve. Their mother may behave like a stray bitch, but their father did not leave them on the street. Author, if this home was acquired during the marriage of your mother and your deceased father, you are the legal heirs. Unless your father mentions something different in the will, each of you is entitled to one-sixth of that house, that is, you are both entitled to a total of two-sixths. Your mother is four-six, a little over half. Talk to her if she doesn't want to live with you to pay you your share. If he does not agree, hire a lawyer and start a case. The case will cost you money, of course, but at least you will get something. Do not forget, that your father didn't leave you on the street, so don't waste time. You may be entitled to other shares in other properties, check with the municipality what was acquired during your parents' marriage and claim your rights. And I just don't have words for your mother, the pot rolled over and found a lid. If she did, years later, however, when she needs your care, will she have eyes to look for you? I wish you good luck!

   Everything you wrote in the previous comments is like this - the "kid" should be thrown away to be fine only in life. But this applies to other countries, not in our country. Only in our country the following applies: 1. one monthly rent per accommodation = one salary. 2. a home costs 200 salaries, which you can't collect while paying rent. I speak from the position of mother and daughter. I pay rent and that is why we will never collect housing money, we will not collect even for the initial installment for the payment of housing. Otherwise we survive wonderfully and are not a burden to anyone, yes. But in the presence of a family home, it is a sin to throw that money away. I would not do such a thing to my children if I had a home and they did not. Other mothers let, can.

   To number 2: I'm ashamed that there are people like you. To the author: as already mentioned, the home is hereditary NOT only for the mother, but also for the children. They are also his heirs. Obviously, this woman is unscrupulous. If you have decided to break off the relationship with her forever, just file a lawsuit against her for division of the property, it will be put up for public sale and each of you will receive his due share and decide what to do with it. It is also possible to charge your mother her share (or she to you, which I very much doubt). And to those who defend this woman, whom I cannot call a mother, I will say that the fact that she has the right to privacy does not give her the right to drive her children out into the streets. With her so cocky, why didn't her lover provide her with a home, huh? And he moves into someone else's without having contributed to it? And another thing - children if they are adults, isn't the mother Just do something, she has shown that she does not care about you. From now on, you are on the move. so you can live your whole life in an apartment, and you deserve a part of this home - YOU ARE HIS HEIRS! COURAGE!

   Number 7, I wouldn't cause myself to live with my mother at 20. Don't get me wrong, I get along great with her and we have a great relationship. I just want the freedom to do whatever I want at home, to walk around naked, I want to invite someone not to think, but now my mother is at home, etc. Better a lifetime for rent than half a life for Mom and Dad ... Besides, 20 people rarely live completely alone, nor do they need a 4-room apartment. At that age, a person is either in a dormitory (if he studies), or lives with friends and shares the rent with them, or has a boyfriend and still shares the rent with her ... Number 6, the fact that they were evicted from home does not mean that they were deprived of an inheritance! What is this urge to go to court immediately, only your lawyers will benefit from this. At a young age, they do not need a share of their father's house.

   6 is right! Your mother should never forget that she will grow old and touch you. Then your turn will come, baby :) It's worth living for these moments :) Grandma Penny

   From 2 - 100% I support Kubrat! to 6 - I can only talk about myself - I'm not a parent, but I'm a "child" who is doing very well as a girl. After graduating from high school, I managed on my own, I supported myself at university and I can't understand young and healthy men who are waiting for their parents. I don't think a woman behaves like a "hot bitch" just because she has a life partner instead of serving her 20-30 year old sons. You are not right about the inheritance parts either - since she has been married for 25 years, most likely the home is the property acquired during the marriage anyway? belongs to 50%. The remaining 50% (who was the man?) Is divided by 3. Each "child" owns about 17% of half of this home! Count! There is no 10% in general, but claims to heaven. But no matter how we turn it - this is her home, she lives there, she raised her children, who are young and able to work, to recover. She has fulfilled her debt and instead of wanting to be? to help, they are angry that he wants to live peacefully in the old days. to 8 - I think I have nothing to be ashamed of, on the contrary. My husband and I did not wait for our parents, although they had their own homes. We moved out at the age of 18-19 and we managed on our own. We are currently building a house that can accommodate our parents' homes twice. We achieve everything in life on our own. It's ugly to just wait for your parents to die to take their home, because you're too lazy and incompetent to achieve anything in life on your own. This is my opinion. I'm not angry with anyone, I just know that I can and I don't understand people like the author. Everyone is free to have a different opinion, to harass their parents,

   From number 6 to number 11: "You are not right about the inheritance parts - if she was married for 25 years, most likely the home is the property during the marriage and anyway? Belongs to 50%. The remaining 50% (which were of the man?) are divided by 3. Each "child" owns about 17% of half of this house! Count! There is no 10% in general, but claims to heaven. " Each of the daughters is entitled to one-sixth because: - before the death of the husband, the mother is entitled to half of the home, ie. one second, which is equivalent to three sixths (if you shorten three sixths, you get one second, you studied mathematics, right) - before his death, the father was also entitled to half of the house, ie. one second, which is equivalent to three sixths - after the death of his father, one second, ie. three sixths shall be divided equally between the heirs, who are the wife and the two children, each receiving one-third of his one-half, i.e. three six. "So every child inherits one-sixth, and the mother adds the inherited one-sixth to her three-sixs and gets four-six. If you still say I'm wrong, I'll write it to you as an equation, but even if you say it's not true." , so math is very lame to you. Which you should be ashamed of.

   6 to 9 - Kubrat, why not win the lawyers? When you get sick, doctors win, the health insurance fund wins, the pharmacy even wins, but you don't hesitate to get treatment or wait to get home, do you? When you have a toothache, do you think that the dentist wins or do you wait until you get home and then repair the tooth? Let the lawyers win, that's what they learned. And how do you know if at a young age the author and her sister need a share of their father's house? Well, if they can't find a job for one reason or another (they don't have an education, they aren't fit to work, etc.) and they can't pay for accommodation, do they have to live like homeless people until they get home? (I'm talking in principle, not about the case of the author) Come on with these conclusions - at a young age they don't need anything ... By that logic, their mother doesn't need a lover in her old age,

   Number 12, and you wrote a whole novel about something that every fifth-grader writes in one line. It is clear to us this with the six and why the mother has 2/3 and the daughters share the other 1/3. This is more or less the only thing I agree with from your comment. Number 11 and she may think, do not worry, but a little confused, the daughters have 17% of the whole house, not half of it, but that's for details. In fact, when we're going to pick on math - why do you say 4/6 and 2/6 and not 2/3 and 1/3? Regarding your comment at 13 - yes, when I'm sick I go to the doctor and buy pills. But exactly that only when I'm sick! What you are advising to file a partition case without any sense or need at the moment is generally like going to the doctor every day without having anything, and buying medicine just like that, just in case. . And if their term expires and you throw them away - then who wins? The pharmacy wins, the pharmaceutical company wins, and you gave the money for nothing ... You are the perfect customer for any company, honestly! There is nothing in the story about whether the author has health problems or something else that prevents them from finding a job. It only says that they whine that they were kicked out of the house. I say again, this 1/6 they have from the house she will not run away! They have a lifetime to take it. And when their mother dies, they will share her 2/3, then everyone will have 1/3 of their mother and 1/6 of their father, which makes 1/2 (surprise!). Even if they file a lawsuit now and win it, the mother still holds a larger share and if she wants she can still evict them from the house. And then what? And if they take the money and spend it, then they will be left with nothing at all ... The solution is completely different, and it is in the way of thinking ...

   From 6 and 12 to 14: Kubrate, I explain to your colleague in the nonsense above why I'm right, because she took the trouble to write me that I'm not. I, on the other hand, respected her work and rewarded her with an answer. I am not saying that this is not approximately 17%, but I am convinced that "there is not even ten percent in total" (as your same colleague claims) it is definitely not equivalent to 17% (because undoubtedly 17% is more than "no 10 % ", even twice as much is possible). I know, I know you're going to say that everyone knows that (obviously not everyone, I'm referring to your nonsense colleague), but I have to point it out. Something like debt calls me (haha). And I write one sixth, two sixths, and so on. instead of 4/6 and 2/6 and not 2/3 and 1/3 because: 1 / I like it that way, 2 / to have something to start with the answer to my comment, and not to be surprised for a few days, 3 / so that my novel becomes visibly longer without unnecessarily burdening its content with boring details. Regarding your next nonsense, we came up with the word - "when needed". I wanted to draw this conclusion together. Why did you decide that the author is not needed at the moment? She did not mention it explicitly anywhere, nor did she deny it. Therefore, there may or may not be. I advise her in case there is, and you definitely say no. In this case, after you are so sure that there is none: 1 / you are the author, 2 / you have divination abilities, 3 / you are just talking nonsense, ie. you talk nonsense. I move on - if they file a lawsuit and win it, and they will win it, unless: 1 / the home was not acquired before the marriage and is only in the mother's name, 2 / the father did not explicitly mention in the will that he remains his part of the mother or someone else, then how they will spend the money is the only solution. After that, whether they whine or not, they will not have rights, but at the moment they have such rights anyway (unless one of the two points I mention in the last paragraph is available).

   To numbers 2 and 11 from number 8: I don't know what kind of parents you were raised by, nor what kind of parents you are or will be, but you are obviously from the sourdough of the author's mother. And as if you are proud of this fact. You made many arguments, except that we heard nothing about the lover who, instead of providing a home, or at least a place to live, for his new "wife", preferred her children to take to the streets so that he could spread to the new home. , acquired 1/2 (at least so it is assumed) by a person to whom these children are heirs. I wonder what share of the property is due to him? I'm waiting for my opinion, because I was terribly interested in how far the scarcity of specimens like you can go. To the victims: rethink whether you ever have a chance to improve your relationship with your mother and whether you want it at all. If you decide,

   15, I am also verbose, but you beat me many times, honestly! This with "not even ten percent in total" comes from the fact that number 11 thought that the 17% are from half the house, not the whole, which means that the whole will be 8, 5%, which is less than 10%. (To be precise, they are 8.33%, because they are not actually 17, but 16.66%.) So, once we have clarified the details, let's get to the bottom of it: Of course, they can spend their money on whatever they want. , I don't mind telling them what to do with their inheritance. But I AM AFRAID that in their way of thinking, very soon some of the money they would take will be spent and they will still be in this situation, only as he said without an inheritance. Number 16, it's very simple: The mother's lover is not the work of the children! I'm not saying that a woman is the perfect mother, nor that I want to be a parent like her. Even less do I protect my lover? But the position of the author (we never understood whether it is male or female) consists in "My mother is such and such, she is not ashamed, but the lover? You are who you are, and my brother and I are the poor unjustified quo to take care of myself? ”This is what irritates me. You are young, you are right, you will tighten your ass and you will take your life in your hands. The act of the mother OK is not very elegant, but formally she has the right to do with her life what she wants and to fuck with whomever she wants, and she is not obliged to give explanations to her adult children. And in this respect, the division of the property will not get anywhere, because again the mother will hold the majority share and will live there, the children will take the money the most. I didn't understand the loan he said at all, how is the mother's new husband obliged to take out a loan and pay anything? !? Kubrat

   Let me tell you a real case. It is very interesting and there is something to think about. I am again number 7, who lives for rent with her husband and children. In reality, things are like this: Neither I nor my husband are landless. My mother and father transferred their only home in the countryside to me many years ago and they currently live there. I would NEVER evict them, although I have a right to do so. To be alive and healthy, to live 100 years. My husband's parents live in his apartment, acquired by him in the same way - actually donated by his grandmother. They themselves had their own apartment, which they rented out and later sold. In the meantime, they threw us out / literally locked the house under our noses / while our children were small. To what extent they had a reason is debatable, it is true that we had quarrels, because they constantly insulted us in front of the children. But the fact is, that we NEVER thought of evicting them from my husband's apartment, because we are not beasts like them, it is impossible for a second to overshadow me. Even then, they still had their other home and there would be a place to go, and yet we did not put sin on our hearts. That is why it has always been incomprehensible to me and will continue to be to me - what a cold-blooded offspring you must be to expel ANYONE FROM ANYWHERE, rightly or wrongly. What do you think?

   Eh, Kubrate, Kubrate ... You still know without knowing. You're sure number 11 thought that, but I doubt he can think that. I'm not saying that you can't, for me, to say something 100% without it being proven (as you do) borders on stupidity. Therefore, I will stick to the assumptions, and I will leave the final conclusions, unsubstantiated with facts, to you (because you can!). Which I judge from your fears, which are based on the "way of thinking" of the expelled girls - the author and her sister. What is the way of thinking of these two girls, Kubrate, after the first (the author) just shares something that torments without falling into philosophical reasoning, and the second (her sister) we do not even see manifesting. I wonder what is the way of thinking of these two personalities? Come on, tell us, but back it up with facts, because if you don't, so you are talking nonsense again (I repeat nonsense, not verbosity - the difference is that if verbosity makes sense, then nonsense is a meaningless tirade, empty talk). It was a pleasure to explain to you once again that your conclusions are not based on real facts and I would do it again and again (because I am a good soul), but if I have to do it again, I will assume that your mental baggage to be less than your claims for one, which are evident from the conviction with which you speak.

   To Kubrat from 16: You don't say anything about the fact that the children also have a share of this house and they don't actually use it now - this share. With a good lawyer, they would win a case where the mother would pay them rent and also pay them their due. The mother, as it is known, does not live alone, so the beloved could get involved in financial history. But I don't understand people like you, Kubrat, Krum or whatever. The children were adults, etc ... She had a home ... You in whose home you live, I'm sure it's not in yours (paid for which you wouldn't have enough for your whole life. You definitely don't make much money , otherwise you would not have time to hang in every comment on any topic).

   №20 I am №3 I fully support Kubrat in his comments, I live in my own apartment which I pay for a little more. I have not received my inheritance. You can achieve something and without harassing the elderly parent, the home of the authors will remain, their mother will not take it to the grave. Kubrat lives abroad.

   Номер 20, ама ти наистина ли? Как така хем майката ще им изплати тяхната част, хем ще им плаща наем? Айде ти ми купи апартамент, живей в него и ми плащай наем. Дори да им плаща наем, ще е по 1/8 от нормалния наем, който се полага, което прави... 50-60 лв на месец? Кво ще направят с тия пари, най-напред ще им трябва 1-2 години да си избият разходите по делото само... Пак не разбрах по какъв начин новия мъж на майката има нещо общо и защо трябва да дава пари за техните неразбории? Ти на мойте пари не прави сметка, и аз не правя на твойте. Ако толкова те вълнува - живея в апартамента на хазяите ми, за което удоволствие им плащам доволна сума всеки месец. При мама съм живял точно до края на 11 клас и нито месец повече, после само на гости за по 1 седмица. Имам дял от различни къщи и имоти тук и таме, ама не съм тръгнал да си ги търся. Кво да изхвърля леля ми на улицата ли? Кубрат

   Number 21, Kubrate, don't support yourself on behalf of someone else, you look funny.

   Kubrate, in whatever topic I look at, you have commented at least once, and in some much more. From several topics in which I read the comments, I learned that you are married, live outside Bulgaria, left home at the end of 11th grade, something about your aunt, your mother, your father, and your wife's relatives. Dude, are you leaving this site? Are you hanging non stop? When do you work, when do you have fun, when do you go out, when do you eat, when do you go to the toilet ... when do you satisfy your wife? !! I'm really starting to worry about you. You are either a child who lies to us about his life (it is impossible to work somewhere and have a wife, as your employer and wife are looking for you to hang out here non-stop), or a few people sign with the name Kubrat, or you really have a serious issue. I'm really worried about you.

   Number 23, I never evaluate the comments myself - principle. I also do not write on behalf of others, number 21 and number 3 are the same person and can be seen. Or do you want to tell me that I also wrote number 3, before I wrote the first "my" comment under number 9? Number 24, I'm not married, my "wife" (ie my girlfriend) is gone at the moment and I have a little more time. You understood the rest correctly. At work, too, at the moment I can afford to write. If you've been watching so closely, you've probably noticed that somewhere I mentioned that it would be like this by the end of this week, on the other hand I'll be entering much less often. 3 more days only. Kubrat

   You don't just write, you don't stop writing. You didn't tell me when you ate, s * r * sh, fuck * sh? You have a serious problem, man, think about it. I can read your comments, I may not read them, but I don't know when you do anything but read topics here and comment on them.

   From number 23 to 25 - so you will say you obviously support yourself to be more convincing. Who is your boss, give me an email to write him what you do all day and what he pays you for.

   26, when I can afford and I have a desire, I sit a lot, when I can't - I don't sit. At the moment I can, as I said a few more days it will be so, then no. 27, there is no "so to speak", but it is a fact that 3 and 21 were written by the same person, and if you do not want to open your eyes to see it, it is your problem. If you want, write to my boss, as long as the moderators allow: *** Kubrat

   My mother left me at the age of 5 to live her life and she never looked for me, I was always looking for intimacy with her. Otherwise, when I go to her new family for guests, the table is full of all six, but I still invite myself once, she didn't call me to ask if I'm alive or well. Complete indifference! In the end I couldn't stand it and I told her my opinion about her and she still doesn't call me and we haven't heard from each other for 3 years. Tell me, how is it possible to have such a being in this world? !!