I am a 32-year-old woman, I work abroad and return to homeland for holidays, vacations, etc. During this time, which is about 2 months for the whole year, I stay with my mother. I have my own apartment here, but since I don't stay long, I decided to rent it out so that it doesn't stay empty. Every time I walk into my mother's house, I'm horrified ... I don't even know how or what to start with!
She is 65, two seniors, still working, has a pretty decent income and, apart from high blood pressure, for which she takes pills, she has no other health problems. However, he lives in an absolute pigsty. If he spills something, he just lets it sit like that - coffee, sugar, salt, ashtrays, wine, anything won't wipe it away. Do not flush the toilet, and to use a brush and detergent - absurd! All dishes are poorly washed, layered dust on the furniture, crumbs and food debris all over the floor in the kitchen, living room, everywhere! Rotten food on the kitchen counter and refrigerator, flies. All kinds of rubbish and greasy papers are stored. There are spots and stains on her tablecloths, towels, clothes. The whole bathroom is in muddy footsteps and dirt, and the pillowcase is almost black. I changed it in the winter when I was last here and I think it's still the same. He smokes a lot, from which he coughs constantly and spits in a glass that he keeps for weeks by the bed. It smells bad, I don't know when she last took a bath. I can continue until tomorrow, but there is no need ...
People, I don't know how to deal with this. Half of my stay here is spent cleaning, scraping, wiping, and digging all sorts of crap out of all sorts of places. The rest of the time there are requests and quarrels to at least clean up after yourself in the toilet, at least that! No success. I tried good, I tried bad, and she is angry, arguing and threatening me how soon she will die and I would do what I want and clean as much as I want. It was a big deal, it was not visible, come on, nonsense. The craziest thing is that you make a living and come and watch me wash fruits and vegetables because I couldn't be like her? !! If I clean up, the next day it's already swollen. I have no desire to deal with this anymore. I would be happy to help her if she supported, but it doesn't happen. I only get scolded, I insulted her, threatened how I didn't appreciate anything and how she turned the whole house 25 years ago. How she bought antique furniture, what family coziness she created, nothing to do with the problem. On top of that, he invites people - neighbors, friends, everything exactly.
I'm coming for the last time, I'm going to a hotel, but is there anything I can do? I don't want him to expose himself and live like that. Are there any deviations related to the years? He behaves quite adequately - he speaks normally, keeps in touch, goes out, goes to a pedicure, and is considering buying diamond earrings! What kind of miracle is this?