My Mother Is My Horror

   Don't go to the event if you feel that way, it doesn't make sense.

   Calm down. Hello, hello, how are you and that's it. You don't write what she did, but forgiveness is not to exonerate her, but to be able to ignore what happened and YOU to be happy.

   Once you have a mental problem and have barely recovered, just don't go! If she was healthy and the event went smoothly, it would be different. Imagine you have a kidney crisis, you can even say that. In that case, the event will pass without you, right? The ceiling will not fall. Don't go, it's simple!

   You seem to have a labile psyche. The only advice is not to attend the event. Find an excuse.

   She is your mother, you must be very grateful to her for some things! Go and speak normally and calmly, try ...

   Don't go, is the event more important or your psyche? Then how much you will recover and what you will go through. It will pass without you, no one is asleep, keep yourself.

   In no case do not go - you will confuse your treatment and you will lose the little achieved so far! Apologize at the last moment that you are sick and do not go - you do not need to cause it, you are not ready for such a meeting, you will only increase the trauma.

   You have two options. Or you find some acceptable explanation and you just don't go, like the flu or something. Or you go to the pharmacy and buy mint, hawthorn and valerian, relax your nerves and at the event in question you try to stay as far away from your mother as possible and if you still have to approach her you say "hello" and instantly evaporate somewhere. , if possible at the other end of the room. It will help a lot if you are not alone, ie you have someone for moral support who will make you laugh and not leave you time to think that your mother is in the same room. I don't know exactly what happened between you, but just don't let it ruin your nerves and health, so if you don't believe you can do it without getting into a nervous breakdown, you better not go. And it will become a great anointing, if you demonstrate to everyone what your relationship is like. As you describe it, it is quite an official event, such as a wedding, and it will be quite confusing to quarrel or get upset in front of everyone. And you will influence the spending of the others. Therefore, if you are not sure that everything will go peacefully and quietly and then you will not need a bunch of sessions with a psychologist, but you better not go.

   And what your mother will do to you will not kill you! Whatever happened between you, she is your mother, she gave birth to you, she raised you. Whatever life is short of hatred for a parent!