I am 20 years old. I'm a student. I love my mother and I know she loves me too. But I never told her much. I am currently having problems with a boy I am in love with. Everything between us was wonderful. But various bystanders intervened and there are still issues to be clarified, problems to be solved. I told her that I was sad and sad. Because I really love him and I hope things will get better between us. And instead of supporting me, she started blaming me. He quarreled with me and hung up because we were talking on the phone. She has been against him from the beginning. She had even written to another boy who liked me and was trying to woo us. I have a feeling she doesn't want to reconcile with the boy I'm in love with. I have a feeling that I will be happy if things stay that way. I told myself I wouldn't share it with her anymore. But she starts by wanting to help me and worrying, and then attacks on me follow. I don't know what to do anymore.
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He doesn't judge her harshly, he's just a parent and he's worried. My mother is the same. She always tried to make me live her way. To study, as she taught, to date people like the ones she dated ... she tried to choose my friends and boyfriends, to control my life. There is nothing you can do, believe me. I talked, I shouted, I kept quiet and ... no success, in the end I just stopped paying attention to her and sharing too much. Don't tell her about this boy when you know she doesn't approve of him and live your life. Smile and talk, talk about things you can't argue about and don't judge her, she's just worried and wants the best for you, but she doesn't realize that you've grown up and you have to find your own way.