My Mother And I Have A Terrible Relationship

   Write first how old you are, because this is the most important thing! When you become independent, then you can impose your opinion. As long as your mother feeds and clothes you, you must comply with her. You will really understand her only when you become a mother!

   Write your age, I guess I'm a teenager at 12-17, otherwise I got worse with my mother 2 days ago - I'm not sorry about that at all - I'm almost 27 and since she got divorced I adopted another woman as my mother, I still don't have a girlfriend - but I have been living alone for 6 years

   To 1. As far as the author reads what she writes, the mother does not say what she does not like in the boy, does not speak openly, but only behaves badly and manipulates. So I don't see exactly what the author has to agree with her mother. If she is old enough to have boyfriends, then she is so old that her mother can share what she thinks, not try to manipulate and be silent in order to become hers !!! There are no children here, no children, children are people too! And talk to them! To the author, IF your mother doesn't really tell you what she thinks, but only shows how she doesn't like being with this boy, And by reading exactly what you write. IF the first condition is true, I say: Your mother is a manipulative bitch! Which means don't get attached to her numbers, don't feel bad when she's looking for a way to blame you, and then hold you accountable for controlling you. If you feel something like that, just ignore it. Don't do nonsense to regret, but be stubborn and show and build your character. I tell you this from personal experience, something I realized years later, when my mother did not have the strength to deal with people her age, she tried to recover what she had lost by manipulating me, so I lost faith and confidence in my own abilities, because my mother used to say the opposite of EVERYTHING I do so that she can build her character from a small child. Don't listen to her, believe in yourself, don't do extreme nonsense, show her that you can work with sincerity, but NOT with manipulations. If she manipulates you, show her that you don't care what she says until she opens up to speak sincerely. The suffering prince but be stubborn and show and build your character. I'm telling you this from personal experience, something I realized years later, when my mother didn't have the strength to deal with people her age, she was trying to make up for lost time by manipulating me, so I lost faith and confidence in my own abilities because my mother used to say the opposite of EVERYTHING I do so that she can build her character from a small child. Don't listen to her, believe in yourself, don't do extreme nonsense, show her that you can work with sincerity, but NOT with manipulations. If she manipulates you, show her that you don't care what she says until she opens up to speak sincerely. The suffering prince but be stubborn and show and build your character. I tell you this from personal experience, something I realized years later, when my mother did not have the strength to deal with people her age, she tried to recover what she had lost by manipulating me, so I lost faith and confidence in my own abilities, because my mother used to say the opposite of EVERYTHING I do so that she can build her character from a small child. Don't listen to her, believe in yourself, don't do extreme nonsense, show her that you can work with sincerity, but NOT with manipulations. If she manipulates you, show her that you don't care what she says until she opens up to speak sincerely. The suffering prince he was trying to recover what he had lost by manipulating me, so I lost faith and confidence in my own abilities, because my mother told me the opposite of EVERYTHING I did so that she could build her character from a small child. Don't listen to her, believe in yourself, don't do extreme nonsense, show her that you can work with sincerity, but NOT with manipulations. If she manipulates you, show her that you don't care what she says until she opens up to speak sincerely. The suffering prince he was trying to make up for lost time by manipulating me, so I lost faith and confidence in my own abilities, because my mother said the opposite of EVERYTHING I do so that she can build her character from a small child. Don't listen to her, believe in yourself, don't do extreme nonsense, show her that you can work with sincerity, but NOT with manipulations. If she manipulates you, show her that you don't care what she says until she opens up to speak sincerely. The suffering prince

   If you apologize, it will continue to get on your head. Who you go out with is not her job, and the sooner she finds out, the better for you. Especially if the boy is right. She's used to commanding you by imposing guilt on you, that's the problem. I say this from personal experience, I gave my mother an account of everything, I apologized when I went out with someone she didn't like (and she doesn't like any of my boyfriends, it's called jealousy) and now I have terrible headaches with her, but soon I think she'll understand that her numbers won't work. Talk to her, but if she doesn't understand a word, show a little firmness.

   Well, maybe the boy really doesn't like it, no matter how nasty it sounds. Because of his age, vision, behavior, or education. It may just not really work. Parents see things differently from their children. Maybe your chosen one really doesn't work. You didn't write how old he was, and you didn't say how old you were. Does he study, does he work, what is his nationality? This is difficult to judge.

   №3- "If she is old enough to have boyfriends, then she is so old that her mother can share what she thinks," We don't know if you are a prince or a princess, but today's self-forgotten girls also They have been thinking about boyfriends for 12 years now. Until yesterday, we laughed at the gypsies that we gave birth at 12, and today we became better than the gypsies. I repeat, while her mother feeds her, dresses her and is legally responsible for her behavior, this girl is obliged to comply with the opinion of her mays. If she thinks that this boy doesn't trust her, then she has made up her mind, why should she explain herself to her daughter? Thinking she is very big and wants boyfriends, to provide for herself. And obviously you are the same squirrel, when you call a mother a "bitch", you also give a reason !? That's why we are on this stage, squirrels to give reason!

   By number 5, I'm 18 and he's 26. He has a bachelor's degree and is currently working. It's just that when he was my age he was a disgusting person and my mother has known him ever since.

   Your mother has to apologize to you, not you to her!

   №4, do you want to feel a hard kick from your parents? You've got your noses around a lot, this is the fruit of gender western politics! 89 years ago there were no such muffins as you, the girls were watching their studies, not looking for adventures!

   Number 9 your comments are awful

   That's why your mother doesn't like him. The first is bigger than you. These are 8-9 years difference. You may think they are nothing, but they are not. You are at a different stage in your life. She may be afraid of getting pregnant and ruining her life. Men at this age are ready for family, children, and you can be deceived. To give birth at 19 and become a housewife. Separately, you have to think about learning, your future, not Batkovs. I'm 27, and for nothing in the world I wouldn't look at a boy at 18, he will be quite immature. It's just easy to fool someone at 18, but you don't really have much in common with that person. 18-year-old boys are already like children to me, we don't have common topics of conversation and views on life. They are children. Yes, it's different for men, it's cool to be with young boyfriends. It's just that your mother knows what this age difference really means, just as you will realize it when you become my age. Then she wouldn't pay attention to an 18-19-year-old boy. His second past. People change, that's right, but if it's up to character - hardly. If he was involved in crime, he wasn't the boyfriend he dreamed of. Parents, when they murmur against their children's boyfriends, have something to do with it. And at your age, I thought like you, and a little older. But over time, I realized that she was right about a lot of things.

   To 7 out of 5 Author, for nothing in the world do not worsen your relationship with your parents because of a man. That's what a woman almost a decade older than you tells you. No man deserves it. When you get to my age you will understand it.

   №10, on an evil pear, an evil rod, you don't deserve anything else, say what you want, but that's the reality! It is true that young people can read but do not understand what they read. So you are in life, sticking your noses and then whining about what fate brings you. Alive and well, I don't care about those who foolishly waste their lives!