My Life Is A Failure

Can't you go to your brother?

Does your sister work? There is an option to go abroad with her. She will look after your child and you will work. My friend has been in England for 2 years, for the same reason - loans. And he says there's a lot of work for everyone. And the pay is very good. But you have to have someone you know outside of Bulgaria to help you initially. Do you have one? Otherwise, I don't know here how you can do it.

It's awful, isn't it? I will now ask you a few clarifying questions. 1. Why didn't you graduate as a private student? 2. Why do you take out loans when you can't count or make money? 3. Why do you expect someone to help you (your brother, sister, neighbor, and philanthropist)? 4. Why, after your father is an alcoholic, did you marry one? Couldn't you avoid this family model so much? 5. Why do you expect someone to take care of your home, and it's not you? Don't answer my questions, answer yourself, and analyze the situation based on the answers. Assess your strengths and capabilities. You have a 1% chance to get out of the swamp if you make an effort.

You are not the only one who has come this far, the important thing is that they have nothing to take from you. Some people owe millions and do not worry because life is too short, it is just important from which point of view you look at it. I was helped by a very random person from the street to whom I can't thank him. Drop the loan payments and use the first money you see for the child's food and to complete your education, not a penny will reach your husband. Look for a good job, entrust the child to someone else if necessary. Think positively, this is the most important thing. For the future, think about how to create jokers to help you when you are in this situation again, because life is a wheel spinning at different speeds and directions depending only on you and your decisions and actions.

"I'm a 27-year-old girl" Here is the interesting thing ... At the age of 27 with a child and a husband, she is called a woman. You want to be perceived as a child, but you are no longer ... "Everyone was crushing and making fun of me and in 11th grade, I stopped going to school and was expelled!" Do you think that only you were mocked? We all went to school and we all know how it is, but we gritted our teeth because this is life ... "He was very good and decent but only until the baby was born! Then he became a freak!" I don't know how, as women, you explain this alchemy ... Still "he was perfect until ...". People don't change like that. Either he was a drunkard from the beginning (very likely), or you pushed him in that direction with your behavior after the birth (because the birth changes you mostly as a woman, not him). Many men can't stand a woman grinding on their head, and instead of taking control of the family, they go and get drunk ... Such a model was given to you through your father, it is not by chance that you came across such a man ... You have to take personal responsibility. First of all, how to get rid of these loans. In no normal country can there be such a thing as a "loan to the grave" ... that even after it ... The lender must take his own risk by giving money to those who cannot repay it. This is not a business just for profit as they want ... They seem to be chewing the law, read, if you have the opportunity, consult a lawyer. You should be able to declare bankruptcy or at least get a simplification of obligations. See what the penalties are. After all, if you have nothing (and it seems so), they can't take anything from you either ... Take a conversation with your "chosen one" and see if he can become a person. But not with the presumption of what a "freak" he is, but that you chose him, and that you are most likely to blame for his behavior ... These stories about "single mothers" only work in very rich countries, or at least if you have parents to support you. Otherwise you have to be "old school" and rely on a responsible man ... There is no way to replace a man with "quick loans" ...

Thanks for the advice, I want to say that I enrolled in absentia and have already finished 11th grade, despite the situation I am in!

Hi, I'm a 27-year-old girl - you're too desperate to call yourself a girl. And as I read further ... you are already an aunt.

Abe to say that your husband has become a "freak"? What does this say about you? !!

On behalf of those who rude you above, I apologize. I'd be happy to send you a little cash, but I don't know how to do that.

Thanks! No need to apologize, everyone has the right to an opinion!

It is very easy to judge if it has not happened to you. Everyone's life is unique, and not everyone has some tips.

Like you, I'm 28 and I still call myself a girl. My life is so difficult that I find it difficult to take responsibility. For one reason or another, some women remain children and expect others to take care of us. It is difficult, but there is no other way but to understand that everything depends on us.

You have a 5-year-old child, how do you think your life is a failure? Tighten her up, you are not alone, you have to think about her, you don't want her to be like you, with your childhood and perspectives !? You have time to write here, but not to do something? Start another job, part-time, collect money for two rents and two months of utility bills (about 1000 BGN in total) you take the child, you go to a bigger city, not Sofia, because the rents are expensive, but Varna, Tarnovo, Plovdiv even, there are rents for BGN 300, for one-bedroom and furnished apartments), you start the first job to cover rent, bills, food and installments on those loans, after you do six months of this work, you take a loan from a bank, repay with it if you still have some loans (and you don't deal with these quick loans anymore), you invest the other money in yourself - you enroll in a course on something that will be useful to you, such as a craft, and a language course, and you graduate your average, in those years, I don't know how it works, you understand, and you enroll in pedagogy, there is a shortage of teachers, you will not lose your job, and their salary is not less than BGN 700 in Sofia, I don't know about the others cities, plus it's not a complicated specialty that requires a genius mind. You will figure out how to take care of the child and develop in parallel, because if you do not get better, you will be useless, even harmful to your child. If you stand by this saying that because you have a child, you can't do something for yourself, it won't happen, it's a vicious circle and you take a comfortable position as a victim. Develop, wash for the child!