My Husband's Secret Notes

Ha-ha, the "cocoon" teases you very thinly, putting notes in his pocket, and you tie them. And I would mess with you when I see how smart you are ... Basically a man, if turnips cheat on you in any way you can not stop him. And if he does it intelligently - and there is no way you can catch him. However, you can very successfully ruin your whole life and your whole psyche with such thoughts, even if it doesn't cheat on you! So think carefully where the reason really is ... Guess - in you!

And what will you do if you find out? You already understand - could you change anything? Will you leave him? As far as I understand, I am with a small child and completely financially dependent on him - at the moment your hands are tied. Moreover, you have already confronted him and he lied to you directly, and everything is clearly going on. The note can be directly an insult and provocation to you by the other woman and be placed in order to find her! I don't understand why you keep her on Facebook to be arrogant and ridiculed. I don't see at the moment what else the digging will bring you except that you will suffer and turn your life into hell. Focus your efforts better on becoming independent (because it is very likely that I will take you for granted) and be able to stand on your own two feet in separation - because now that you are completely dependent on him, he knows it, there is no point in giving him ultimatums or scaring the gargoyles or asking for dramatic explanations.

Why don't you talk to your ISP to provide you with the last visited pages? Or you may find something interesting. Have you tried to ask him directly in the eye if there is anything? And why don't you follow him? I know it sounds extreme to you, but is it worth manipulating you like that?

Very easy - follow it.

In the field in which he works, do not expect to learn anything good. A man with self-confidence and money does not stay with only one woman, he needs to scratch his ego from time to time.

100% "scratches stinky plum".

Hehe and you're wondering, very clearly that crush. Are you so stupid that you don't realize it? And it keeps you in a subordinate position, not allowing you to work to be financially dependent on him, a safe and comfortable woman.

I really can't comment on whether he's cheating or not because these notes can be thousands of things and honestly, I don't know if I'm weird, but "stinky plum" doesn't excite me personally to say they're jokes. BUT I want to pay attention to something that if women finally understand and accept it will save many marriages and will solve many problems: GIVE HIM FREEDOM! 99% of infidelities are because the woman breathes in the man's neck 24/7 and he begins to feel watched, guilty. There comes a time when women like you are so engrossed in something that they start behaving as if they are sure that he is cheating on them. And that's where the problems start, because in the end it's not nice to be honest and faithful and your partner to treat you like a whore. The moment comes when you like it and you say fuck it, it treats me like I'm cheating anyway, at least let me do it so I like it. You have no idea how crushing and suffocating it is for a man to take care of everything and control it, this will only lead to infidelity! You watched porn when you were pregnant ... my God ... what to do? First, watching porn and masturbating whether you're with a girlfriend or a wife is normal. Some do it regularly, some do not, but it is normal! Looking at other women is NORMAL! Come on, don't pretend you're not staring at the movie tiles or the beach. Even dreaming about them is normal. To be married or in any relationship means to be faithful and to respect the woman, not to be brainwashed and to have no more desire for women. If you want him not to be interested in women, remember some hormone therapy to change his physiological needs. Second thing about porn, she said she was in it while you were pregnant. 100 out of 100 you didn't have sex then or if you did it was much rarer. What do you expect him to take out the abstinence ring? There is no way to know if he is cheating, the only thing I know from what you write is that you are suffocating him. And if it has not already manifested, it will manifest over time. And if you continue like this and he has been faithful until now, in a year or two he will not be. If there's nothing on the phone, I understand you dug into his phone. You found a number and called some time ago ... don't take offense, but these are not signs of concern, but signs of manic behavior. If my partner does this, if he digs in my phone, everything will end very quickly, not because I am hiding something, but because it is pathetic and very revealing. You talked about the topic of infidelity as a joke ... who talks about the topic of infidelity as a joke? Tell me a real daily conversation between partners who throws up this topic and asks a question, JOKE! Unless your husband is stupid, he felt at the moment that he was not joking, and that further contributes to the suffocation I was talking about. That chick uploads posts to annoy you? I'm sure the only purpose in an elderly woman's life is to passively irritate you through posts you might see. That doesn't sound crazy at all. I think talk to him directly to clear if there is something real, if not, to be calm and APOLOGIZE TO him for being so obsessive, tell him that you love him, tell him that you want to have freedom and do what he wants and that you have no problem with that, as long as he doesn't cheat. Not exactly with those words. Make him feel understood, not more attacked. And for the future, very seriously define the concept of infidelity and comment on it with it, not for fun. Because you obviously have a lot of different ideas about that, and I think that's where the problem comes from. Personally, I am a person who flirts and hangs out with the women he communicates with, even though I am in a relationship, not because I want to sleep with them, but because it makes them feel good and we are in a broken relationship, whether in a wounded place or something else. It's one thing to flirt and manipulate, it's quite another to sleep with someone. For you, obviously watching porn and thinking about a model is infidelity. It may not be for him. Every couple has to decide this, don't expect his views to be the same.

Unfortunately, there is no smoke without fire ... If the phone is clean, that is, it rubs everything, then there is something to see and you will not like it .. How to catch it is the question, but first I want to ask you when you catch it are you ready for the consequences? Will you leave him, or will you be able to forgive him? If you don't like any of these things, then the option remains to suffer, to suffer and the losing side is you ... If you care so much to catch him, there are 100 ways, men are stupid no matter how much they think they are not ..., he will still miss something. Check the car after coming home in the morning from a night shift, look for another phone there through which you can keep the correspondence, so as not to "stain" the personal. Install a program that steals passwords (in other words, copies what is entered through the computer and so you understand both passwords and history). They even sell small gps devices that are installed in the car or the remote that detect the location. There are many, many ways. However, my advice is if you love him and infidelity will hurt you and you will not be able to leave him - do not dig. I know it's hard to live like that, and I know it hurts, but it hurts more to hold a truth in your hands that you're not ready to deal with. If he breaks, you can't stop him, even if you're Victoria Beckham. Sooner or later, however, everyone is responsible for the consequences of their actions. Good luck. Be happy.