In general, I am more frugal. Even when we were boyfriends, it struck me that he bought everything he liked, but then he did not waste so much, and the money was his, and now it is common. I don't want to forbid him or, like a cerberus, to lurk what he has taken and how much he has spent, but lately my patience is running out. We fight all the time, and I don't want to separate because we have a little girl who needs a father and I can't deprive him of him. But the glass overflowed when a week ago you ordered an umbrella for BGN 40. I got really angry, how can you give so much money for an umbrella, so I can use an umbrella for 3 years for 3 years, and he needs a big expensive umbrella !! He has become an absolute egoist - he only thinks about what organic food to eat in order for his body to work well, what to order from the internet ... Don't get me wrong - I'm also a supporter of healthy eating, but I don't order seeds from anything for fabulous sums, I go and buy from the market. Okay, we still have money now, but do we have to get to the point where we're running out of money because of his indiscriminate waste of money and inability to realize it? I can't stand this anymore, and he can't hear and seems to be doing it to me!
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Let there be only a certain amount for him from the salary and, for example, let him keep them, it is definitely pointless to give so much money, especially that the child is most important.
Hello author, it is not clear from your entire text whether he is wrong or you. Because in the world there are both types of extremes, excessive frugality and excessive spending. The fact that you use an umbrella of BGN 3 is not an assessment of your financial situation, nor can it be judged, because there are actually two probabilities, either that you are too frugal and therefore use your umbrella, or that you are low-income and this should be the reason why you do not have an umbrella of BGN 40. You did not mention his income, nor who knows what prices he markets, most of us agree, maybe that BGN 40 per umbrella is a lot, but it depends on the person's income and if he can afford it, why not! The same goes for organic seeds, we can already talk about addiction, because addiction to organic seeds, foods and the like is a real danger.
Your husband is selfish and not used to taking care of anyone else. If you both work, just buy only food for the child for a while, and for all the other expenses for his house ask for money, you can imagine that the company has not paid your full salary and will pay it to you later, just invent something. Then your husband will find out for himself how much money goes and in general, and not only for him, but if he continues to spend only for himself, just either accept him as such or leave him.
hello, he is like that and there is nothing you can do about it. Maybe it will reduce costs if you spend the money on something else (for example, buy furniture, a car or something else big). The situation you describe is usually reversed - women spend money on all sorts of nonsense they marry - they are not cheap either. With you, the man spends on things he can do without, he obviously likes to do it. I'm absolutely sure he doesn't do it against you!
Amy, stop the general treasury, you spend your salary, and he spends yours, if you understand the electricity, water and other expenses to be divided in two, so you won't be angry about what he buys, otherwise he is the same as me, only I I'm a girl, but I constantly look for shoes and clothes on the Internet and order whatever I like.
How was the money "common" ?! Yours are yours and his are his. Whoever earns what he earns is his and can spend what he wants, there is no such "common" film. If you live together, just share the bills and that's it.
Probably your husband earns a lot. Or at least more than you. If I were, I would order different things. The budget is general, but still everyone has to spend according to their contribution ... and as far as I understand, you are not deprived of anything. Can't a person, after taking a break from work, afford something that makes him feel good?
Авторке, ужасната си ти! Аз също харча за глупости от време на време, но сама си изкарвам парите - следователно ще си ги харча. Аз също имам мъж и дете, да не помислиш друго, но с мъжа ми сме на отделни бюджети вече 8 години и така ми е добре. Сметките се плащат общо, всеки харчи и за къщата и за детето. Отделно, ако се случи някой да поиска пари на другия - получава ги без въпроси и уговорки. Не живеем на широко, но сме си насмогнали поне на ежедневния масраф и никой не държи сметка на другия. Сега някой ще пита - какво семейство е това - ще ви кажа - доста добро - не мога да си представя някой да ми брои стотинките, да ми следи разходите, излизанията, приятелите, чатовете и т. н. - и аз също не го правя.
I have come to the conclusion that whether you will be frugal or, to be more precise, tight is a character trait. I am convinced that she is the author and if she receives a good salary she will still carry the umbrella of three levs. If her husband brings enough money, does not buy the seeds at the expense of the monthly support of the family, let him buy them. People are definitely different - for one lipstick is a waste, for another it is a necessity, for example. And since the character cannot be changed, the money is simply allocated for everything necessary for a normal life for the month, if you have decided to set aside for something big, you set aside the rest for everyone to spend as they see fit. Of course, the child's needs are before yours.
Numbers 6 and 7, often the woman earns less money, because due to the care of the child / children, there is no opportunity to work for something better paid. In this sense, she also contributes a lot to this family, saving money for a babysitter, for example, which the man would give if she also worked something better and paid. I think that money in a family is common, or at least it should be morally right!
Author, it's easy. Make your bills and give them to him, every month you pay for your home. With the rest to do what you want. And you continue to save when you are frugal. When the "bartender" interrupts him, you point the door at him and continue without him. To go to my mother and there she will be able to do so. If you can deal with the expenses yourself, what is it like for you ... he thinks for himself without it. And the time will come for YOU and YOUR CHILD to have to deprive themselves of his needs. Make sure you are prepared for that.
Number 10, in principle to some extent you are right. But nowadays these values are seriously distorted by young women who are just looking for someone with money to look after them and pay their whims, and quickly give birth to 1-2 children to have an excuse not to do anything else with their lives. . Having a child is wonderful, but it doesn't necessarily mean you don't do anything else. Now probably a bunch of bg moms will be jealous of how difficult it is and that there is nothing else you can do until the child is 10 years old, but these are just excuses. Children are not so difficult to look at, nor does it require Cannes effort. Nowadays I have diapers, food processors, nice washing machines, ready-made purees, a variety of milk if the mother does not have breast milk ... In addition to kindergartens, there are also children's corners that work on weekends. And if you have education and skills, you can even find a remote job to do in your free time while your child is sleeping, for example. It's all a matter of ability, desire and organization. And happen to a man, of course. And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) which you can do in your free time while the child is sleeping, for example. It's all a matter of ability, desire and organization. And happen to a man, of course. And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) which you can do in your free time while the child is sleeping, for example. It's all a matter of ability, desire and organization. And happen to a man, of course. And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) It's all a matter of ability, desire and organization. And happen to a man, of course. And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) It's all a matter of ability, desire and organization. And happen to a man, of course. And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the above three factors. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) And if you want to dedicate yourself only to looking after the child in the first 2-3 years, your husband can look after the child, and you can go for 2-3 hours in the evening on a language or some other course. As I said, it depends on the three factors listed above. Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :) Economic freedom is important, it is also important for a woman to have a good income, not to count a man's money and tell him what to spend it on. BGN 40 for an umbrella is not who knows what, 4 years ago I bought an umbrella for BGN 35. Better a quality item that you can use for 20 years than Chinese garbage, which breaks in a stronger wind . It's not like the author's husband bought a Bentley and spent all their savings. :)