Hi, I want to share what happened to me recently. We have been married for about two and a half years. I recently gave birth to our first child. In general, our marriage is happy, we have no problems and we were fine in sex ... Well, at least until a few days ago I thought so. But then I was looking for something on my husband's computer and accidentally a porn site popped up on the proposed websites, which turned out to be quite visited by him. I dug into the history of his browser and saw that during the day he watches porn while I'm in the other room and sleeps (or at least he thinks so, I don't know, he may have done it while I'm awake!). The same day I took up the topic and he told me that it is not recent and there is no problem in me or anything like that, but he just does it sometimes so that he can fall asleep easier. He works hard to have a baby now and says he's tired but can't sleep, so he does. But I don't believe him. I know very well that when he lies down next to me he falls asleep for exactly 10 seconds, even if he has not masturbated or we have had sex. In general, all this work hurt me a lot, although I always thought it would not be a cause for concern. In the following days I surprised him and threw myself at him as soon as the child fell asleep. The next night we didn't have sex and in the morning I saw that he was watching porn again. I surprised him again and the next day we did it twice. But I still have the feeling that he is not satisfied and in the morning when he goes to work I dig into the history of his browser again. I think I have a problem with trusting him and I need advice on how to overcome this mania to keep track of what he does every day. I've talked to him several times already and he said emphatically that I'm not tired of him and porn has nothing to do with me. But when he tried to prove it to me with articles on the Internet, he found nothing positive and none of what he pointed out as reasons for watching it. This made me think even more that maybe somewhere in me is the reason. Help me stop this distrust and feel like the woman I want again!
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I will answer you as a man: sex with you is not ok for him, that's why he watches porn, ie he gets aroused and enjoys situations, poses, a way of having sex that do not happen to you. I feel the same way with my wife, but after almost 14 years of marriage. I love her, I married her because I liked her, she is a good person, a very responsible wife and mother and this is more important, but sex is not the way I want it and it has never been. And she does it regularly, she is affectionate, but she doesn't fuck like I like. Even 50% is not what I have as a wish. What can you do with it, you can do it, it doesn't come from inside her. So I will give you a very serious piece of advice: play the porn movies he has watched and see what he enjoys. Men want sex with their wives to happen as if they are fucking whores, ie who do everything he likes with pleasure. It's like you were born for this - to fuck. When he wants a blowjob, when he wants 69-69 ... you on top, he on top, and if you want to cum together in your mouth, if he wants to ejaculate in your mouth, give it to him. Don't even give him the opportunity to want it, just act. And when I say whistle, don't just slap him, but make her dirty, passionate and whore - look him in the eye, have fun or at least imitate. Tell him you emptied while you swallow him. In fact, I'm giving you a guide, more or less, on what we're talking about. It is not said that this is exactly what he will enjoy, there are hundreds of things and we are still talking about standard sex. There is a saying that obviously enters women through the ear and exits through the other and that's just how they call it - Lady in society and whore / slut in bed. But when you say slut, you REALLY mean that. I hope they post my comment, because many ladies consider themselves active in sex, but things are zero. For activity, they think it's almost easy to show him that they want sex. Tell her when you attack him, what do you do - do you start burning, etc. Probably not - how many times did you tell him that you want to ejaculate on your face. Ha, not all men are like that, but most are. That's why porn movies give things that excite and delight men. Watch, see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me. see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me. see what and how he watched, and practice. So much for me.