My Husband And I Are Not So Close Anymore! How Do I Return The Spark?

   Maybe you're not like you used to be. How you dress, how you behave, how you smile - that's what I mean. :)

   Right now, I'm in the same situation. Even today I told him that we need to diversify in some way. We are not in a very long relationship so far - 3 years, but we got together almost at the beginning and missed out on bringing people with 100 years of relationship. But monotony and routine speak for themselves. Care must be taken not to miss things. I wish you success! I hope I have it too!

   Tell him that you don't need money, but you want him to leave his job and go to register with the labor office, and from there they will pay him compensation for a few or more months. During this time, he will rest, pay attention to you, and the spark will return.

   Hello, make some change in yourself - a hairstyle, a new outfit ... something that will impress him. He cooked something special that he loved, but you didn't do it soon. Send him nice messages while he is at work to show him that you think about him, you can even leave him a note in the morning wishing him a successful and smiling day. Surprise him even if there is no reason, it seems that he works a lot ... go on vacation for a weekend, it will affect him well. Make him want you again, small gestures say a lot, good luck!

   I can tell you what I miss. The woman watches big brother and some TV series, doesn't ask about my work, talks to me about what she thinks, feels, plans ... It is true that all young mothers go crazy in the first and second year of the child, but I thought mine was immunized. Thorns. Talk to your husband, talk about his things, his interests and do your best to have sex as often as possible. The rest will be fine.

   There is no way unless you win from TOTO and it stops working :).

   Start with something light. For example, offer him a light massage after dinner before bed. Apply a little eroticism during the massage. Make him a romantic dinner. If you have children, send them to one of your grandparents for tonight. And so little by little things will recover. Offer him walks over the weekend. Go somewhere just the two of you for example on the mountain, etc. Now comes the winter season. Look for more physical contact with him. Hug him while watching TV. These are the ways to wake the lion again :)

   The author .. Thank you very much everyone! However, did I do anything to impress him, but alas. He is 30, I am 24. We are young, imagine what we will be at the age of 80? For now we have no children ..

   I am like you but I am 33 years old and we have 8 years of marriage behind us and children. It is terrible for such young ages to stop interest, sex, etc. and what is left after years .... Even now we do not have these things and when we turn 50-60 what do we do then? Apparently our halves are not interested, and this cannot last until 50-60 years to become ... I think so

   I liked the comment of Number 8. Still, I would add that beauty does not happen by force - you need desire on both sides and reciprocity. Just as she needs to understand, support and care for him, so he needs to react to her in the same way. In order for the watch to work, both gears must be in working order.

   And I, as number 8, the woman watches big brother, started Turkish TV series and rummaged in the net, in the phone. However, she tells me that I only went out with my friends to drink, but I don't pay any attention to her, but when I decide to pay attention to her, she is either tired, or watching the movie / show, or not talking to her. . And then I'm guilty anyway. So, I have to go to work, make money, take care of the child after that and possibly help at home (okay, no problem), and she ends up making money on me because she was very tired all day from housework and the child, to sour me for everything and to behave badly without me provoking him. And I give to earn and give to 1500, that and more money for the family in total, and she gives 1/2 of her maternity to her mother for the bills. And on top of that, with sex it's very difficult, more than a year without any, now to the second we have done it 10-20 times. Am I a bachelor or yes, I ask and I answer. Since I read a lot of topics, for which I thank God, the Internet, aliens and people who write, I think that if it does not get on the rails after the child goes to kindergarten, I will have to part with it. It sucks a lot because I love my child very much, and maybe she knows it and uses it, I don't know. I used to think of her as the best person, or at least one of the best, but now I just don't believe in her. Ah, I forgot you can't talk to her. If I honestly try to tell her something, she is either not talked to, or she is burdened, or she gives me some "arguments" that would be a third-grader's argument. I'm sorry, this is not the topic, I needed to say it ... To the author, I will try to help, although if you read my comment above, I am hardly exactly the man, but ... 1. A lot depends on what a person does, what he is rotten from. You have to be the moral support of this person, whatever happens, to be able to tell you, to know, to be interested in him, as well as he is interested in you. Try to have your few minutes a day to talk, but sex is not at the door, or at least for most people. I personally need a little conversation, understanding from my wife, but alas ... 2. Romance ... even if you can talk to each other, take time 1 for another, some other surprise (I typed the list that day to mine, she rejoices), is a kind of romance. However, this is not my strongest point. 3. Try to talk to him about this topic. And if he says, "Well, I'm really tired, I'm just rotten," 99% of it will be the truth, men tell themselves what's wrong with them, as long as there is someone to hear them. 4. Catch him in moments when he is not tired. Wake him up early in the morning, something for breakfast, but say he has to deserve it (just an example, this came to my mind) ... and so ... But, in any case, use it when he's having fun, of course you are too! :) I hope I helped at least a little. I probably don't see the end of it, or you can see it, but it's not very ok: /

   Number 17, I both sympathize with you and you made me laugh. The style of writing and sense of humor shows that you are a strong person, confident. Too bad you got the woman wrong. And I wouldn't want to live with a stool. I have no idea why the lack of communication is such a huge problem. And without communication, there is nothing, let alone a relationship and marriage.