My Husband And I Are No Longer Intimate Or Even Kissing.

   Talk to him, always be open and more emphatic, but not intrusive! Predispose him with some actions, after all, he is a man with emotions, not a robot. Try to predispose him ... to talk, to action ... of course, delicately, I say again: not intrusive! If it doesn't happen anymore ... there is a problem and he needs to clarify, "remind" him what he has, "remind" him that he has a FAMILY, he must be aware that you are NOT a given, he must know that he can to lose you, that he should appreciate you as the woman next to him, the partner in his life, the woman in his heart (I guess he "won" you with dignity and made an effort), the mother of his child ... He may just be in a difficult period, to experience something, I don't know it and I have no idea! BUT that doesn't mean you deserve less attention, less time and no intimacy, if it lasts too long, gather courage and separate, just don't waste your life, it's just one! And I'm sure you are and will be a great mother G, 20

   Not to have another woman?

   From the author: I talked to him, he was embarrassed and apologized to me and said that he did not suspect that I felt this way. He hugged me and kissed me, then we played with the baby all night and he smiled at me a lot. I know that the gray everyday life, the busy work and not very high incomes must worry him and it is difficult for him to relax. I hope we find a way to make everything the same.

   Without getting you into movies, but almost 100% of your husband has a mistress. Every literate man is aware that if pregnancy is not a problem, there is absolutely no reason not to have sex during this period, except in recent weeks.

   Hello, this period with pregnancy is more special for the sexual relations of the partners usually. What may have happened is that your husband started masturbating on his own, which at first glance seems harmless, but it is not. This is an insidious habit that over time causes problems with erections, sleep, stress, social and sexual relationships. This mixed with daily work, stress, fatigue can put a man in a trap from which it is not easy to get out. If this is the problem, then you will have to help him. My advice is not to talk to him discreetly about not having sex and to condemn him - this can increase stress and tension for him. Instead, try to seduce him with sexy clothes / lingerie, creases, a-u stands, laughter and playful looks and touches. Another important thing is to pay attention to your sleep and nutrition. Also, do not interrupt sexual intercourse in the next pregnancy - there is a way, for example, to focus more on the man. Sexual relationships are built with perseverance and devotion. Greetings and good luck, M 28

   Hello, there may be several reasons. Starting from your transformation during pregnancy to the stress of becoming a father and the responsibilities to scare him and ending with a mistress. We will leave the latter as a final option. You made a great impression on me from your story that he wants you to put the child to sleep when he comes home to rest. How does this child accept him at all, does he enjoy it, and is this child planned, how does he accept fatherhood? I don't know exactly how things are, but I think this person is stressed and needs some kind of support, to feel that not everything is on his shoulders. I haven't become a father yet, but I imagine what a responsibility it is and how strong you have to be. I understand that it is not easy for you with this little child, and that you also need a lot of attention, but find a way to show him that you are together, make some plans for the future quite simple and non-committal, just awaken his feelings. Otherwise, you as his wife, you should know best what will whet his appetite for you.

   The author is a man of 38 years old. I am in almost the same situation. I say almost the same thing because since the birth of our child and he is almost 3 years old, we have sex less than once a month. In the last year I got there to record when we did it because so much time passes that I forget the date of the previous trip. In essence, my wife also points out similar reasons - nervous work, fatigue, lack of time, but for me, if a person has the desire, he will find 1 hour of time for his beloved. Everything else is an excuse. I do not want to scare you, but judging by my case, time passes and I have only hope that something will change. Alas, it is not happening yet. Everyone will advise you to talk to clarify. I have tried everything but alas nothing changes. I will not advise you anything. One must come to the right decision on one's own. I wish you success.

   In general, this is the situation in most families after the child is born. At least the first few months. We didn't even think about sex, because my husband was actively involved on an equal footing with me in breeding and eating, including at night. We felt so exhausted that we tried to sleep every free second, which did not happen for more than 3 hours in the first 3-4 months. It is important to be able to maintain your good relationship in these difficult months. Gradually, things will calm down and calm down. In many families, women do not want sex because men sleep in a separate room and feel rested and fresh, ready for emotions. If they are deprived of them, however, they are likely to look elsewhere.

   M 38 I don't know how it happened, but it happened to us, but my wife has no desire for intimacy, there is always some excuse, I'm sure she's not cheating, and so am I. And I constantly show her that she is wanted, and I do not insist that she does not run away. I really hope things get better, but I'm already desperate. I don't know what to advise you, but don't make scenes of jealousy if you're not sure there really are.