Hello, I will try to write briefly something that excites me and that I have been thinking about for some time, and I would be happy for someone to share, express an opinion. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years, 6 months ago we lived together. Here is the place to add that we are from different cities, I come from the so-called "big city", it is from a smaller city. It was high time we took this step and we are not the first youth. I had a good job, good and regular pay, but I decided to quit my job and move in with him. I knew it wouldn't be easy for me and that there was an adjustment that wouldn't end in a day or two, but I love him and I want to be with him, he's the person I chose to be with, he's caring, good, dedicated in everything he does. We live in an apartment with his parents. His mother didn't like me from the beginning, but this does not concern me much, because we cannot all like and love each other - people are different, sympathies for one thing or another too. There have been many situations in which she has shown that she does not approve of me, moments in which she has shown me 'who is the master' at home, etc. I have never responded with disrespect, a raised tone or anything like that. in other values, and yet she has another daughter-in-law, who in this case is the beloved, and another son, who is placed on a pedestal.Here comes the big one, BUT .... My boy is for everything, for minor repairs , to run up and down for what it takes, while my uncle is the great one in the family, how he struggled with life, how they, as parents, failed to give him anything, he managed on his own and a number of others like that. at breakfast, lunch and dinner, here is the second BUT ... As I wrote above, I have been here for several months, my search for a job started even before I moved, for now nothing. I know that the situation is very difficult in our country at the moment, but I believed that I would succeed. As of today, I'm not so sure, I've been sending cvs left and right for 9 months. I know someone will say for sure that there are many people who have been out of work for a year or two, but this is my case. This is another BUT .... Since I've been here I've received several job offers from my city with good pay, but I haven't told him, there are cases when my friends call me with job offers for him too, but and I didn't tell him that .... But for a while now, I've been thinking more and more about going back to live at home. When I say houses I have in a house on 3 floors, furnished, with space and space for everything, whatever you want. I attract "For" and "Against" and the pros for my home are more ... I don't know, maybe I'm biased. I honestly don't see any prospects here, he has his job, his salary is very low and he goes straight to the fridge, he has no friends, because all his friends are for or abroad, or they have moved out of the city. I know it's good to go out for coffee or pizza. The other thing that starts to tip the scales to get out of here is that for a while his father has been talking about how HE filled the fridge, how he paid bills and the like. Don't get me wrong, I'm grateful to them for that and I fully understand it. He and his mother are retired, but this does not mean that I have to be content to work for BGN 350, because here the salaries are like that. I feel
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I will say what most people would advise you. Talk to him, discuss it and if he pulls up, pack your bags and you'll be out of smoke. If he loves you very much and cares for you, he should not be so blind and will follow you. I know it sounds very easy, but believe me, everyday life will captivate you so much that you will then wonder how you got entangled in it. I say it from personal experience ... And when the child appears ... things become very, very complicated ...