My Girlfriend Is Finding It Harder And Harder To Turn Me On

   It's super simple. Grab one, cheat on your girlfriend and then you'll appreciate what you would lose if this lack of desire on your part continues.

   My girlfriend is not the first beauty, not in the face, and as if she tries not to look perfect, she gets a haircut, she paints herself, she sometimes does badly, but she has some charm, in the beginning there was beauty charm, but it passed . We've been together for a year and a half now and it excites me so much. Sometimes I even want to show her that she doesn't turn me on when I'm angry and deprive her of caresses, but I can't, I'm always 100% downstairs because she has a hell of a little ass, weak legs and I generally feel some warmth, I'm ready from a word, from a look, from a touch and that's it every time, I even find a tendency to more and more, even she feels it, down there mostly, I'll just burst. You know ... and I constantly look at others, mine, as I said, is not the most beautiful, it was in a better shape before, especially in the face, but somehow I can't feel that warm feeling of an honest person who loves me, even the most beautiful one I meet on the street, I won't feel the same when I hug her, just as when I hug my girlfriend, I get aroused to the maximum every time and sometimes on the streets I am ashamed to be noticed. It can't stop arousing me, I don't know personally what this is due to and I have never experienced it with another, if it is a princess, a model, the most beautiful, I will not experience it again. Look after others, but indulge in the warmth that your girlfriend gives, if she is decent and holds on to you, understand that it is quite difficult to find something better in this regard, as I have understood it, and you will only get aroused every time you hug her. If I look at some cool babe and I get aroused to the maximum, and if I look at mine it is not known if it will be to such an extent,

   "We have satisfied all our fantasies and desires for a long time." - when something comes to you, you look for diversity. He doesn't think that others are different, and even without that, after you get married and have children, the routine comes. But with these changes in your character, then tremors can occur, especially if you trample the onion.

   Wow, it's like I wrote it. Bad job and I'm like that and I don't know what to do :( We've been living together for 7 years - without marriage. In general, everything else is OK, but sex is no longer the way it was. We've tried almost everything in sex and maybe we are already oversaturated and oversatisfied and now we have sex 1, rarely 2 times a week sex.If there are others PASSED through such a stage of your relationship - how did you overcome it or separation is set? (M-47, F-40)

   There is no need to set a limit for minimal arousal from your wife. And the more you focus, the worse. Now I'm expecting a bucket of posts in style - you're tired. It's not normal for me to get bored. Theoretically, sometimes men think that the catch is safe and this makes you stop wanting a race. Somewhere it is so, but on the other hand it is not. If your girlfriend asks you what's wrong with you, she obviously doesn't have enough sex. At some point he will stop asking you and I guess you know why. The catch is never certain. A 25-year-old with sex 2-4 times a month is a living tragedy. You are attracted to someone else, I'm sure she is also aroused by someone else ... or your relationship is lame somewhere or you focus on the number too much.

   Well, you've had enough before and now ... I don't know how and if this desire will return. They say that when you have children you don't have much sex in the beginning. But then? Imagine that you marry her and after the children grow up a little your desire for something foreign will increase! Then you will be trapped.

   You know the saying: "And the most beautiful woman in the world, she gets tired of a man ...."

   I think you're just tired. What to do, in every relationship comes this moment, the important thing is to try to revive the spark again. I can't give you advice on how to do it, because every relationship is unique and only you know what excites you the most in it, but it won't hurt to try. Go on vacation to a new place, organize an unusual evening ... I know. The important thing is to try something new or go to a new place. To fall in love with the other again.

   Attitude - you just won it, got to know it and now you are tired of it. I hope you don't find someone else, since you are no longer interested in her. She may think the same, but she didn't tell you. Whatever you want to do, no one will give you guidance, you obviously haven't decided yet if this is the real woman you're going to spend your life with, but just don't tell her she's ugly or unattractive, even if you want to. Then he will automatically move to someone else's bed and play you, and he will most likely hate himself. And remember that it will be the same with the others, after the phase of getting to know you, they will get bored again, it's just that your attitude is like that.

   An old saying: next to every beauty there is a man who is tired of fucking her. So you are completely normal.

   From the author I read a hell of nonsense! I seem to have forgotten to mention that my girlfriend always wants me except when she is not in a cycle. When I have no desire for sex, she always gets sick and frowns for days. I love her she is a wonderful creature, but I'm tired of eating beans. I think it is inherent in male nature to be monogamous and the option to be with only one partner for a long time is a mirage. I want to emphasize that I have cheated and for now I do not need, but it is a fact that someone else is attracted to me and I do not know when they will tempt me. The problem is that my girlfriend and I both get along, she works while I rest and vice versa we see each other for a few hours and on the night after the long day and then if she is going to be the most interesting and sexy woman I can not touched ...

   Author, why this tone? Because some people think 2-4 sex a month is not OK? Because there were opinions that it is not enough? If you frown, you still care. It also means that sex is not enough for her. I put both my hands behind this opinion. Beans, lentils, peas ... your wife doesn't have enough sex with you. She feels unwanted and at some point she will stop wanting. He will stop grumbling. Well, at this very moment you can be sure that your sex will never give her the pleasure he brought her. Because you are slowly becoming a refusing grumbler. The male image in the head and goes to hell. You remember. The man in the relationship, the dominant, the initiator. It is quite possible that she will let you go, just because it is not known when she will shine again .... This is from a woman's point of view. The problem is not in your girlfriend be sure. I was with the same man for 10 years. Not once did he. And he was ready and had a desire at least 3 times a week. I am not an unearthly beauty, and he is not the god of bed art. He just could. If you are not monogamous, let the girl find a partner. Don't waste time.

   Author, why this tone? Because some people think 2-4 sex a month is not OK? Because there were opinions that it is not enough? If you frown, you still care. It also means that sex is not enough for her. I put both my hands behind this opinion. Beans, lentils, peas ... your wife doesn't have enough sex with you. She feels unwanted and at some point she will stop wanting. He will stop grumbling. Well, at this very moment you can be sure that your sex will never give her the pleasure he brought her. Because you are slowly becoming a refusing grumbler. The male image in the head and goes to hell. You remember. The man in the relationship, the dominant, the initiator. It is quite possible that she will let you go, just because it is not known when she will shine again .... This is from a woman's point of view. The problem is not in your girlfriend be sure. I was with the same man for 10 years. Not once did he. And he was ready and had a desire at least 3 times a week. I am not an unearthly beauty, and he is not the god of bed art. He just could. If you are not monogamous, let the girl find a partner. Don't waste time.

   You are wrong, and you give it a hard time. Drive her anyway, she will find her master. Tired of beans, and what else do you find a sausage? You pretend to be great openers, but you will lick your wounds.

   Pickle!

   2-4 times a MONTH ??? Horror. My husband and I do so much a week, even 4-5 sooner. Well, before sex, play some porn to "warm up" and then fix it properly. Buy new sexy lingerie, socks ... mine, when he gets tired of the old ones, he goes and buys me new things

   I'm number 2. Don't think that women are very different, they all wear the same p * ka, some narrower, others wider, I'm sorry for the vulgar expression, but to change your girlfriend because you're tired and you're you think that with another you will be the biggest, that's stupid, you hit him a little to the point of complexity. If you have a decent girl next to you, don't do it, just hug her and try to feel her warmth and kindness. I don't know, but in my case, no matter how much in a given situation she's not set up and powdered, or I don't feel like it sex, or to be tired and whatever, hugging her and everything passes me by. It irritates me a lot on the phones, on Facebook and we don't understand each other at all, but when I hug her and everything passes, I feel a warm one in me, tender, nice and excites me at the very least and every time, every time, because I feel. If I go and hug the coolest babe, I will not feel her that way, she may arouse me in one way or another, but the arousal is stronger when you feel it. Lately we don't have sex often, nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) I will not feel it that way, it may excite me in one way or another, but the excitement is stronger when you feel it. Lately we don't have sex often, there's nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) I will not feel it that way, it may excite me in one way or another, but the excitement is stronger when you feel it. Lately we don't have sex often, there's nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) it may excite me in one way or another, but the excitement is stronger when you feel it. Lately we don't have sex often, there's nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) it may excite me in one way or another, but the excitement is stronger when you feel it. Lately we don't have sex often, nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) Lately we don't have sex often, there's nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) Lately we don't have sex often, there's nowhere, I don't have a car now and we've done it no more than 10 times since the beginning of the year, maybe, but every time it's nice, long and we haven't cheated because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) for a long time and we haven't cheated on each other because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. (for now, we are still people and I do not trust people) for a long time and we haven't cheated on each other because we lack sex. I never miss sex and I wouldn't hurt my girlfriend because of sex, because of a model, etc. to none of those dragged there. I look, I'm a man, they turn me on, I like them, but I don't want to sleep with strangers, to make them cool, to fall in love with some one-dayers, mine is decent and serious. 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   It is normal. If after 2 years there is no baby instinctively reduces the desire. It is due to hormones. Sometimes infidelity helps, sometimes not. Once you have decided to get married, remove the condom and pills and after 9 months it will be fine. And don't try everything in bed. A little each time.

   I support number 16!

   As long as you insult the person, what can he do when he is no longer attracted to him, he can't force himself, obviously it's time for a change and that's it!

   21, let me leave her free. What is being complained about here? She is obviously a beautiful and sexy woman. Either he will try to fix the problem / because a young man who has sex 2-4 months a month has a problem / or he will leave it. Bakhti and men. And they got tired at 2-3 years old. I like it until you adjust to your partner and get to work and you get bored. What are these tips for kids. What happens when you are born? Does the desire for sex suddenly return? No. Well, then it's total damage. Apparently now 20-30 year old men can only breathe the smoke of older people.

   Well, fine. Not being attracted anymore by the author to leave his girlfriend. It is better to get out of the situation with dignity and to be honest with the person next to you and not waste his time than to cheat, etc. Does it make sense to cheat - how long will you do it? !! As if she won't feel it for a while ... Leaving her like that, there are people who just weren't made for a monogamous relationship. These excuses with "men are so programmed" are stupid and out of date. This will never justify infidelity. Break up with her, then do what you want! Number 14 is right.

   Number 22 appearance does not matter and what of the fact that she is beautiful and sexy. What is so difficult to understand that a man is tired, such a thing can happen not only to him but forever, just no longer attracts him as a sexual object. There are couples in which it lasts longer and maybe after the third month you get bored, nothing is known, it does not depend on what the person is..it just happened! They have no children, no sex..they not to be brother and sister!

   24, I'm 22 I don't know if you're a man or a woman. I have never come across a hard-aroused man in my life. Lazy maybe. Fast - yes. I've had a jam twice. But one that makes me jealous that he doesn't have sex ... ever. Really get bored sex object so quickly speaks of a problem. Which could really be easily solved: The author deprives his wife of himself and finds another who will get bored of him just as quickly. Sorry: But a man who falls for 4 times a month sex in a not very long relationship is a naughty partner. And if we are to be precise, if they continue like this, they will either separate or it will turn out that the author has a partner.

   Not only men are polygamous. :))

   I am 24 and I am determined to give myself to only one man and why not wait until the wedding? I have always been very sensitive, vulnerable and fragile. When men took me down, they always looked at my appearance. There is hardly anyone who appreciates that I am romantic. I dream of the purity of the 1st surrender, to cuddle, to fall asleep on his chest and to hear his heart beating and for him to caress my hair. To walk in nature and dance under the stars. I want a lot of tenderness and patience, not to always explode and brag to me where and with whom they will break. Not everything is drinking and easy sex. I want to find a mature, settled man with morals and principles like mine. I'm so tired of posers who have nothing to do with a lady and always look at my appearance. I want to tell you men, look at the behavior and principles in a woman! I have decided to remain a virgin, in spite of this depravity. I will protect my lips and body and indulge when I feel something different in a valuable man. I will not be anyone's doormat. As for other virgins like me - do not give up and follow your principles! This is your body - let it be your temple and only the most worthy to cross its threshold! Good luck to all who seek the pure! A.

   The less you have sex, the less you will get. And how did he allow that? You are the one who must be the seeker, the insistent, the demanding - you are a man. Just as you men have needs and always point to it, so we women have such needs. You have neglected your intimate relationship. Honestly, I wouldn't stand by one. There is always time. Well, just imagine that your partner is certainly wanted - by many other men who would be happy to do it with her and more than once even. As it turned out, you may soon miss it. What you offer her, a big nothing, makes her feel unwanted, this is not to be ignored. She can be a queen in the eyes of another, always desired and loved. There is another, not all men are equally potent, given that the bulk of a man's potency occurs in his brain, of course if there are no physiological reasons. You have to imagine some things, to fantasize, to have a little imagination, the desire comes from that. You have a poor idea of ​​these things, because of this, you will always rely on someone else to raise it for you. Because before you have sex, first in your head, you have to create it in advance, always be ready. The other is grumbling and laziness, which one day you will regret.

   And what advice can we give you? It is clear that you are one of those people whose ax does not strike in one place. From "every night" to 2-4 times a month is a big drop. It is normal for activity to decline over the years. As a 25-30 year old you should do it at least 3-4 times a week. If you don't want that much, just split up. That way it will be fairer to the girl.

   I understand you completely because I also have this problem and I want to emphasize that my wife is very sexy with the difference that we have a girl of almost 2 years. Our relationship is wonderful even though we have sex for 1-2 months. There are just men like us who like not to be with one, I was a piecemaker before I met my babe and I had been through a lot, of these pieces there was a girl I went with for 3 years and she drove me crazy during the whole period of our relationship, but it was also a big k .. va, so much time passed and again when I think of it I become firm for a minute. My advice is not to miss the girl you are with because believe me, then it will be very difficult to find one to start a family. And don't listen to the above comments because most of them are written by women and men who don't have the instinct of a hunter and wouldn't understand you, It's really a bit naughty that we lie to the loved one next to us but we can't change our sexual habits, personally I don't think so and when I have sex I go to a prostitute and solve the problem for the moment, but I would never make an emotional connection with another woman because it will already be a betrayal and dishonest for my girlfriend. And another thing I would advise you not to look for how to solve the problem with sex with her because I have not succeeded for 8 years, but the obligations around the child who sneezes are a little sex remains your least problem, but if you decide to fight I wish you success !!