I am a 26-year-old boy, I have a relationship with a girl who is 7 years old, 33 years older than me.
We have been together for 4 years. I work a main job, which I was fired because of the epidemic. I earn extra income from work from home from time to time, but the money I make from there is not much. My girlfriend doesn't work, she's always looking for a job. Over the years she had started in 1-2 places, but for a month and then she left. He has always been looking for a job since we met and did nothing. We live with her mother. Besides, my friend (let's call her Kami) doesn't help at home. Everything falls on the shoulders of her mother, who is over 70. I help as much as I can. Kami sleeps late, lies down, chats on the computer, watches movies. He rarely cooks.
I love her very much and wonder what I can do to get her to start working. Her mother is retired and has not worked for a long time. Kami also has a university degree, speaks English and Spanish.
Very often her family and I talk to her about why she doesn't do any work. When we take up this topic, she starts saying that we hate her, that she is the offshoot of the family, that we think she is stupid and pathetic. And she turns things around as if we're driving her by force. On the one hand, being admired is not a lie, because she is a young and healthy 33-year-old woman.
We also talked about children with Kami, she supposedly wants children, but I don't know what else she is waiting for.
Please give me some advice.