Hello! I hope someone gave me advice about this trouble I am in. I have had a friend for 4 months, in whom I am very much in love. In the beginning, everything went perfectly. We like everything, we like the same things, sex is perfect. We are colleagues at work and we help each other a lot there. Our only difference was that he had a weakness for grass. At first I didn't mind at all, because he consumed in moderation, it happened that I also withdrew. A month ago he started taking pico, cocaine, amphetamines. I learned that he had serious drug problems in the past. He was a student when he went to the United States for treatment and recovered there. Then he returned to the grass, first only at parties, then once a week, and so on until a month ago. He has not come to work for two weeks and is constantly intoxicated. He feels weak and thinks he is doing it for energy. I guess I'll shake while there's still money. Then we'll see ... What about me Where am I in this relationship with cocaine? We haven't had sex in a week because he just doesn't like it. He doesn't even look at me. He stays at home, at most we go out somewhere, but he stays inadequate. How do I bring him back to life? I know he has feelings for me, but he's so helpless in the face of drugs.
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Only if he returns for treatment in the United States or elsewhere can he recover. However, you have no future with him. You don't even have it now. His love is drugs. Break up with him and look for another man.
I can't figure out what you might like about some uncharacteristic, pathetic, drug addict. You think of yourself as such, thinking that they are very brave in hurting each other, but in fact they are the most pathetic sheep. From what I wrote, I think the answer is clear to you.
If he doesn't ask for it himself, there is no way. Get away from this one!
I tell you this as a person who has been through this. People like us have a weak character. We easily succumb to the delusion that everything is better, easier and better using something. Some do it for energy, others because it is easier to deal with problems, others because it is difficult to socialize, and all this to some extent helps to lower the guard and communicate normally with people. It is very important from now on to decide if you love this person and if you want to help him. When I had a problem, I was unfortunately left alone and of course there was a reason. According to you, I understand that he uses only stimulants, which is easy to stop. The first ten days are the most difficult. Buy Co Enzym Q10, vitamin C, B2, B12. Co enzyme is a very strong antioxidant read the leaflet on the Internet and you will understand what it is about. From there, it's important to get involved. Going on a trip for 1-2 weeks, for example, can help a lot. Limiting contacts with the company in which all this is happening. Completely stop drinking alcohol if you drink. Walks, conversations. Visiting relatives and everything that can break the everyday life and socializing with relatives and old acquaintances outside of all this. Getting back to normal from stimulants is easy. Another issue is that if we get to this gray everyday life again, boredom, difficulty with daily work and not talking about it, we will get to all this again and history will repeat itself. Before I stopped completely there was a period of 1 year of constant stopping and restarting. The advice I give you has helped me. And above all ... a visit to a psychologist can always help, as long as there is a desire to go. Not everyone feels comfortable talking about their problems with a stranger. 457
Run girl, no matter how much it hurts, run, because then it will hurt even more for the lost time and mentally you will not be the same. It can only help a person in the early stages of addiction and only if he wants it and if he is not on hard drugs. Everything else is a lost cause, if he wants to go to Mars he will find it because of the physical pain of his illness.
From the author: Thank you №4. He must have run out of money because he left for Belgium (he is from there) and plans to be treated for "one or two months". I'm afraid it will get worse. I guess he came back to sell something and indulge in shaking. I don't trust this man anymore. If drugs are a stimulant for him, not me, good health. He can't run away like that without consulting. I would help him, I would take leave, etc. whatever was needed. It is not the narcissists, but the people who destroy trust.
I am the author again: A week later she wrote to me that she would not return to Bulgaria because she would be treated, open new horizons, etc. We talked all night on Viber and in the end we decided to separate. After a month and a half he wrote to me that he wanted to get together, he caught the first plane to Bulgaria, he was ready to be with me at any cost, that he would try to return to work. And so it happened - he returned to a wonderful mood, very kind and gentle. He asked the employer to take him back, from 21 this month he returns to work, but everything is older. Then we went to sea, we had a wonderful four days. One morning we go to the beach, at some point I go into the sea, he stayed to bake. When I returned he was gone, he had left all his belongings. A few hours passed, I was very worried, I went crazy for fear that something might have happened to him. First I packed all my belongings at the hotel, and then I went to the nearest police station with his photos, personal documents and phone. Then I accidentally saw him in a garden lying on the grass helpless and a girl was sitting with him on the grass. I will not describe to you what I experienced while regaining consciousness, but I will describe to you what happened. He only took money, asked for a taxi and ordered cocaine. Then he stabbed this girl, I don't know how, I don't know why, they snorted unconsciously and rolled in the grass in broad daylight. He has become an animal. I don't know how to describe such a state of mind to you and what drugs have turned it into. He decided that he had to live impulsively and that he had to make spontaneous decisions. His assessments are like those of a 5-year-old child. He has sold an apartment in Belgium and until he snorts and wastes it, he will have some standard and ability to survive, as long as he doesn't die of an overdose. When he sells his house and is rejected by all his friends and loved ones, how will he live? I couldn't stand this madness, I don't even know how I got here to let this man into my life again. When he regained consciousness, I told him that we were done forever and that he would no longer look for me, even if it was a miracle and he would show up for work on the 21st. We'll just say hello and goodbye. I don't think I have any obligations to this person and I shouldn't show a gram of pity to this drug-eaten person. I don't even know how I got here to let this man into my life again. When he regained consciousness, I told him that we were done forever and that he would no longer look for me, even if it was a miracle and he would show up for work on the 21st. We'll just say goodbye and so on. I don't think I have any obligations to this person and I shouldn't show a gram of pity to this drug-eaten person. I don't even know how I got here to let this man into my life again. When he regained consciousness, I told him that we were done forever and that he would no longer look for me, even if it was a miracle and he would show up for work on the 21st. We'll just say goodbye and so on. I don't think I have any obligations to this person and I shouldn't show a gram of pity to this drug-eaten person.