We are like glued. Maybe I'm not that much in love, I don't know. But this constant presence of his drinks me. I'm at work all day, after work we're out somewhere together. Not only that, yesterday he offered me lunch together on my lunch break. I want to see some colleagues, to be in company, to diversify. He has no company of his own. Seen with individuals. He hasn't introduced me to them yet, I don't see why. I sometimes take it with friends and I have more fun that way. It's always more interesting to me in a bigger company. I love discos and big companies, no matter at work or outside of it. It's so predictable that I know what will happen by the end of the week. I know what flower he will give me, so sometimes I suggest it to be different. But it does not bring any variety. And I don't know how, but he doesn't like us being glued together. In my opinion, everyone should have some personal space. He breaks it for me quite often and I don't feel complete. I don't know if I'm spoiled or if he's rude. He always agrees with me about everything, I always have to choose where we will go, what we will order to eat and drink, how we will spend our time. I feel like we've been married for 10 years. Is there a time when you just get used to being with someone all the time and then you almost want to be stuck Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - with whom, you want in the park - with whom. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. He breaks it for me quite often and I don't feel complete. I don't know if I'm spoiled or if he's rude. He always agrees with me about everything, I always have to choose where we will go, what we will order to eat and drink, how we will spend our time. I feel like we've been married for 10 years. Is there a time when you just get used to being with someone all the time and then you almost want to be stuck? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - there is someone, you want in the park - there is someone. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. He breaks it for me quite often and I don't feel complete. I don't know if I'm spoiled or if he's rude. He always agrees with me about everything, I always have to choose where we will go, what we will order to eat and drink, how we will spend our time. I feel like we've been married for 10 years. Is there a time when you just get used to being with someone all the time and then you almost want to be stuck? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - with whom, you want in the park - with whom. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. I always have to choose where we will go, what we will order to eat and drink, how we will spend our time. I feel like we've been married for 10 years. Is there a time when you just get used to being with someone all the time and then you almost want to be stuck? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - there is someone, you want in the park - there is someone. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. I always have to choose where we will go, what we will order to eat and drink, how we will spend our time. I feel like we've been married for 10 years. Is there a time when you just get used to being with someone all the time and then you almost want to be stuck? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - with whom, you want in the park - with whom. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. in which you just get used to being constantly with someone and then you almost want to be glued? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - with whom, you want in the park - with whom. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me. in which you just get used to being constantly with someone and then you almost want to be glued? Others tell me that it was great to have a person next to you and it's very easy, you always have company, you want to go to the sea - with whom, you want in the park - with whom. But I'm fine for a walk on my own. And at sea with one person is complete boredom. Do I not need something more serious or is this not the person for me.
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I'm for personal space in a relationship. But in your case, I don't think you're in love. Leave the boy alone, he can find a decent one who appreciates him and loves him as he is. You have found someone with whom you will not be bored. He may beat you with a chat-pat, sleep with others, but he will be an alpha male. But then don't post other topics like "he treats me badly and isn't serious." And at sea with one person is not boring at all. If this is your man. And having fun is fun, yes. I guess quite young? How old are you? That's why you think so.
How many more times will you publish this story? Same thing, said differently. Just end your relationship with him after you don't like him. Obviously you don't fit.
Not only are you spoiled, but you're at the "I don't know what I want out of life" stage. Find someone who doesn't pay attention to you and exposes you everywhere, maybe he beats you to make you interesting!
Well, that's up to you. That's how you let him behave until now. No matter how hard you try to change him from now on, it will be much harder for you unless you tell him very seriously that if he continues like this, you will break up. Something that can startle him. This is his literal obsession, I don't know how you just endure.
Well, you don't seem to be for each other, you don't share common interests and views about your relationship. You seem to need a more extroverted person. But don't forget that you will have it and it won't always be what you want.
The latter, but both.
You don't love him.
It's not your fault. We humans have different emotions. You're an extrovert, he's probably an introvert. It would be difficult between you. But not impossible, but the price is a compromise on both sides, and you are not ready for such. I'm probably older than you, but let me tell you, my husband and I are already starting to fight because of the overly active social life we lead. If I decide to smell slippers at home one night, he calls to say we're invited somewhere and let's go to pubs again. If he wants to roll on the couch one Saturday, friends call to pick up theater tickets for tonight. It is already our dream for both of us to spend ten days on a deserted beach with phones turned off and no people around us. And we certainly will. You and your friend are at odds with your social needs. Your company is enough for him, and you need a bigger society. The truth is somewhere in the middle. I hope you meet there!
Yes, you are spoiled and you can't appreciate what you have. When you lose it, you will regret it and change your mind, but too late. This is how one learns the hard way.
Ahh ... and you're like the others, nothing is ever enough for you. One day you will have neither him nor your friends, then you will want to have a person next to you ...
You are dealing with a jealous man who loves you very much. :)
I think you have a different idea of a relationship in the first place. Just because you want personal space doesn't necessarily mean you don't want to or aren't ready for a serious relationship. For a large percentage of people, one does not exclude the other. It's just that he is from the other percentage of people - those who understand a serious relationship to be together 24/7, to do everything together and almost one to die if he is 2 hours without the other. The second thing that impressed me - you and your temperaments are radically different. You like big companies, to communicate with a lot of people, he is more of an introvert, at least that's how you describe him. There are two options in my opinion: 1. You separate if you think that neither of you is inclined to undergo a metamorphosis. 2. You try to break this connection of yours a little, without having to change the current situation too much, but so that there is some balance - for example, you create a rule: one night a week you must go out with a common company, one must be together but alone (whether at home or outside) and one must spend separated and everyone decides what to do. I think that's fair to everyone.
Why did you forget to say how old you are and how long you have been together. Is this a big secret?
He really isn't the man for you. Obviously you just need different things.
You're just different types. If you want time for yourself, just tell him, for example, that today you agreed with your girlfriends at a women's party, that you will go to a manicure or that you are very tired from work and think about rest - cause a lot. :) I, for example, also like to spend time with my partner, be it with his friends, in restaurants or just alone at home. Apparently you don't have many common interests and topics of conversation, since even at sea you will be bored to be both, I also agree with number 8.
I think your friend just has a hard time communicating with people. Looking at how many comments have sided with him here, I am once again convinced of how many complexes there are in our nation. At sea with one person is boring, unless the person is someone you have been with recently. My parents have been together for over 30 years and are always looking to go out with other people, not just the two of them. My mother has friends, my father has friends, and together they have married couples.
№ 11, is dealing with a complex and a jealous man, only that jealousy is not proof of love at all. This is not love, but obsession and disrespect for privacy. For me, time is vital for me and I would not tolerate such behavior for long. I speak, I explain, and if there is anyone to hear and understand - well, if not - everyone in their path.
But soon you will get tired of the companies, you will want not to get up from the TV, you will say to yourself "Why did I waste time with those rascals? What interesting things are happening in our country - a mother left because of her daughter, a bus burned down, but people survived, a policewoman was injured at the stadium, will she be fine, darling, will fuel prices rise, etc., and I don't care, I want the news and comments, to be up to date with everything! "I do just that -I always try to find out about everything! I am an introvert, I have music on my phone, I have CDs, radio, what more could I want! I don't want to be shocked somewhere where rascals go - you know what that is, I have nothing to explain to you! And your friend is right, so don't be angry with him!
You're right, you're not in love enough. A boy of 28.