My Friend Broke Up With Me Brutally

   With people like her, it's not worth living;) Let her find her, let her find someone crazy like her. You look like a good man to me, find a more worthy woman.

   I just don't understand why exactly after January 5th? Your friend's horse is biting her. It drives you crazy, then she went crazy. Don't even feel sad. She wanted to poke you in the eye, and she painted your eyebrows. Bad

   Well, I know what's in her head. It is normal to feel confused. But I think this is a confused girl who doesn't know exactly what she wants. It got better that way. If you still want to know what happened in her head. See you after the holidays, let her explain. But don't run after her whistle, she might want that too ...

   It sounds a little strange really, but everything has an explanation .. Until the 5th comes, shake and listen and see if there is no one else, to be under your radar. And don't wear it so much, calm down! D

   Nessie is worth your girlfriend as soon as she dumps you for a reason, don't bother with her and move on. Good luck .

   Either the Bad Girl is right, or the girl is "I'm scared when she gets serious." Don't care, if she was really pressured, she wasn't comfortable and somehow she just didn't feel like she was in a normal relationship, it's a lost cause. As soon as January 5 is over, ask her why she should give you an example. Just so you don't feel so sick, it's sadism, like you're being punished, and you don't know why. Zu-Za

   Men like women who know what they want, and "yours" is not one of them .... it's not even worth thinking about the behavior and, even less to want explanations .... it's pointless .. ZARA 36

   In my opinion, after 10 years of friendship, she has decided that maybe you are the man with whom she would like to have a serious relationship and family afterwards. You've been close friends and shared for so long, but when you started an intimate relationship, she may have realized that she lacked that attraction, the chemistry that should be between you, and she can't do without it. I myself was in a similar situation, but I stopped before starting a relationship with my very, very close childhood friend. Whatever happens, I hope you can keep your friendship. I could not make it. Still, think about what's important to you and be sure to talk to her, even after January 5th.

   Thanks to everyone for the answers, really. It helps me a lot to hear opinions from the side. I definitely think the right thing to do is just look for something more suitable for me. As she herself said, we are simply not on the same page. I feel very, very disappointed with the failure of our relationship, but I'm not sad because it's useless. Better now than after marriage, or even more - children ... And there are opportunities around. I will write again after the situation develops. Today it turned out that she deleted her Facebook account ...

   Would her old love come home for the holidays and leave on January 5th? And her conscience to bite her? Sarah

   You've idealized her too much, man! Definitely knocking her board! Once it starts like this from the very beginning, think about what will happen next - it will always be something she doesn't imagine.

   ... And what will she tell him so much after January 5, that the world will not end after December 21 ... but that you are naive, or young, or eternally clarifying something that ultimately doesn't matter ... 

   You're absolutely right, it doesn't matter what we talk about, because the action is more important.

   In fact, all my shock and resentment was caused by the fact that I perceive this as a relationship between two people who have known each other for ten years. Not from yesterday or that day. For me, this presupposes attention to the other's feelings and respect for him. That is, to have the responsibility and to think about what effect your action will have and how to do it best. How to say it, how to explain that you want to end this relationship. To keep the other's respect for yourself and to remain constructive after the two separate. Because you can keep in touch with this person. Besides, you don't want to create negative karma that you then have to pay off. Having behaved with so much care and respect, I have always been careful and devoted my time and money to one person, somehow I expect him to be tactful and patient and to take the time to part with me with understanding on both sides, rather than constantly telling me that he has no desire to talk to me and that it costs him a lot of patience. Especially after she tells me she wants us to break up because she only feels like a friend to me and thinks it's not fair of her.

   I am in a similar situation. Ask the author to say what happened.

   I'm sorry for you, but most of them are like that ... just don't overtrust yourself next time and always keep them on an ETERNAL probationary period.

   In my opinion, and from the short experience I have, such performances are not at all due to fear, insecurity or others. such feelings. A woman very rarely breaks up with a man if she has not found another safe party in the meantime. A few years ago I experienced exactly the same situation - a short relationship for a few months (about 3), with the difference that we did not know each other before. The relationship was perfect all the time, we didn't fight, I always behaved very well and politely with her, I pleased her, I pampered her, in a word I loved her. Then suddenly, just like that, literally from today to tomorrow, she changed drastically for no reason. She didn't want to see me anymore, she was constantly making excuses, she was constantly busy, etc. She started behaving rudely and arrogantly. Months later, I kept wondering why this happened, until I finally realized it, and with her help. It had been more than half a year since we had broken up when he wrote to me on Skype one night, repeated it a few days later, and so on several times, until he spat out the pebble. The one she had found after me had just dumped her. She spoke sweetly and gently again, not forgetting how lonely she was. However, I had already overcome her, and realizing from her how she lied to me while settling things with the other, I became even more naughty. The girl had just filled her time with me because she was alone then. On top of that, he tried to do it one more time, constantly writing to me every day for months. A similar situation is unfolding right now in front of my eyes between two people who I can't say are my friends, but let's say I'm moving in the same company. The boy cares a lot about the girl, he loves her and everything else, while she personally told me that she neither loves him nor respects him, she just uses him, even mocks him behind his back. So I advise you not to believe such goodnight talk. When you hold on to a person, you just want to be with him and you are not influenced by whether the sun shines on his left or right.

   Reply to comment 15 - nothing happened after I wrote this comment, we were at a mutual friend's wedding, I totally ignored her and had a good time with the rest of our mutual friends, we just didn't talk to them at the same time. I've seen her by chance on the street a few times, I haven't said anything because I have no desire, I'm really just glad that we broke up in time - she definitely has to solve her problems with herself.

   Whenever they leave at the beginning it is a nightmare. Then slowly a person begins to come out of the hole. And when the thrill disappears completely, you realize that your ex-partner was not exactly what you thought she was. You were just too blind to see some things.

   Dude, I've been in a situation like this. The pickle doesn't know what she wants, unfortunately she doesn't seem like a valuable person to me, and you sound like one. One tip - no matter how hard it is, delete it from phones, Facebook and let it do what it wants. You will only have white hair with such a woman ...