I am a girl of almost 16 years. Every day my father bullies and insults me. We are not together all the time, but in the moments we are together it always offends me (pig, drummer, head and what not), to be full, I see it, but what can I do? He doesn't let me go out in the evening, he scolds me and even beats me. Mom doesn't dare tell him anything about how she treats me because she's scared. He doesn't let me go on school trips. I also have a sister who loves more than me. He never tells her anything. He obviously loves her more. He buys her expensive clothes and shoes, but nothing for me. I don't want to live with him for a moment. I'm just tired of insulting and harassing me. What can I do to stop him from being mean to me and loving me? Please help me.
1 morganadams answered
In fact, your father feels attracted to you and that's why he's acting bad - he's subconscious and it's called an "incest ban." It will be fine only after you move out of you and find a friend, start a family. She treats your sister more normally because he doesn't like her as a woman. Maybe you look like your mother when you were young. These are unconscious processes in your father. He himself does not know why he treats you this way, but in reality this is normal behavior in order to avoid an incestuous relationship, and you may have idealized him as a child and not realized what he really is. Maybe he's always been rude. Anyway. You can't change your parents. He endured another 2 years and moved out. The most important thing is to be as far away from his eyes as possible, not to try to flirt or flatter him and to have your own life.