I think it's too early for cohabitation, and it's going to ruin your student years. This, of course, will understand when it's over. But you, as her mother, must support her and let her make her own decision. If you go to war, you'il lose your daughter. On the other hand, living with your friend will gain a life experience that is never superfluous. But don't give her ultimatums, don't fight with her - just support. At some point, he may abruptly step away from you and lose trust with each other. Me and my mother have only formal relationships, no trust, due to constant pressure on everything. Be smart!
She's 18 and she has to make her own decisions. It's a perfect test if things are going great, if she's not going to have the experience and looking for what she wants in the man by her side. What's the problem with living together?
They've been together for four years, if they want to, let them do it. I'm a sophomore student and almost every couple I know live together.
Yes, it is very early to live on family terms - they are very young and it is nice at university for each of them to create new acquaintances and friendships, to go out with other people, and not to encapsulate just the two.
But if she's going to live with a girl they don't get along with, she's still not well.
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What a young age people used to have children at that age. You make them infantile by forcing women and men at 18-19 these days. Let her go, she'il learn to handle herself. Be glad you won't be home until the age of 36, and more.
I guess you'il pay for the education and everything related to it/accommodation, food, etc.
I don't think you're going to stop her, since they've been together for a long time, and the time has come to move on to the next stage of their relationship.
Even if they live in different quarters, they'il only sleep in one. the other one will just pay for it so it stays empty.
Support her, maybe this is her guy.
What's wrong with him? Better to live with girls he doesn't get along with and have sex with strangers? A better option than living directly with your boyfriend, tell him. Knowing what debauchery I've seen...
It'il be easier for her to have an acquaintance, and they'il have half the neighborhood. The bad news is, he's probably going to have to watch it, they're not cooking or cleaning. But they're big let them decide. I only live with a man after the wedding. I have an acquaintance, every boyfriend in a month, pushing themselves into them to live. She lived with a lot.
This is going to be a test of their relationship. I don't see a problem, as Number 7 says - even if you don't officially allow them, they'il still live together. It is normal for a relationship to develop after 4 years together. Wouldn't you feel guilty if they split up because of this disapproval?
Just because they live together doesn't mean they're going to have children right away (if that's the worry, as I think). Today's young people aren't that stupid. Besides, it's nice to check the boy in a household environment, you don't want to live with him until after the wedding, and then put themes in a shared. net what kind of slob is, how does it not help her with anything and she wilds all day alone with the child?
Yes, it's a little early, but I think you'd better support her. I say it from this point of view that the children have been together for four years and learning, they will continue to see each other. It is better to live together than to constantly go to visit on nights, to spin schemes to free up terrain for privacy and so on. I personally remember having colleagues from the university who skipped lectures to see their girlfriends in private in the dorm. It's not desirable. Not to mention that if she and her boyfriend are in different neighborhoods, she will have to travel halfway through Sofia to see him. And that's going to happen anyway. I think it's better to support her in this decision than to worry that she's going to be traveling to see her boyfriend in the evening, that she doesn't know where she's going to sleep and what's going to happen, that she's going to miss lectures so she can be alone with him and stuff like that.
Besides, nobody said they were going to get married and have a baby right now. They just want to live together and have their relationship on a more serious stage. They might be for each other and they might like it, and they might break their heads. No one knows, but let them make their own decisions so that they can bring their own consequences (good or bad).
It's early. I guess there's a lot more rosy notions of cohabitation with a man. It's not all flowers and roses and idyll. She's just still young and doesn't know what a gift freedom and cold years are. How she's going to miss this carelessness, and to live with other girls and just enjoy being young.
Just because they've been for four years doesn't mean anything. Anyone can find another one from their colleagues, or from the city. They're just young and very romantic.
Your daughter is at least 18. I know in your eyes she's a child, but it's not really the case, and as much as you don't like it, you have to accept it without drama. What if they'd accepted her to study abroad? Now at least you know her boyfriend, and if you lived thousands of miles away, you wouldn't know who or what she was doing. So calm down and give your daughter a chance to prove to you that she's a responsible person and can handle it.
The problem, ma'am, is that you didn't raise a single person.
At your daughter's age, it's normal to make a family and children anymore. However, you are worried that he will live with a friend they have been together for four years. Apparently, you'il keep giving yourself the "kid" even after he has children himself.
It's normal for him to live and experience life. But not immediately to get her into family life (the chance to squander her chances of a good future for huge ones).
At 19, he has no real idea of life or what he wants. He's going to live with this boy, and he's going to have kids in a year or two. When her sets go out, have fun, she'il be tied to her boyfriend at home.
It's just how you doom her to a wasted life. At 19, no one knows what he wants as a partner. No one gets so young to live with someone.
She's a student and they've been together for four years, I don't know why she's looking for your approval, she's not 15. She's mature enough to make her own decisions, not you make them for her.
And I'm the mother of a daughter that age. And she has a serious boyfriend, with whom they will go along to follow next year. They'il live together. I'm very relieved by that fact. Better with him than sharing quarters with strangers. They're still together all the time - at home or at home. They go on vacations together. I don't see what bothers the author.
It's not too early for them to live together!!! Are you going to keep her under your skirt for the rest of your life? My mother was also against living with my boyfriend, I was 19, shortly before I turned 20, but in time she saw and realized that I was a big man, not a small child, and I had to deal with it myself! Everywhere in Europe and America, when you finish school, your parents pay you the first 1-2 rents for the accommodation and you move out on your own to live and get better! And so it should be, and here you're taking the kids until they're at least 30, then why aren't they capable of anything...
Let them live together, so they'il know if they're really for each other or not! When do they find out when they get married and go on a divorce in two or three years?
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It's right that young people have their youth. Student years are the best of a man. Why waste it?
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